She doesn’t want to see me anymore because I’m very bad at sex. is it stupid thing over it?

[Anonymous]

That she’s get sick of my “infamous unpleasant jackhammer sex” business lol! WTF? She look enjoyed to me.

[slatyb]

She's not enjoying the relationship, you are a shitty lover, and you aren't entitled to her continued attention.

Presumably she told you before and you did nothing, proving you don't care about her feelings. Now she's dumped you, and you are surprised?

[Asker]

Nah it’s not first time that she dumped me. I’m sure she will come back again. Guess she can’t live without my big dick or perhaps more than that 🤣

[Anonymous]

It’s called faking, and it’s far more common than you think lol. She probably was hoping it would get better, or maybe you were just off or something, but after seeing for a while that it wasn’t changing, she got over it. I’m not saying she’s right for that, because she definitely should’ve spoken up and said something so you guys could figure out what she likes. But she probably didn’t know how to tell you or want to hurt your feelings. Regardless, don’t take it as a blow to your ego or self esteem or anything, just ask more questions with the next girl you hookup with, rather than doing what you perceive as amazing or enjoying it a lot.

[Asker]

I assume you I can take it no matter how harsh they says things about me.

[Opinion Owner]

But see, that’s an assumption. You have to be verbal and ask, not just go in “jackhammering” like your partner is some blow up doll. This is a real person, dude. So respect and acknowledge her presence rather than doing what you think feels good.

[Asker]

Blow up doll? Haha 😂 well doesn’t everybody loves jackhammer sex, right? If she doesn’t want it then all she gotta say it! Except she didn’t, I assume she probably don’t mind

[Opinion Owner]

I say blow up doll because you are treating her like an inanimate object screw how you want, rather than your girlfriend that you ask about these things. Not everyone loves jackhammer sex. For some people it can actually be very uncomfortable and painful. Maybe your ex has tolerated the sex, and sure, sometimes it probably felt good. But for the most part it probably didn’t, and you can’t be too proud to acknowledge that. You say all she has to do is say it, but she did, you wrote it down yourself and it’s why you broke up. You can’t just create your own narrative in mind because you want to make assumptions on how she’s feeling, or you’re too appalled to believe what she’s said to you. If she does come back, and you guys hook up again, slow down and ask simple questions, like if it’s feeling good, are you hurting her, what would she like you to do more or less of, etc. This is how you acknowledge a woman and make it a pleasurable experience for you both.

[Opinion Owner]

Not to mention she could get a UTI or horrible abdominal pain because of cervix. So this is more than about your ego, it’s about making sure she feels good too.

[Leonharted]

If she liked it, she wouldn't be breaking up over it.