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Girls: With endless dating options and so many apps and real world avenues out there, why are so many of you still alone?

Girls: With endless dating options and so many apps and real world avenues out there, why are so many of you still alone?
Contrary to the title, this is NOT attacking or criticizing single women. I am asking this out of good faith.

I just got done watching a mini-documentary on Tinder and all the problems it causes (Great video and channel; I highly recommend checking it out if you've got the time!). It's very easy to pinpoint why men are lonely nowadays:

The majority of us are seen as unattractive to modern women, and the remainder are addicted to porn and hookups, which has made romance harder than ever to the majority of men under 40 nowadays.But what about women? Women have so many options for dating nowadays, plus society puts women up on a pedestal, often unfairly. We know the majority of women don't want and aren't looking for sex. But when it comes to romance, why do women struggle?

This is me trying to be less cynical for 2022, so I won't assume much. I've also left anonymous opinions open, for all the trolls and cowards out there, as well. Here's your chance to explain it all.

WHY ARE SO MANY WOMEN SINGLE IN THE MDOERN DAY AND AGE?

Most detailed and helpful responses gets the MHO award, of course.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It took me a while to realize this. The truth is probably about 80% of the women you find that say they're looking for someone really aren't. I mean sure they say they are. They use dating websites, they frequent bars and clubs etc. But in reality they're really only playing the part.
    Women are hit on daily because most guys use the fish method. Cast a lot of lines and real in the ones that bite. Because to most guys one woman is as good as the next. Women know this is guys attitudes so they just bathe in the adulation until the unicorn they're waiting for comes along. Then after forming a relationship he reveals his true self. She thinks about breaking up with him but she has feelings for him now. Plus she thinks she can change him and doesn't want admit defeat on making it work. So she foolishly doubles down on her relationship with him. Knowing he's got her right where he wants her he does as he likes. Eventually he cheats on her. Or if she's tolerant he cheats on her over and over again. Eventually NOW she wishes up and breaks up with him. But now she's erroneously angry at EVERY guy for the foolish mistake she made choosing him.
    She goes from one mistake to multiple mistakes as now she rejects every guy except for the about hottest guys. Because beauty = quality to most young women. Wash, rinse, repeat. Now she's 30 or 40 a shell of what she used to be even if she is willing to put her misplaced anger and co tempt aside. She is now faced with the reality. That guys just aren't coming knocking like they used to. Even if they are it's only to sleep with her. Because the simple truth is her best days are behind her. By this time she's probably got an illegitimate kid or 2. Sometimes by multiple men. And no guy worth his salt is going to invest in that.

    Unfortunately this is the fate of most women. But what can you do. They choose it. 😉

  • The problem with some many dating sites is unless bots and jerks just wanting to fuk a girl.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Well, I live in a rural area and the dating pool for anyone over 30 is pretty small actually. Many men and woemn over 30 in this area are not single or are married to someone they met in highschool, church or college. Also where I work and at the gym there is a very strict policy about not asking anyone out, it's considered sexual harrassment whether you are male or female, the coffee shops are full of college age kids and married buisness people, and bars seems to be mainly for hook-ups though I don't frequent them but that's what I hear. As for me, and why have I remained single, well that's a long story that I'm not going to share on gag, lol.

    • Well, you are my age. Maybe we have the same old sad story. :( No one really interested in long term, or I am just one of the gang, no one special, just seen as a friend. Yep, the good looking girls getting the guys.
      https://youtu.be/eEyaoJj4p8M

  • There has been a lot of question here on dating sites and not a lot of people have had much success. If we had we probably wouldn't be here. I've tried eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid and Match. Not much success in anything long term at all. I even tried JDate and got chewed out because I wasn't Jewish by the guys. Then there was SeaCaptainDate. What a bunch of old losers there and even have younger 23 year old guys wanting to party on their dad's boat. I'm not sure any were really sea captains. Tinder and some of these other sites have basically ruined any decent sites as everyone starts using them for hookups.

    Girls: With endless dating options and so many apps and real world avenues out there, why are so many of you still alone?
    Maybe the guys will agree
    Maybe the guys will agree

    • I've quit online dating (as I talked about before; my height and looks don't meet women's standards), but from 2006 to 2018, I've tried Match, POF/Plenty Of Fish (literally the worst one of all), OKCupid before it went full woke, Tinder, Bumble, The Ugly Bug Ball, Badoo, The Big and the Beautiful, InterracialDating, Hinge, BlackSingles, and pretty much every single dating app I could qualify for (so not ones like JDate, EHarmony, Farmers Only, etc). I've only met one actual relationship off of there and that was the one who passed away on me. Doing the math, I've probably been rejected by a good 20,000 women over those twelve years. But as the video shows, maybe it's not just me being undateable.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • truth is if you meet a guy to give a blowjob to odds are that's all he'll want... he may cum in your mouth 3-4 times a night but he's not there to love you he's there to get blowjobs or he'll storm out if he doesn't get it.

    • This is true, he'll stick around if you blow him regularly and gratefully. You have to be useful to men that way

  • Contrary to popular belief, I don't have that many options and the options that I've been presented with weren't the best

    • "the options that I've been presented with weren't the best" So you did have many options; you just only wanted the best possible ones out there?

    • 3 isn't many options in my book, I wanted someone on my level not the "best of the best"

    • Gave me insight that I need to work on myself, plus I don't look approachable lol. I always look mad, but that's just my face

  • We want to be single/focus on ourselves.

    I never settle and being in a relationship isn't a priority nor does it measure my quality of life. So we'd rather be single and content with ourselves and life than "settle" just because society views being single as negative.

    And not being in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean you're "alone".

  • Most of the time those "options" are not that good.

    • Exactly. It's precisely because women have so many options that the relative value of the average man goes down. A woman today won't settle for someone who has mostly good qualities but has a few that she doesn't like. She will just keep looking for someone who only has good qualities or otherwise stay single. It's frustrating, but understandable.

    • Are they really not good among hundreds of thousands of men, or is it just that too many women are just too spoiled nowadays? If 90-95% of men were no good, then how did our parents and grandparents meet each other with far less options and opportunities to meet people?

    • @mcheetah The same reason that most stayed together for 50 years instead of jumping from one relationship/marriage to the next or from just jumping from one bed to another. People today don't value love and marriage anymore, at least not long term. When the times become hard they bail, because marriage takes work and requires a lot of compromise. But what do I know?

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  • I've seen people here give up on dating apps because of the amount of creeps on there.

    • There are NO creeps on dating apps! How DARE you?

      Girls: With endless dating options and so many apps and real world avenues out there, why are so many of you still alone?

    • LOL those are worse they take everything you hold dear

  • I am not sure if i want a relationship. Also i need to focus on me. Plus i find most people kinda annoying

  • A lot of us are not interested in dating... and sometimes, the only guys you meet online are creeps, or fuckboys, or someone who doesn't have anything in common with you. In such cases I'd rather wait and stay single

  • Because they’re waiting for you to sweep them off their feet NOOOTT

  • Exactly the problem, too many options too many choices.

  • I... Don't know how to date. The guys I found didn't seem to be interested in a relationship but sex. Or guys want it to be official right away. I don't understand how you can be official without knowing eachother. Where is their love coming from? Is it even love or another fling they're after? I don't think I'm ready for a relationship at all if that's how they all work
    I want to work on myself too. I need to regain some confidence.

  • Well, you can't pick all options, you need to be selective.

  • Probably very picky

  • By choice i am not looking for dates at all. Only one nights i played house when i was younger got a feel for realtionship and I've decided they aren't for me

    • That is awesome, as long as you tell them that up front, don't lead them on then your a wonderful honorable man. Those that pretend to date to get some are the scum of the earth.

    • @Aerissa_Jade yeah every girl i meet knows from the jump what it is and that im not into getting into relationships and either they down or they not lol most girls be like nah and some are like thanks for being upfront and they're down.

    • That's awesome soo many guy won't be that upfront, that makes you very honorable.

  • Single Women are sick of the same old Guys but they are still dating Guys out of the same old dating pool, So those Girls only find a decent Guy when they look at a different dating pool and be willing to date a different Guy.

  • Infinite choices + impossible standards = loneliness

  • So many women sleep around when they are younger, and ruin it for women that really do want a relationship. Because guys think that women are going to find another guy quickly and women break up for something small and find another guy very fast. If women didn't have such a long sexual history, more of them would be in a relationship. But they love having sex with as many guys as possible when they are younger. But NOT all. I'm not grouping all women into one category, but it's trending behavior with younger women.

  • Impossible standards. there's always going to be someone better out there in their minds.

  • "We know the majority of women don't want and aren't looking for sex."
    Incorrect.

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