Why guys can't finger me properly?

I never met one who could do it properly but my friends did and I feel like I should lower my expectations...
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  • I have no idea. All I can say is that I made a significant effort to learn about women's bodies and to develop my technique. When I want to do something, I feel like doing it WELL is the only way to go, and if that requires research and learning and feedback, so be it.

    I suspect that the guy's you've chosen simply haven't been willing to put in that level of effort. Some may simply be ignorant (not knowing enough about women's bodies), but many weren't willing to make enough effort to learn, or to make the effort in the moment to employ the techniques they know work best.

  • They dont know how to curl the finger to g spot

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  • I think you should have conversation with the guy next time. Most men just know how to feel the pleasure and never focus on how to give pleasure. I personally am pretty interested to give oral to my partner but my ex was so shy that she never gave me a chance to lick her.

  • Lack of specific instruction and feedback, mostly. It's a skill that needs practice, like any other, and it's not like they can try it on themselves. Tell him what you like; you'll get better results.

  • Since men and women have completely different body parts, neither know what is perfect for the other. In fact, it isn’t even possible for one to know what an orgasm feels like to the other

  • They can’t read your mind. You have to let them know what is working and what is not. If you do, but they ignore you, then find a more considerate lover.

  • I am neither trolling nor being argumentative. How would you describe proper fingering?

    • Simply experienced and knowing how to please me.

    • Have you attempted to coach a guy? That actually can flatter us.

    • @asker And the guy is just supposed to know how to please you somehow?

  • Instead of complaining, turn it into a teaching moment...

    Let the guy know what works and doesn't work for you. Show him by fingering yourself the way you like it. Most guys like to learn what the girl likes. Pleasuring her is also pleasure for us guys.

  • That's a good question, but I can't give a straight and simple answer. Fingering a woman one loves (!) is first of all a matter of loving to do it, and having enough trust in each other to get correct feedback. A matter of trust, love, and communication. That's why I think how important it is for people of any gender to dare and talk about masturbation. Still a very big stupid taboo. By the way, it is one of my greatest pleasures to masturbate a lady...

  • You’ll need to teach them. We aren’t born knowing how to please our lover.

  • I would think you may have to show them the proper technique on how to do so

  • Same reason that women aren't good at giving handjobs; because men don't have vaginas. A lot of women aren't super comfortable with expressing their sexual needs, so there's a tendency to just fake enjoyment instead of telling the guy how they want to be touched in the hope it'll get better some day.

  • Possibility of a retroverted vagina can change the typical geometry that some guys might be used to.

  • can you finger yourself properly?

  • You gotta teach your partner. They're not gonna automatically know how you like it done.

  • You have to teach them. It’s not a hard skill to master

    • You look cute I'll let you master whatever you like🤭

    • After a compliment like that I expect you to follow me so I can get my revenge :p

    • Done daddy 😳

  • I just do it very gently around the pussy until the girl wants it closer or more pressure or inside.

    • 😍😍😍😍

    • I can go into more detail if you want 😍

  • Have you tried showing guys how its done? What about trying mutual masturbation?

  • I can.

  • Every girl I've been with says I am the best at fingering. I don't think I do anything that special. I'm not sure why it is so hard.

  • teach him what you want he will never know otherwise say hey do it this way if you want to get me off. every one of us likes it different so if you want fun learn and teach.

  • Because we don't have a pussy to practice it on

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