Guys, how many women do you see daily that you want to have sex with?

[Anonymous]

I watched a video where a woman asked her husband how many women does he see daily that he would have sex with. The husband said it can be up to 50 women.

I’m really trying to understand the male brain, but I find this borderline gross. I don’t get how a man can look at THAT MANY women and think he wants to have sex with them. I don’t view men in that way at all. I see men that are good looking but I don’t look at them on a sexual level. I never think “Oh, I would have sex with him.” Is this true and how many women do you see?

[MrOracle]

In a SHOCKING twist, you've discovered that men are DIFFERENT from women! Wow! Whoda thunk it? LOL.

You'll be shocked to learn that this behavior is pretty normal among mammals. In the wild, there is a shortage of males in mammals, because males FIGHT over the females, and they often fight to the death. The winning male adds one or more females to his harem, and the losing male dies. And this happens fairly often, so eventually you have males with 5 or 10 females, and a bunch of dead males.

A cattle farm may have thousands of cows, but only a couple of bulls. A pride of lions will have one male and up to a dozen females.

In humans, there was historically a constant shortage of males due not just to wars, but also to hunting, fishing, and dangerous jobs such as construction, mining, sailing, and farming. And for nearly all of human history, a woman could not survive very long on her own - the world was simply not a safe enough place for that, between criminals and dangerous animals and the sheer strength needed to survive daily life in most of the world, which at the time was almost entirely rural. In the last few centuries, there was enough law and order in a handful of major cities that women could survive on their own, but in most cases it wasn't considered a "good life" unless you were a member of the nobility (but noble women were generally married off in arranged marriages).

All of this meant that male humans evolved to desire multiple women, and to "spread our seed." That was necessary, because the alternative would have been a bunch of women who would have ended up alone in a world where that was a death sentence. Instead, men would take multiple wives and take care of those women and the children he had with them. This is a big piece of the puzzle that allowed humans to survive, while other pre-human species went extinct.

But, yes, it means that men desire sex (not relationships, not feelings, not connections, but SEX) with lots of women. For the most part, of a man sees a woman, and she's at least a 4 or 5 out of 10 to the guy, he'd have sex with her if she was willing. In the context of modern society, men still very much have these desires, but we're forced to control our actions despite our instincts telling us to go for it, and that's not easy for most of us, and it's also kind of depressing.

I realize that, as a woman, you can't really separate sex from feelings and having a connection with a man, so I get why you feel the way you do, but men ARE able to separate sex from feelings, and while we like having feelings for someone, we NEED sex, and that sex does NOT need to involve feelings for us to want it or enjoy it. Sure, sex is better when feelings are involved, just as a hamburger patty is better with salt & pepper - but when we're "starving" for sex, we'll happily eat that burger plain.

The important thing is that you cannot simply project a female's perspective onto a man and expect to understand how men work - because males operate under a very different set of rules, with different desires and perspectives than you've got. Neither are "right" or "wrong", they're just different, because they're optimized around our very different roles in survival and reproduction.

[ArchivalMars2]

Well, the number thing can vary between guys really, as for how many women they would see that they want to have sex with? The short version is that a lot of guys just want to do it with these women just for the act and the physical feeling, it's got nothing to do with emotional feelings or actually knowing the woman when it comes to that sort of thing. Really, all the guy has to see is a woman that he finds very attractive and that will just about do it and probably make him start thinking of having sex with her.

Me personally, I'm very picky, I've seen plenty of women that I find attractive but honestly, I've got a type that I stick to really. Now how many I see that I want to have sex with? Maybe like two or three every other week or so? Again I'm really picky which is why I'm single really, been thinking of whether or not to rethink my tastes.

[God_of_Thunder]

One: my girlfriend

Don't get me wrong, I see attractive women all the time, and I have a very high sex drive, but I'm only interested in relationships. I can be in a room with dozens of attractive women, and the only person I think about having sex with is the one I have at home.

I want more than just a beautiful body. I want that emotional connection, too. Since I have no feelings for any random women, there is no desire to have sex with them.

[GreenLanternI0I]

I enjoy looking at a lot of beautiful girls/women, BUT I am very picky when it comes to procreating with them. If she is not my type of girl/woman that get's my heart racing, I won't imagine having sex with them. So for me, number is very Very low.

[slatyb]

Many. I saw one today working in Elliott Bay books -- perfect strawberry blonde in bangs.

[275153]

Live?

[snackthatsmilesback]

That's not a problem I have, fortunately. I have met several guys who say they always see attractive women sexually. Honestly it kinda creeps me out. Anyone can see my wife when she's out, and some of them have just fuckin fucked her in their heads and she doesn't know and I don't know. It's just weird. I don't like it.

[Raidernation01]

Up to 50 sounds about right. I work at a bank and there's about five women that work here that I would be lucky to be with. Plus all the clients with their leggings and no bra. At the end of the day I don't usually have trouble thinking of some hot girl that I saw that day when masturbate.

[VikingWarLord]

Monogamy isn't natural for us. Look at all the other primate mammals / mammalians. None of them are monogamous, especially our closest animal relatives the Chimps and Bonobos who share 98% the same DNA as humans. They have casual sex with tons of partners, masturbate, etc.. etc..

Monogamy has been such a disaster for thousands of years. It's time that it be put to rest in the trash-heap of history. Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan and expand your mind.

[MysticDevice]

See, we may think "oh I'd do her" about attractive women we see in public, but should they walk up and offer it we wouldn't do it.

And don't even try and tell me that women don't think the same thing when a hot guy walks past them lol. Cause I know beyond any doubt that you ladies do that too. I have seen it first hand. Perhaps not you specifically but its just human instict to think like that.

[Jamie05rhs]

That I wouldn't mind having sex with hypothetically? Probably like 10, if I'm in a highly populated area for a considerable amount of time.
(But I don't really think about them like that. My brain doesn't process the thought completely. I usually just ignore them, and sometimes I barely even see them.)


That I want to have sex with ACTUALLY? Zero.

[Jamie05rhs]

After reading your second paragraph, I think I agree with you. I think we're pretty much on the same page. Because there ARE guys who would actually see a girl and think "I want to have sex with her"... and then they actually TRY to have sex with her! I call them neanderthals.

[Wise4myage]

I live out in the country, so only a few.