Am I the side chick? He never goes out with me in public?

Question

Been seeing a guy for 5 months and he has 2 kids he’s 28 and I’m 20. We have been sleeping together for 5 months and the sex is really good like he loves it and so do I. He always promises date that never happened. He says he books things then say they got cancelled and we go to his house or hotel instead. The last 5 days he’s been giving long responses.

I asked if he still wants to speak to me and he said yeah and how he wants me to go over to his next week and have sex whatever. I saw on Christmas his baby mama was on his Snapchat story. Them two spent the day together. I also saw he’s been with her like other days too. When I was at his house I heard a woman on the phone and he went downstairs and answered it then he got all dressed up and said he’s meeting someone. Why is he keeping me around though if he’s back with her? Like it seems to me they are working on things. They were together for 14 years. She’s 29 near his age. Help?

I also saw her cream in his bathroom and a dress which isn’t mine and I saw rose petals and he said it helps him with his headache? And female body wash and perfume

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

Yes you are the side chick. A 28 year old man with 2 kids would NEVER ever seriously go for a 20 year old to be in a committed relationship with. He doesn’t have time for that. You two are on different pages in life. You are 20 , probably want to have fun, go on special dates etc. meanwhile he is a man with a lot of responsibility (two kids) . He may even still have feelings for his baby mother. Who knows. Moral of the story is you are just the side chick , that he probably has great sex with (that he can’t get from his baby mother) and that’s about it. That’s why he even feels the need to bring you to hotels, because his kids are probably around his house when he takes you to the hotels. You were probably only brought around the house during the times his kids weren’t there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes. You’re the side chick. He clearly still has a connection with his ex. You’re a young pretty body for him to have sex with. It’s always a red flag when they won’t take you out in public.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

"He always promises date that never happened. He says he books things then say they got cancelled and we go to his house or hotel instead."

Duuuuh. He's living with another woman, probably the mother of his children.

Wester1967 · Accepted Answer

Yep. You should really start treating him like a side dude before sh*t gets out of hand.

DaveJord · Answer

Yeah your the side chick... duh!!!

MelonSoda · Answer

Yep, sounds like it.

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

Wow. He doesn't want a relationship with you. He just wants sex with a young woman. That's it.

RHK36 · Answer

Yes, seems pretty obvious you're the side chick.

Wise4myage · Answer

I bet he's still smashing the mother of his kids.

swettannie · Answer

you're the side chick, no doubt

Surely · Answer

Time to move on! He is getting what he wants without buying the cow.

ND4SPD31 · Answer

Sounds like it. And if he’s not fucking her, he’s got u.

ctgent · Answer

No offence, but is is getting what he wants, having sex you you when he wants, but also getting with his wife. Sounds like you are just his side piece.