I know what you mean and how you are feeling. Send me a DM if you want to talk about it. As a survivor myself, I volunteer at the rape crisis center.
Anger and crying are totally normal.
If you haven't seen a therapist/counselor you should, they can help. It won't be quick or easy but it is worth it. You may not be able to heal without it on your own. I didn't think it would help me, as I thought how it is going to make me okay with what happened, but it really did in the end. I still have sessions to this day, as needed, rather than weekly appointments.
There are different stages to recovery, and healing will take years and may never be complete as many things can trigger flashbacks.
Rape Trauma
Your possibly stuck in what is known as the underground stage or between it and Reorganization. Only you would know what where are at.
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Underground stage
Victims attempt to return to their lives as if nothing happened.
May block thoughts of the assault from their minds and may not want to talk about the incident or any of the related issues. (They don't want to think about it).
Victims may have difficulty in concentrating and some depression.
Dissociation and trying to get back to their lives before the assault.
The underground stage may last for years and the victim seems as though they are "over it", despite the fact the emotional issues are not resolved.
Reorganization stage
May return to emotional turmoil
The return of emotional pain can extremely frighten people in this stage.
Fears and phobias may develop. They may be related specifically to the assailant or the circumstances or the attack or they may be much more generalized.
Appetite disturbances such as nausea and vomiting. Rape survivors are also prone to developing anorexia nervosa and/or bulimia.
Nightmares, night terrors feel like they plague the victim.
Violent fantasies of revenge may also arise.
Thank you so much and i myself is trying to become a future child abuse therapist but with this going on im not sure
But thank you
You can still do it, just realize you need to work on yourself as well. Helping yourself and taking care of your needs, makes you better at helping others.
Honey, I know exactly how you feel. Anger and sadness is natural and very much part of that healing process. But I will be real with you, it is going to hurt, a lot, and potentially for many years to come.
If you want to talk, I'm here to listen. No judgements.
I will message you in a little bit
Sounds good hon
I just send you a request i have to do it first before i message you or it won't let me message you
Trauma can often be delayed especially if you don't need to deal with it at the time, but can catch up with you later. There can be a number of reasons for this, like finding yourself in a similar situation that has subconsciously brought the feelings back to the surface. Say for example this situation you are in, if you had recently started a new relationship and it was building towards the sex stage this could be bringing back all these feelings and creating fear of what might happen in this relationship, just an example.
If you haven't already I'd suggest seeking out some counselling to help you deal with the trauma.
Hi really sorry for what you went through, that’s horrendous.
have you been receiving counselling?
if you are not having any at the moment, then I would suggest booking some in.
it’s a really hard and long road, a road that is different for every survivor.
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Rape causes a lasting effect, id personally say that virginity is lost threw sex, sex is not same as rape.
Also please tell me that he is in prison or something.
No he isn't i didn't speak of it until 2-3 years later i was scared to open up
I understand, but like iv always said better to never be in a relationship rather then be in a bad one. Id at least spend few years as friends before starting one
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