Sexual Relationships
+1 y

What happens during a "private dance" at a strip club?

My fiancé had a bachelor party last night, and his friend's girlfriend told me that he had a private dance. She wasn't there but her boyfriend (my fiancé's friend) told her. My fiancé went with the stripper to another room, and came back after 10 minutes apparently. I have never been to a strip club or know any strippers, so I'm really confused. What usually happens during private dances? Is it okay that he did that or not?
0 0

Most Helpful Guys

  • It not only depends on the specific club he went to, but the type of dance they do or he got. Chances are good it's just that, private and it's an up close view for him. Basically she just dances for him (like on stage), but right in front of him. Usually no touching is allowed at all. Some clubs have VIP dances, which are the same but there might be some physical contact. Usually this is just her dancing still, but she might sit on his lap, or get a bit closer. Often there's still no touching allowed, sometimes depending on the club (or girl), he might be allowed to touch her a little bit (often anywhere but the vagina). But these dances again, depend on the club (some don't do these at all), and some of the girls won't do them either, or even "scam" the guys (you get back there and then she doesn't let you touch her). But in your case, most likely it was the first dance, where she just dances in front of him. No touching or contact of any kind. Don't worry about it.

  • For starters there's no sex. So don't worry about that happening. Depending on the money and type of club determines how far the stripper would go. The most that could have happened is full nudity and grinding on your boyfriend.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

Related Questions

Does sex actually feel different without a condom?
As a man, do you like giving anal? As a woman, do you like getting anal? How was your first anal experience? How did it feel?
Beside your own, who pussy or dick did you first touch? How did it feel? What was going on in your mind at that moment?
“The longer a man waits for the cookie, the more he values a woman after he gets it.” Guys, true or false?

What Girls & Guys Said

3 11

  • Private dances are nothing more than a girl giving you a lap dance in a private seat. He will remained fully clothed, and he is typically forbidden from kissing, touching certain areas, or being too aggressive, or the bouncer will punt him out of the club.


    Prices vary, but my experience is about $20-30 for a single song. It’s not a huge deal.

  • It's harmless. Believe me, not only didn't he do anything, he CAN'T do anything.
    That's part of the fun with it - it excites a guy but he can't touch her. It's all a giant tease.

  • They don’t have sex. He’s not going to leave you for her. Only you can decide if it’s ok. It’s not a threat to your relationship.

  • Depends on club.

    Can be anything from a lap dance, to non-penetrative sex.

  • It's just a lap dance, usually fully clothed.

  • The Truth Behind Being An Exotic Dancer

  • dance and blow job

  • Yes its fine

  • If it's a reputable place, probably nothing more than her ass grinding in his lap. Every place I've been to - which is admittedly only a few - had rules about everything. I think one time I had a dancer put my hands on her breasts, but she initiated that.

    Otherwise - nothing too exciting.

    However, my experience has only been in maybe three places, once or twice each. YMMV.

  • My ex went to a bachelor's party as well (didn't break up for that but because he didn't like I am bi) and a friend told me the same! First of all, I don't love when people come up to me and tell me these things because I think it's very disrespectful and could potentially lead to relationship fights. I didn't get mad anyways because even if she gave him oral I knew he would never pay a girl to have sex (guys don't go to strip clubs to get sex they would go to brothels or search up for escorts and pay them way less for sex)
    I think you shouldn't be upset. Plus, you know how guys are... they just wanna cum so don't worry about them being horny the whole time... it's natural. He felt horny he got a private show where he saw tits and pussy but to actually touch it you gotta pay a lot like 2-300 pounds so I don't think he would do that.
    If we are in relationships we shouldn't have trust issues and we should trust our men a bit more.
    Peace 💖

  • Nothing, it's just the typical stuff behind a curtain so that dudes feel more compelled to give them more money because she is paying attention to them and makes them feel as if they are somehow special.

    Strippers aren't prostitutes, they don't have a need to whore themselves for a few extra bucks.
    And they most certainly don't do extra for "guys who they think are cute", that's wishful thinking and locker room talk.

  • If it's a high-end VIP room he'll be allowed to feel and suck her boobs, he'll be allowed to take his penis out and she'll definitely make him cum with her hand or her mouth or grinding on him.

    If it's some roadside strip club she will grind on him in panties with him clothed and he will probably cum in his pants. If he pays less money than that she'll dance over him but not grind on his penis, maybe on his legs a little and he can't touch anything.

    Full sex unlikely but possible in a VIP room with enough money. Massage parlor girls do full sex for a few hundred dollars.

  • Usually just grinding from what I've heard

  • He had some balls even going with this hoe to a stripper private room. I can tell you right now if they paid her well, He was allowed to touch and feel and and her too and in 10 minutes, probably got a pussy and dick feel. I am grossed out and you should be too. Drop this guy. He is bad news. And I bet no masks. Should have social distanced anyways. Get him checked.

    • What is your problem? It's not like that at all! Or, did you do it for a living and have some personal experience that you can impart to us?

    • @abc3643 cheating it is cancelled, dude. none of my own. no man dare. hahaha

Latest Questions

Would you wait for sex till your marriage?
How can we make positions with her on top less tiring?
Thoughts on this little teasing before penetration?
What do you do if your lover farts?😁?
Home >  Sexual Relationships  > What happens during a "private dance" at a strip club?