My husband is a stereotypical geek/nerd. However, I have noticed lately... He becomes very focused when an actress showa her titties in any movie/series. As if he moved from sci-fi to any comedy like movie / action that includes erotica. He doesn't watch the film... He literally stares at the TV. I'm his wife, but I'm he's second woman he has sex with. He didn't really 'experience' other female bodies. Should I leave him and let him enjoy? Or should I ask... I know my body is nothing like theirs - will never be - but are you staring out of curiosity as to how their genitalia looks like, or are you admiring a beauty I'll never be able to offer you?
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Cctracy1Xper 1
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That is an extremely good question. You must take a step back from yourself to see the true answer though. You're looking at the situation as his wife and partner... the reality of it all is that you aren't being compared or judged or held up to these women at all. It is just human nature for the male gender to be pulled into sex. Be it on TV magazines whatever. It is the lizard brain that is triggered... not the frontal cortex and evolved brain. We have 3 brains. The one that makes your heart beat and eyes blink, the one that does fight or flight or... boobs (lizard brain), then the evolved brain that is self aware and thinks. So he can't help it but when he does look at that stuff he isn't holding you up in any way to these women. Have you ever thought about letting erotic media into your relationship? It may give him the experiences he missed without having to go and try them.
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WOW!!! Where have you gained all this knowledge? I have never felt so reassured an at ease. Thank you.
Cctracy1
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Well history degree but I just love learning and I love seeing what makes people them.. getting into their heads in a passive educational way. Not like nefariously
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I enjoy it as well... But my knowledge doesn't apply when I look at my own life lol
Anonymous
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It's likely your husband is engaging in fantasy, and that's normal. Not just of men, but of women too. We all fantasize from time to time. I'm sure you've had fantasies of your own. Fantasies are fun, but that's all they are. He's unlikely to be making comparisons, nor does having a fantasy mean that you are not satisfied with reality. Don't let your insecurities create conflict where none need be.
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Wow... That's a really powerful reply. Thank you so very much.
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kyleelyn199723Guru
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Hey whenever there’s a naked woman on tv, I stare also. It’s just there and it’s abnormal to see on tv, may be even a little awkward seeing naked bodies on tv with your partner there. As long as he isn’t making comments about the bodies regardless how hot they are, I don’t see an issue here
I wouldn't worry about. I know "we can't help it" is a cliché and stupid explaination but I don't know what else to say lol.
Try finding a movie for both of you to watch that has naked dudes in it and do exactly what he does and see if he notices. It may just become an innocently spicy thing between you two lol
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SAMI_DABBABExplorer
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I don't think it's innocent but probably changes nothing, like if I stare at tits on a screen I'm definitely interested or enjoying it, can't be curiosity, at least for me...
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jascoGuru
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Well like me, he's been a shut in most of his life so he more than likely just doesn't have the experience of seeing many women. No don't leave him. he loves you, but he just likes looking at the women on tv. I think you should tell him to learn how to control his habits.
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TwalliMaster
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We like naked or semi naked girls
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Luckycharms12Guru
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Sounds like normal guy we all do
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Anonymous
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Why do you need to leave to let him enjoy?
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Never said I'm leaving him. :)
Opinion Owner
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You literally said... “Should I leave him and let him enjoy?“
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As in leave him alone that he can enjoy the view. :)
Anonymous
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Guys look.. Seriously, if you're considering leaving him over this, you never really loved him in the first place.. And guess what.. Regardless of what you say here, regardless of weather or not in a relationship, Women look too.
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I never said I'm leaving him. :)
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My apologies. I had an ex that i dated once that basically said i was cheating any time i looked at a spicy scene in a movie, or happened to glance at anyone of the opposite sex. She felt like masturbation was cheating.. And finally she felt like looking at anything of the opposite sex naked was cheating, Be it in video form or in a magazine.
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No worries. Really. I had to hear from others... As I had a big suspicion that it's my own insecurities... AGAIN.
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