What's it like having sex with a guy that's in control and assertive in the bedroom. In what ways can a guy take the lead and control the situation?

[Anonymous]

[RearEntryGuy]

I usually lead, but I don't think I'm "assertive".

Perhaps I don't need to because if I want something different, I usually have sex talk (in cafe) or chat (online) before we hit the bedroom. Otherwise it would be a recent favorite repeating.

One way to be "in control" is to rub my partner all over with coconut oil.

As this is a full body rub, I will focus on her erogenous points. And by stimulating her so, she would curl and eventually follow what I tell her to do.

This eventually leads to multiple positions, some spanking, some anal, and eventually PIV intercourse.

And yes, more than once I was told by her I'm not rough enough. But I can't bear to "hurt" her. Maybe this is my weakness. But all in all, she came back regularly, which I think is my testimony of success.

What say you? Is this control?

[Danny_dan92]

Most girls love this shit. It makes them feel safe, secure, and like they’re getting fucked by a man. And not a boy

[Asker]

Please let Elaborate , in what way does he take control give me examples

[Danny_dan92]

Throwing her around, not in a way that inflicts bodily harm but say he’s holding her up and then after kissing her for awhile he throws her on the bed. Choking her. Pulling her hair. Slapping her ass

[Dargil]

I had one in the past.

[Asker]

So what's it like

[Dargil]

It is not casual sex and not like dating. You begin as friends. Maybe you met at school or work. I simply invited her over for take out Chinese and wine. Intimacy was never discussed, but it was assumed. It was a lot like being an old married couple. Casual conversation and zero tension sex. Later on I'd call or text or she would: "Do you have time for sex tonight?" And make no mistake. There was and will be fondness. You just can't call it love, but you feel it. Parting was bitter sweet. I got a job in another city. But I still think about her to this day.

[Ironic_Method]

I just do whatever I want to her and hope the girl enjoys it.

[PeterSmith1983]

Till now you where always in the lead when having sex?

[Asker]

Yeah

[PeterSmith1983]

Sounds good as well at least you control what positions you do etc, I usually take the lead but also happy to be lead

[Asker]

How does a man take the lead

[PeterSmith1983]

Guess same as a women...

[Guardian45]

The KEY to GREAT SEX is Feminine comfort and Masculine control!

[emperor90]

Good if u are into it