How to not be anxious when receiving oral from a guy?

[Anonymous]

As most ladies would know, there is a massive pressure from this ideology of how women should look like down there, smell like down there and taste like down there. Now I known grown ass men (mature men) know that each lady part is different, that the taste will vary throughout the month and so does the smell. But some men (of course not all) don't really know this, and for a lot of women (including myself), we feel very insecure about receiving oral. I've had a few relationships with guys who were willing to give oral if we were to get intimate, but I always declined. Now with this new guy, he is more experienced than I am and days he would like to do it for me. He is not forcing it or anything but he wants everything to be special when I'm with him. I don't want to talk to him about it. So is there anyone that could offer some advice on how to be more confident with it? I heard some people taste themselves, but I get so scared to do it. Like I feel weird if I was to do it (even tho it's my own body). Advice please? I'm sure that I would like to experience it one day but I'm really anxious about it and feel insecure.

[DonkeyDan]

In reality an guy is going to be happy to be allowed to give you oral sex. As long as you're clean and relatively tidy the look and taste of it isn't going to be a factor and you really have nothing to worry about what so ever. I know its easy for me to say don't worry about it, but really its a far bigger deal in your head that it is in ours. Yes I agree that less experienced guys are going to take their visual ques from porn, and that is totally unrealistic, there really is no way to get around that and a more experienced guy is going to be a better bet for you, as they will know what it's meant to be like in real life. It's very similar to guy's insecurities of their size because of how some inexperienced girls could think that dicks in porn are normal too. The bottom line is we are all human, and all have insecurities.

[kumaradit]

Take it as normal as smooching lips.

What happens when you smooch a guy but don't like the smell from his mouth.
You stop.
You don't show any further interest.

In your case, just be normal and maintain the best possible hygiene. Don't eat raw garlic, onion or any non-vegetarian food at least 2 days before. Have lots of water.
Don't use any chemicals or perfume around your pussy.

Then, let your guy indulge into it.
If he continues and enjoys to do it longer... Just don't stop him.

[Anonymous]

I think the right answer is practice. It takes a bit of patience and with experience you will start to enjoy it. That's how it happened for me at least

[DaveJord]

It says your under 18, so you I don't consider you a women. And most guys your age are clueless. Once your an adult I would answer or address this question. But at this point its highly inappropriate.

[slatyb]

If you are healthy, forget about it. Has he done it before? Then he knows. If not, he will find out. There's almost no chance he's going to get a close look and be disgusted.

[RealMarek]

You have a man who wants everything to be special for you and he wants to go down on you? Why not talk with him about this. I know it might be awkward to bring it up, but being able to share this sort of thing with the person you’re sexually intimate with is very important. He is in a better position to help than anyone.

[lucas262]

I'd just assume this is her. My woman smells or tastes the way she does so make the best of It.

If there was a problem there have to hundreds of solutions. But I would insist on making part of our sex life, from what iv heard not much is going to please a woman like this can.

[Wise4myage]

By relaxing and letting yourself enjoy the experience.

[Asker]

Thank you. But how do you even get to the stage of feeling comfortable with receiving oral? It scares me so much (mainly because I'm worried how my man might feel). He wants to do it, so it's not like I'm forcing him. But at the same time, I'm worried of his perspective on my own body, if that makes sense?

[Wise4myage]

It just takes experiencing it and getting use to it. I can tell you are over thinking it, so stop doing that. c He likes how your body looks or he wouldn't be dating you. :)

[Honestguyopen]

This is why it is better to wait. You need to have time to develop and to find out what you do and don't like. If you can't be open and honest with the guy about everything then it is a waste of your time to be with this person

[2021biguy]

Just make sure you're clean and shaved and it will be fun for both of you.