Guys, why is it a turn off if your girlfriend is threatened by other women?

[Anonymous]

Whether it’s porn, looking at other women in public, etc. It seems men get annoyed when a woman is bothered by them doing these things. However, I think it should be seen as a compliment and flattering. If a woman doesn’t like you doing this, she clearly wants you and doesn’t want to lose you.

I already know “self esteem” will be brought up. Well, some girlfriends have enough awareness and analysis to know the women their boyfriends look at are clearly more attractive. We’re going to feel threatened because these women are prettier and you may leave because you can do better.

[LesterJester]

In my experience, ex girlfriends from the past would go beyond just jealousy, to straight out paranoia, like looking through my computer while I'm at work to find any shred of anything to start a fight.

For the record, I never cheated on anyone because I wouldn't want someone to do that to me (despite two exs in the past cheating on me)

In all of my relationships, I was perfectly fine if my partner wanted to watch porn or checked out other guys. Looking and fantasy are one thing. Taking action is a whole other story. As far as I'm concerned, we all look at others and check others out, regardless of a relationship or not. We like attractive things and we all will fantasise or run some "what ifs" in the mind. That's healthy and ok.

What isn't is when all of that takes the front seat to your actual partner, or doing stuff that leads to cheating.

Regarding your question, it does annoy me, because that jealousy and anger over looking at others (whom would never be a chance at being something real, thus fantasy and OK) tosses guilt upon you to make you feel bad over something that never happened or will never happen. It usually creates arguments over nothing and thus, a whole lot of extra work in managing crap.

To me it's not a turn on at all, but comes off as a level of controlling how you act, how you live and generally, controlling your life. At the end of the day, when I'm with my partner, I'm with them, not someone else. I chose to be with them because I want to be with them and not someone else.

When having sex, like a stereo typical guy, I have a one track mind. I might have checked someone else out or watched porn in the past, but in the here and now, all I can concentrate on is what is in front of me... My partner, pleasuring her and making sure we both have a good time. Whatever else I may have looked at earlier is gone from the mind. Those things only help to toss sex on the brain. Once I'm with my partner, she's the only one I can concentrate on.

[MossyMan]

Because people don't care if you want them.
People care about wanting you.
And if you keep validating the notion that those women are better than you... well then you are convincing them that they can do better.

Insecurity is awfully unattractive, it's up there with cheating and trying to stab me with a kitchen knife in the list of "yuck" traits.

[mark000h]

Same reason why it would be a turn off for a guy to be jealous with his girlfriend.

[VikingWarLord]

I take advantage of those insecurities because I'm hot enough to bag hotter women with nice bodies and bigger t! ts. While that may seem to backfire, it actually doesn't. I've cheated on every ex with small t! ts for example, and a few found out. Everytime, those chics I cheated on ended up wanting me MORE and one even became my CuckQuean BDSM Submissive. I was bangin other chics but still forced her to only fuuck with me and no other dudes.

[donnny2367764]

I don't think it's a turn off, it's certainly insecurity but I always make sure to make that insecurity go away once in bed. I always go the extra mile when it comes to women feeling insecure

[2021biguy]

I think it should understood by both sides that both people want to be only be with each other. But jealousy shouldn't get out of control. If you are bothered tell him you clearly want him and don't want to lose him, that should clear things up.

[nudeNhorny]

I actually love the jealous type of lady, she makes me feel her love to me and her desire of me to be her and only her.

[man_n_monroe]

Jealousy is usually a projection of your feelings.. "how you would react if the places were reversed"...