Ex fucked other girls during no contact breakup , wants me back?

So me and my ex broke up and we are both in uni , we had no contact for four months and he obviously slept with others , and whatever , we begin to get back in contact for ‘ closure’ at least I thought it’s closure , and after he pops up for a few days and Idm having him as a friend , but he constantly says he misses me he knows he fucked up I won’t let him back but he can try. It’s resurfacing my pain and I can’t get over how he left and lived his life and after living his life he now ‘misses me’ . We broke up cuz circumstances were shit for us and little problems adding on top.
I don’t understand how you love someone yet leave and sleep with others? Am I just dumb or?
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Superb Opinion

  • It was a breakup right? So what you want both to carry: guilt and unforgiveness or apology and love?

    If you want to move on, you should forgive him, then tell him it's time to move on. Try not to make him feel guilty otherwise your road to recovery will be slow.

    If you want to stay, negotiate terms. Then forgive and make out. No point talk about a past that cannot be changed.

    Hence in my opinion, it's no more about him because it's the past. It's about you. To forgiveness not to forgive. To break or not to break. (You can forgive and break.)

Most Helpful Girl

  • Since you two were broken up, he was within his right to have sex with other women. However, I think it says a lot about how quickly he jumped to doing all that. One girl is one thing, but multiple? He may have been chatting these women up while you were in a relationship, to have them so readily at his disposal. The sad part is, you probably only mourned in those 4 months. Maybe you tried moving on date-wise but certainly not hopping into bed so fast. Anyway, if his actions are too unsettling for you then maybe you should let him go. No one on here or irl has to agree with your choice — it’s yours to make, and learn from. So do what feels right, and don’t have regrets about it.

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  • What do you mean 'he obviously slept with other blah blah blah' Is it a fact that he fucked other girls, or is this what YOU believe in your head?

    • The fact he fucked other girls , partied lived his best life and he has the audacity to come back?

    • You didn't answer my question which means you have no proof.

    • He told me himself when I asked

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • What is dumb is maintaining contact with him. How can you move forward when you are looking behind you at your past?

  • Y'all were broken up and went no contact. You can feel however you want to feel about it, but it's not like he did anything wrong or disloyal to you.



  • The smart thing to do
    Is torture him
    He screwed up, don't get back together
    Make his miserable
    No, wait that's what i would do

  • Did you do it with others too in that time?

    • No , I didn’t at all I didn’t even talk to other guys I was too hurt

    • Yeah then ditch him

    • Thought so too

  • or... what?

  • I would say to move on, because he did so quickly.