Did you lose your virginity with someone you were in a relationship with, or not in a relationship with?

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I'm curious of the ratio of people who lost their virginity to a girlfriend/boyfriend, compared to losing it to someone you weren't in a relationship with.
I wasn't in a relationship with the girl I lost mine to.

Did you lose your virginity with someone you were in a relationship with, or not in a relationship with?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Voted "In a relationship with..." My girlfriend was 15 and I was 16 and it was, unlike with a lot of people, a great experience. We were lucky enough to have the time and privacy that we needed and it was great.

We lived in a small town in Michigan. My gfd's parents lived on an inland lake and they would throw a huge party every Independence Day. A Bar-b-q. Softball and darts and chatting on the lake. People would go out on boats on the dock and water ski or you would go swimming. Inside they set up a small mini-casino with a roulette wheel. It was a big event.

Then, after dark, people would take their boats out to the middle of the lake, tie them together and have dancing and watch the fireworks display. After the fireworks, more dancing and a bonfire onshore.

As I say, it was a big affair. I had been to a few before my girlfriend and I started dating - my junior year, her sophomore year, in high school.

Well, that year, we took a pontoon boat out - her parents owned one - just the two of us. We went to the middle of the lake and after the dancing and fireworks, we told everyone that we were going to stay out a bit and just star gaze.

Well, it does not take a rocket scientist to figure out what happened next. One thing led to another and we had sex for the first time in our lives. Unprotected sex, I should add, as this was not planned and teenaged hormones tend not to think very much.

It was amazing and for the next few days I was sure of three things. 1) I was a MAN!!! 2) I was totally in love. 3) My girlfriend was the girl I was going to marry, get a house with a white picket fence, have children and live the rest of my life with. I mean I wanted to be with her every second!!

Then it hit me. "Hey, what if I got her pregnant." The hormones wore off, the brain kicked in. I started to try to imagine what it meant for my education and college. How would we tell our parents?

Truth be told, if I am to be honest, there was a part of me that was okay with it. I kept thinking that I would be a good dad and I could make it work. For the most part though, I started to worry and every day I would ask my girlfriend, "Did you have IT, yet?"

The "It" being her period. She got REALLY tired of my asking that question.

However, nothing to worry about. She was not pregnant and we continued to date and have sex - albeit with condoms, except for one time a year later when we did have a serious pregnancy scare - until her freshman year, my sophomore year, in college.

My memories of her are still fond. Just that going to different colleges hundreds of miles apart made us grow apart. You grow up and the teenaged hormones wear off. Suffice to add that I am now the besotted father - with my girlfriend (we don't want to be married) - of three little Munchkins and I am living happily ever after.

Still, it is funny. It was great sex and I am still sort of surprised how, even as I was having a panic attack I was open to the idea of being a teen dad if that is what fate (and my teen hormones) had decided for me. I was scared, no doubt of it, but I was sure I was meant to do it.

Overall, it was a great - if not unmixed - experience.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

For me it was with my best friend, she lived a couple doors down, so basically my neighbour.

from about 4 we hung out with each other and learned the usual shit together growing up.

As you can imagine living inner city Newcastle, you learned stuff early.

We decided that we would lose our virginity to each other.

we were 13 at the time and not dating, although with hindsight spending most of your time with a girl and doing stuff is really dating, but back then we would have denied it.

InYourHead · Accepted Answer

I was pressured into it by an older guy. We weren't dating at the time.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

Not. We were teenagers and it wasn't what I thought it was.

jaybee281 · Answer

I accidentally voted in a relationship - I wasn't - I was just about to turn 18 - And I always told myself that I'm definitely not going to be a virgin at 18 - So I decided to sleep with a girl I knew liked me but I wasn't all that interested in - Scumbag move I know - At least I know now that the reason why I was still a virgin was because I wanted an actual relationship and not someone random - And I don't know how that makes my scumbag move better but whatever

katiesmuff · Answer

I was not in a relationship with the guy I first fucked

RobT312 · Answer

I was in a relationship and we were both virgins. We loved each other and were very ready to have sex but I think it ultimately was a factor in killing the relationship. We were each other’s first but eventually wanted to know what sex would be like with other people.

Apple1996 · Answer

We were dating but it happened extremely early in the relationship like within the first month of it

NathanDavis · Answer

technically we were not... but our souls were, so yes, that's what matters...

AllieAnswersThings · Answer

Definitely not in a relationship with him. Definitely regretted it.

AviatorTom · Answer

It was during a summer fling after a blind date, a relationship never really started

t-8900 · Answer

I was not, no. But I also didn't have a say in it.

bean2k21 · Answer

Kind of in between
I thought I was in a relationship
Until one time I was doing her on the floor
And some guy pulls up in her driveway
And starts honking his horn
I found out later
That my best friend only hooked me up
With her because she went to his school
And her nickname was 'Backseat Kathy'
All you had to do was pull up
In her driveway
And honk your horn
And she'd come out and have sex with you

TacosRAwesome · Answer

We were in a relationship for about 2 years after but I'm unsure if we actually we're in a relationship when it happened.

kindaofawh0re · Answer

When I lost we were not together but got together shortly afterwards

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

I am still a virgin even know that had 9 ex boyfriend. i am not that instersted in sex or don't find as imporment.

verylovelyguy · Answer

paid sex at massage parlor

Libarena · Answer

Not really in a relationship. Kind of a short-term fling relationship.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I lost it to someone with whom I ended up in a relationship, but we were not yet dating when it happened.

Stan_Control_ · Answer

It was with a stranger.

moviedude714 · Answer

I vote B

jahaims · Answer

Dated for 6 months first.

RebeccaSJ · Answer

I was in a relationship with him.

Honestguyopen · Answer

Waited till marriage

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