Porn ruins sex life?

[Anonymous]

My husband won't have sex with me more than once a week but he'll watch porn anytime I step out of the house. He'll say "no I'm not bothered" to me then as soon as Im out that door he's running for the moisturiser 😒😒.

What the heck do I do?

We've only been married one year and I'm always uncomfortable and horny with no outlet.
Once a week for me isn't enough but no matter what I tell him he won't listen. He actually calls me selfish for asking for more.

Opinions and thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Porn definitely ruins it. Have you ever considered approaching him for sex?

I had a situation my self where the wife and I went a year without. It was my choice.. For every time she said yes, there were 20 or so no's.. So I gave up on it. When the wife finally conforonted me about it, I explained that she brought it on her self, that to do a behavior over and over, expecting different results was crazy, so I was just done, that if she wanted it she needed to come to me. She has not said no since..

[Asker]

I might actually give that a try. Thank you

[slatyb]

Porn isn’t ruining your sex life, your husbands lack of interest in you is ruining the marriage. What does he say when you tell him you need more? Do you have children? If not, maybe you should just write this off as a starter marriage. You can’t spend the next 50 years being sexually frustrated.

[Asker]

We don't have children. When I ask him for more he says its not right that I keep asking for it and to stop being selfish. Pretty much said when he wants to do it he'll ask. But I've gone a week before with him not asking or making any sort of sexual moves so I find it hard to wait for him to ask

[slatyb]

"he says its not right that I keep asking for it and to stop being selfish" That's gaslighting. It's abusive. You are telling him you are unhappy and he says it's a problem that he's telling you. How much longer are you willing to go like this? Because a week turns into a month which turns into a year and then it's five, ten, twenty, forty years of frustration. My advice? Write it off as a mistake, see a lawyer, then see a therapist so you don't repeat this mistake.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

He may be insecure and feels like he can't perform for you. Try watching porn with him, see what he's into, incorporate that into your sex life. Change positions, take charge, walk around naked or in something sexy. Hell strip down and pleasure yourself while he's in the room or on the same bed. if he still has no interest, he's not feeling the relationship anymore or he's cheating.

[Anonymous]

Here is what's wrong with your husband: He can't satisfy you and he knows that but you don't know it yet, he is talking to cam girls, he isn't attracted to you, or he is gay. Sorry. Just ask him for an open marriage. Problem solved. You already have an open marriage.

[LingyRolls]

Introduce kink into your sex. Make him crave it. Or he might just be a voyeur that enjoys watching. If that's the case, find a nice respectful sexy guy to have sex with you and give your husband something to watch 😁

[LingyRolls]

Basically become his porn start.

[Tamera952]

Nahhh... I think it enhances it.

[DonkeyDan]

Yes, you are correct porn can ryin people's sex lives.

How is the sex when you do have it? Does he have any issues performing?

Have you confronted him about his porn habit?

[Asker]

Sometimes he's rock solid and can finish, sometimes he'll go soft and say finish yourself and he'll just walk out.

[OlderThanILook]

That sucks. I don't think it's porn's fault tho. You gotta talk to him and ask him why he doesn't want to fuck you.

[Asker]

He just says he's not bothered. Won't give any other reason.

[OlderThanILook]

Maybe he just doesn't want to have sex then

[LiamSawyer]

Porn generally creates unrealistic thoughts and goals. Porn addiction can ruin relationships due to the expectation or preference for the unrealistic and fantasy sex porn creates in a person's mind.

[Nmdr3]

He’s wrong to call you selfish, but maybe your not into his kinks so he needs an outlet to release sexual frustration?

[Laciandmaci]

I personally am on his side that once a week is enough. If you love him you wouldn't just be in it for sex marriage is way more than sex. Time to realize that.

[FilmGuy93]

It sounds like there are some major communication and sexual compatibility issues. What y'all really need to do is go to a sex therapist or work out whatever other issue is going on beneath the surface.

[Jamie05rhs]

He's f*ckin' up!

[whosnumber1]

it's up to him to change his cycle. I have had challenges there and have found a pathway to improve my sex life, drive and performance. you can DM me and we can discuss

[Jerre]

A real shame. He should be fucking you a lot more.

[Nopename]

go sit on your mouth while he watches porn. if I were your husband, that's what I'd want you to do

[kairj56]

Thats terrible

[Anonymous]

NOPE not even close.
Porn for men is the same as chick flicks or 50shades lit garbage for women.

It is ENTERTAINMENT. men can have sex and go right to looking at porn.

we do not compare you to the girls in porn, we do not lose sex drive because of porn.

A female nagging us a out our natural fantasy will make us not want sex.

A female will not want sex and still enjoy her mental fantasies and masturbate. It is no different.

If you want sex more than him, he is likely stressed, or annoyed with something you are doing...

[Anonymous]

Shouldn't happen if you're making yourself available to him. Maybe he feels limited and looking elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Can’t really help as I’m not married nor have I ever been, however I watch porn in relationship and usually doesn’t change my libido. I can watch porn and get it in same day no problem. I’m also young tho so could be I just got high sex drive