Why do men don't want a woman to have sex with someone else before them but a man isn't really to wait?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Men and women are not the same, and men and women value VERY DIFFERENT THINGS in the opposite sex. Men figure this out at a very early age, but it seems that most women either take forever to figure that out or never do, but very simply, you cannot project your values and desires.

Both men and women generally want the opposite sex for love and emotional support (we ARE the same in some ways), but beyond that, women generally want men for hard work, status, security, and resources. Women rarely date men that can't do "man's work", they expect their man to protect them, they want to look up to their man (they generally want him to be smart and educated) and most women would not date a man who makes less than she does. Women wanting those things from men is fairly universal - meaning that men who have these characteristics tend to be desired by most women. Because of that, such men tend to have plenty of experience with (other) women - but women not only do not care about that, many PREFER their man to be more sexually experienced and knowledgeable than she is - AND she's more attracted to men that other women desire. That's called "pre-selection" - women assuming a man is good because other women think he is.

Men do NOT look for those characteristics in women, because we already have those things. Men do not care about a woman's education or her career (these are even often a negative, if it means student debt, far-left indoctrination, or her career being more important than her family), and we don't look for protection, resources, or status from women, because we can do those things for ourselves. What we want from women are things that we CAN'T provide for ourselves.

Sex is obviously on that list, but for most men, so are children. While men will fuck plenty of women to get sex, men rarely want to commit to women who wouldn't be a good wife and mother - and this is why more and more men are avoiding committed relationships altogether: women are less and less interested in being good wives and mothers and having children. But there ARE still women who want to be wives and mothers, and those are the women men tend to choose for committed relationships and especially for marriage (obviously not all guys - some guys certainly make poor choices, and usually pay big for that mistake).

To get back to your question specifically, women who are promiscuous are rarely going to make good wives and mothers. Because women bond emotionally to the men they have sex with (men tend only to bond to women they're in love with), when women have sex with lots of partners, their ability to pair-bond will burn out, and they won't be able to stay with anyone long-term. They'll get bored and will seek out a new person - i. e., cheat. This has massively negative consequences for men, so most men tend to heavily select against those women for serious relationships.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

Because most men are selfish control freaks they don't look at it like if I do it then it's okay for her to do it they look at it like don't you do it it's okay if I do do it your slut if you do it and I'm not if I was you and there was a guy like that I would not bother with him if he does it right there in the beginning of a relationship like that he's going to treat you in the manner that you should be treated he's already telling you what you can and cannot do and that's wrong before you even get together he's trying to control you and that's bulshit

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

It’s selfish. A man needs to practice what he preaches order to come at me with such orders. If he isn’t practicing what he preaches, then neither am I.

RearEntryGuy · Answer

Not me.

I'm definitely not a virgin and am not interested in virgin girls.

In fact, if I were to date, I would prefer an experienced girl (who is clean of course).

Hence I would welcome a girl as date when she tells that me she is experienced. Definitely much more fun inside the bedroom.

PurSeduction · Answer

Matured men dont think that way. Jealous boys do. Why should I spin my mind around such a unnecessary thought?

spartan55 · Answer

SOME men, definitely not all. They only make themselves look like insecure hypocrites. But of course that doesn't make the girl end it.

Berethor · Answer

Because men and women are different, and men don't want to marry a slut.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Yeah not all guys are like that, I don't really care if you've done an entire football team before we met, in fact I'd rather be with a wonen that is at least experienced.
Maybe the guys you're meeting have small dicks and they don't want you to have anyone else to compare them too 🤣

slatyb · Answer

They are stupid and don’t understand math. There aren’t enough virgins to go around, and they aren’t so special that they get more than one.

Shaggy_KW · Answer

I don't care if a woman has had other partners, I just don't want a giant list. High body count is a red flag, can mean she goes after bad guys or she is a thot. Same goes for guys

GoPhuckYaself · Answer

That's not man. That a man who thinks that. Man isn't all the same person I'm a man and I love sluts and I don't care if she fucked 100 guys before me, I don't care.. and there's lots of other man who thinks like me.. so jus because man a said this doesn't mean all man is the same way

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because hypocrisy

Baredog69 · Answer

It's nature and we can't get away from it the male species as a whole is preprogrammed to mate with as many females as you possibly can in a lifetime. Only humans have this crazy concept of committing yourself to one person the rest of your life when it is in your DNA to spread your seed as far and wide as you possibly can. As a guy I did just that growing up I wanted to be with as many women as I could but I wanted to marry a virgin which I did. Worst mistake ever made in my life. I went from being with some of the most exciting talented sexual females ever to a honeymoon with someone who didn't know s***. Was kind of depressing.

Caunsos · Answer

Because Jesus is an asshole. A real man doesn't give a fuck beyond if you have an std.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I can wait.

bgreek · Answer

A chick can do anything before meeting a guy
That is not the problem
The problem is when chicks think they can screw around with other guys
Can say the woman is a slut or whore?
That no guy wants to be with

Cowboy6666 · Answer

They feel jealous.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men will wait... for a virgin. I waited like a year for two different virgins i had dated. I would not wait for a non virgin though hell no.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

says who?

whosnumber1 · Answer

I don't care either way

PeterSmith1983 · Answer

I really don't mind if women is more experienced I would mind if a guy just came inside her and then it would be my turn lol... how experienced are you?