Got horny with boyfriend and asked him to live together and get married?

[Anonymous]

Last night as it was nye I went out with my boyfriend to a party, we got really drunk and horny. By the time we returned home, we were so horny we fucked long time different positions. It was really intense and he was whispering in my ear what he likes about me and my body and that he wants to make me happy and give me pleasure. I was so fulfilled and satisfied. I asked him to marry me and live together and that I don't need anybody else. He said the same and to do it but obviously we were really drunk and out of our minds. I won't bring it up again cause I'm embarrassed. He didn't mention anything so we left it there. I am not sure how to approach this. This morning he woke up and said he feels like shit and will go home to chill and do nothing all day but I told him I wanted to go out and have a nice meal so we separated after that. I told him that I'd call him tonight but now I feel weird cause I don't know what he's thinking. I hope he didn't get scared. And last night while fucking me he told me for the first time that he never felt like that before and that we are truly connecting and vibing. I think I can let it be for the time being and not call him as he was pretty hangover. I could send a witty text "I wonder how many neighbors heard me screaming last night. It was truly amazing"

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, you should talk about last night so that neither of you are left wondering.

All you need to say is that you do truly feel that he is The One for you and you have considered the possibility of becoming lifetime partners. However, each of you should take time to contemplate that some more. . . and future discussions of the subject shold be had when you are both sober and wearing your underwear.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, it's not too late, but why not Skype him now for a video call?

[Asker]

We talk on the phone often but I'm still recovering and sleeping a lot. Talking is a bit hard for me I'm getting exhausted.

[275153]

Don’t bring it up for now, but also don’t cut him off either. He may be feeling the same way you are and he is unsure if what you are thinking. Act normal. The next time you are intimate, try not to be intoxicated and see if the same intensity still is there. If so, then you can follow up.

[nachosaresexy]

It was more about being drunk than horny.

[Berethor]

So you are not embarrassed to have sex but you embarrassed to talk about marriage?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think when one is drinking and sexually aroused, some things will be meant and some things won't be meant, If you love him and he loves you, that is what really matters the most talk to him and talk things over see where things go

[ByNature1986New]

Call him! Guys love that

[ashish804]

fucking sexy

[Jamie05rhs]

This is why you don't drink and fuck.

[Jamie05rhs]

OMG. YOU TOLD HIM YOU DIDN'T MEAN IT? WHAT THE HELL? That's fucked up!

[Asker]

Why? I love him a lot but getting married and moving in is a big decision and didn't want to leave it hanging and wanted to be honest.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker You need to be honest with him, yes, but first you need to be honest with yourself. Did you really have a 180 and decide that you didn't mean what you said about marrying him? I don't believe that for a minute. I call bullshit. I think your true feelings came out that night, and now you're just trying to cover it up.

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, I don't see what the big deal is. Of course it's a big decision. But I don't recall you ever saying the words "Right Now.". You do realize you can still marry him but just in the future; right?

[Asker]

Yes I could and I'd love that in the future. I didn't exactly said I didn't mean it but only that I was under poppers and got overly excited and said some stuff that sounded crazy. I felt that maybe I freaked him out by talking about marriage and moving in and didn't want him to feel obligated or pressured cause he agreed. We were both under poppers alcohol and substance.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay.

[Jamie05rhs]

What other kind of substance were you using?

[Asker]

The ones that make you empathetic and love everybody.

[Jamie05rhs]

Ohhh. Damn. That changes things. This is a vital piece of the puzzle. I wish you had said that in the beginning.

[Asker]

It's not something I'd go around sharing but I considered it appropriate to inform him what effects I had from using part of it is to get impulsive and honest.

[Asker]

This is not something I considered sober getting married or moving in as I like having my own space.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. Well... Drugs are bad. What can I say?

[TheBigGuy9]

I wish I could give you advice on this, but I never got myself in those situations hooking up while drunk. It’s too much of a wild card. Hope it works out for you though.

[Twalli]

Typically you don't lie while drunk. So I think both of you were honest about your feelings. That doesn't mean that you would ever say that while sober. Alcohol lowers inhibitions.

[Twalli]

He may think you're saying it now because you're sick and miss him. I'm sure he knows you love him. If you still want to live together after all this ask him when you're both sober.

[Asker]

Yeah i thought of it too. On the phone I tell him reasons i fell in love with him for example how his eyes are glowing when he's talking about things he's passionate about and he tells me "finee" or "whatever" and he doesn't believe me but this is because of his depression and low self esteem. Wish I could make him see how wonderful he is!

[Twalli]

It's good to tell him why you love him and how much you do. Even though his responses may seem bland it's good to hear that from your SO.

[Asker]

Yes won't stop telling him this cause it's true and maybe he isn't believing me but eventually he might. He tells me that he's doing alright on the phone but I sense his mood isn't the best and great part of it might be me getting sick with covid or he actually missed me a lot more that what he says ☺️ i scared him a bit the first days cause I couldn't breath or smell but ever since I told him I'm doing better he sounds more cheerful and makes these jokes that he used to make when he's happy and relaxed.

[Twalli]

I'm sure you'll be fine. While Omicron is especially infectious it's no nearly as deadly.

[Asker]

No it isn't. I'm way better. I wanted to text him but i checked our chat these last 2 days is full of my texts without responses but we speak on the phone. He isn't very responsive with texts.

[foxsquirrell]

That's so hot!

[nawtee_me]

honeymoon is over and the divorce has started... separated after having sex is the beginning of the end...

[Asker]

He slept over after sex and we actually slept many hours. We woke up couple of hours ago smoked and he went home to rest as he told me. We never separated after having sex. We sleep together cuddling after.

[nawtee_me]

and he did not remember what he had told you. He could tell you anything in the moment that you wanted to hear. If he meant what he said being drunk wouldn't cause him to forget it.

[Asker]

But I also didn't mention anything cause I didn't mean it and it was in the moment.

[Guido]

So your now saying you don't want to live with him and get married? You need to talk to him. He probably went home to pack up his place to move on with you. You never know what he is thinking so talk.

[PeterSmith1983]

Seems like you had some amazing sex, hope you two will have a lot more amazing sex

[Asker]

Yes it was awesome. But i texted him in the evening to check how is his evening going after we spoke on the phone and he hasn't replied yet (I sent it 3 hours ago) maybe he's still hungover or chilling. I hope he isn't mad at me or something.

[PeterSmith1983]

I am sure he is fine and great about your amazing sex, what's your favourite position with him?

[Guardian45]

So is that it? Now what?

[SilverRain92]

OK then. But people usually say their true thoughts while being drunk

[Yellovv]

All those things coming from pleasure for sure..

[Anonymous]

Well at least he is your boyfriend, I've had a girl I was having sex with on a ONS tell me she wants me to be her husband, whoa luv i barely know your name. She was of course drunk.

[Asker]

That is creepy on a ONS but this a guy I've been in a relationship with for 7 months now.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah exactly. I know things are said in the heat of passion, but it actually sounds like the 2 of you are very much in love and a good match, don't fret about it too much. Just say to him that you did mean what you said last night but know you were both drunk and now that you're sober what do you actually think about it.