Why do so many movies normalize the sexual assault of men?

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I was watching this Christmas movie with my aunt and mom, it was family friendly and rated PG but this one scene disturbed me a lot.

Basically this woman was making sexually charge advances on this guy (who look like he obviously didn’t like them) being kissed without consent.

It even went far enough to where the woman started proceeding to tongue kiss him, I didn’t think much of it at first but later on when I really started thinking about it I began to find it very disturbing. Why was a movie meant for kids playing sexual assault against men for laughs?

I’ll show the clip down bellow so you can get a better understanding of why I was concerned.

(The clip starts at the time stamp 1:12:45

https://youtu.be/KCH3kv3Kov8

WhatThaPhucc · Accepted Answer

I don't know but I can't be sexually assaulted by a woman since I'm attracted to every woman, I will like/ love it.. maybe a man can sexually assault me... But if a woman "sexually" assaults me I will love it.. and I'm not sure if you can consider something you love that happend as "assault"

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

This movie is not meant for kids. It's meant for women  Billy Baldwin... I remember him when we were kids. And Denise Richards!

MrOracle · Answer

Male suffering is rarely taken seriously or cared a lot about, especially if the male isn't dashingly handsome. You see examples of that in media constantly - it's surprising you even noticed it because it's so common that most people don't even recognize what they're seeing - but their brains are so used to seeing it that they get the message that "this is okay." I'm not sure how you were able to "break through the Matrix" and notice this, but, yeah, it's not uncommon at all.

Men are far from perfect, and many men do terrible things - but bad things happen to perfectly good, perfectly innocent men too, and when a woman is doing it, the attitude always seems to be "well, he deserved it" or "hahaha, he's weak and pathetic." You almost never hear anyone say "that's just wrong!"

OpenClose · Answer

I mean our view of sexuality is all messed up. Here are some specific factors that contribute to normalized sexual assault of men:
- When it comes to sex, women are seen as the desirable gender and simply "putting up with" or "dealing with" gross male sexuality.

- At the same time, men are seen as the undesirable sex, and any of the gracious sexuality of a woman is either something had to "fight for" and "win", or a gracious gift that he can't turn down because "it's more than he deserves" or "he should be so lucky"

- Similarly, writers would generally have a difficult time eliciting sympathy from a man traumatized by sexual assault. They've gotten better recently, and Perks of being a Wallflower did a good job of this. But it's the exception. If the character were female, she would simply have to say "he had his way with me" and it would pack more of an emotional punch than an entire scene with a man as the victim.

I've been held down on a bed by a woman in one case, and my crotch was grabbed by a woman at work once. I mean, these things didn't "traumatize" me beyond getting me irritated at the double standard. But it was people's reactions that got me. Things like "it doesn't matter because your gender has power" or "it's awful sexist of you to judge a woman like that for expressing her sexuality. She was just lonely."

What's annoying is that it's hard to even talk about this without being called anti-woman or anti-feminist. I would argue that dismissing these things so easily makes them less feminist and more anti-woman for completely dismissing women's agency, and being unwilling to acknowledge or address a sexist double-standard.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I mean it's normalized as a whole because most guys are desperate and fictionally hope for a girl to come onto them like that.  Therefore we just see as thing we want to happen until it actually does.

goaded · Answer

I can't see the video, is it "Christmas Trade"?

If it's supposed to be an 11 year old child in a man's body, it's probably meant to be showing a child's reaction to being kissed, the man would react differently.

Anonymous · Answer

It's just one of the many double standards where females are protected and viewed as victims but males are not.

Why do so many movies normalize the sexual assault of men?

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