What happened? did I have sex too quick? like sorry I really wanted it?

[Anonymous]

hello guys or girls this is my first question. so i'm recently single for about 3 months now. i've never really done the whole dating apps or casual hook ups.
ok so to the question i had my first actual meet up from a dating app. me (22) and the guy (19) we texting for about 3 days... i know that's not long. i did initiate first message, i thought he was cute, he responds quickly and we text all day and with fast responses which i really liked. we both told each other we liked and were interested in each other he gave me his phone number to text him instead. at least it wasn't snapchat or instagram which i don't really use or prefer.
so we're texting now and liking each other. it's getting very late now around 1am. i tell him i'm having drink with my girlfriend (unexpectedly)
we were still texting. we start talking about seeing each other and so i reconsider why not? i would like to cuddle
so i go over to his place which he lives alone in a private room. ok so we watch 2 movies and cuddle and make out all night until we fell asleep. we wake up in the morning still liking each other we watch music videos, more making out, i'm loving it. and i'm really turned on.. a lot.. like i really wanted sex ok.
so we get to having sex we TRIED A COUPLE TIMES? he would quickly stop after only a few seconds so my hunch is that he was going to cum quickly? guys is this a reason to be embarrassed or not want to talk to the girl anymore? i think he came because i kinda felt it. during he said things like "it just feels too good", "we just have to have sex more times and it will get better" i told him i still really liked it. we stopped and cuddled a bit longer until he took me home (3pm) he told me to text him. i will attach picture of our last few messages. but fr why would he stop talking to me? did i have sex with him too quick? was he embarrassed?
i'm just so inexperienced in this so advice for future would also be helpful
thank you

[Anonymous]

So many things to address with this one. From a pure safety standpoint, yes, it was definitely WAY too soon to go to some random guy's private bedroom. It sounds like you had never even met the guy in person. Do you have any idea how incredibly dangerous that is?

Second of all, I sure hope you used a condom. It kinda sounds like you didn't since you said he came really fast and you kinda felt it. Immediate safety concerns aside, there are tons of possible diseases and the matter of pregnancy to worry about. Oh and by the way, condoms don't prevent all STIs.

As for what I think you're really asking, it depends on what you're looking for. If you're just looking for sex, then timing doesn't really matter. If you're looking for more than sex, then it was WAY too soon. You haven't even gone on one date. But at this point, I think you should consider yourself lucky that he wasn't a psycho serial killer, pray that you don't get any STIs, and stop worrying so much about whether or not the guy likes you. You have bigger fish to fry at this point.

[Asker]

sheesh i guess you're right in ways but don't worry i'm safe

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not really sure how you can know you're safe, but please be careful, always tell a friend where you're going, use protection and get tested regularly.

[bigbluey]

Hey you need to stop beating yourself over the head! your conclusion that he was embarrassed because he cummed to quickly doesn’t really make sense. Why would he be making out with you if he doesn’t want sex? He must know that if he makes out then it would eventually lead to sex so he probably would have stopped. I think he’s just a little “crowded” right now. He’s probably trying to figure out how to please you and you are being a little pushy. Slow yourself down and remind yourself the end of the world is not here!

[Asker]

aww thank you. ok i guess but i was even thinking what if i forced him or assaulted him💀

[Asker]

i got the hint of course i won't message him again

[bigbluey]

You definitely didn’t assault him and no you shouldn’t stop messaging him just slow it down a bit and give him some time

[PeterSmith1983]

He was very very lucky with you on the date but yes I think embarrassed how quick he would cum. I would just see as compliment how horny you make him... maybe you tell him you find it horny he cums very quickly first time in or on you before continuing with fucking you and cumming a couple of more times

[Asker]

yeah i probably couldve used my voice to communicate better thank you for the advice

[PeterSmith1983]

To communicate and make him less embarrassed about him cumming so fast. Just tell him how horny it makes you to make him cum so fast and then fuck again after. Make it look for him its a plus rather as a minus. I assume at least that he can do other round after cumming fast the first time

[bean2k21]

You have to train him to have more stamina
Like don't be afraid to lock him in a cage
Deprive him of food
Ask him for permission to move or touch you
Just dominate his entire mind

[Asker]

lol thank you i will keep that in mind

[In_Trance]

he's a kid

[Asker]

true /;