What are your standard must-haves versus your preferences?

I dont expect you to like my standards. They’re MINE for a reason lmao.
#MyStandards
Looks wise is age 23-29, height 5’7-6’3, slim toned to average build (ex. flat tummy, nice chest, toned arms) with little to no body hair, has a nice smile, Has little to no piercings (one ear or eyebrow is fine), and is straight/male-born (not bi or trans).
Personality wise is Goofy, respectful, sweet, nurturing, caring, talkative, courageous, protective, faithful, and not an arrogant/cocky/know-it-all.
Values/Interests wise has a strong work ethic, believes in God, Hardly cusses, doesn't Smoke, Hardly Drinks, Wants Kids, Great Kisser, Loves Foreplay and Making Out, Has had few sexual partners (under 5), Not into anal/period sex, Likes to workout on occasion, and is willing to build a strong emotional connection before considering sex.
#MyPreferences
Looks wise has green/hazel/light brown eyes, no abs, any ethnicity/race is fine but preferably African American or at least part black, no braces, nice eyebrows, little to no tattoos (and small if so), and shaved/buzzcut/fade/waves styled hair.
Personality wise is corny, occasionally a dirty joker, Rarely Uses Sarcasm, Lonewolf, Hopeless Romantic, and ambitious.
Values/Interests wise is willing to live in GA or NC for a while, enjoys watching similar movies/shows, has little to no interest in gaming/partying/anime ot social media, respects but does not cling to his mother, enjoys theme parks and casinos, wants marriage, likes karaoke and dancing, is more indoorsy than outdoorsy, likes baseball, is not currently in the military, travels domestically on occasion, and is not big on guns, trends or politics
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  • Probably gonna get lots of hate but its MY preferences and everyone has their own

    #MyStandards
    —Must be okay with having 2+ kids
    —Must be okay with me having the hobbies I have like those listed in preferences
    —Must be willing to make some compromises
    —Must bathe daily and keep those legs and pits shaved (bush can stay or go, idc much)
    —Can't be an Atheist or Agnostic and must be okay with raising our kids according to Christian Scripture
    —Not a drug user
    —Has no prior felonies
    —Would never have an abortion
    —Is okay enough with dogs that I can have one or two
    —Hasnt had more than 5 sex partners (I'm the same as you) and must have only had sex in committed relationships. No hook ups and casual sex.
    —Must be monogamous, no questions asked.
    —Must not be fully aligned to the left as those views impede negatively on my life (the safety of myself and family and the force fed nonsense and lecturing about how i want to live my life and what I must accept) and the way I want to raise my kids. Basically a Conservative, Libertarian, Independent, or Apolitical are the types I would be okay with marrying.
    —Submissive (not because I want a slave or something. I just find it sexually arousing)
    —Bodyfat must not exceed 30%
    —Must allow me to keep my gun collection and not have an issue with me carrying on my person daily.

    #MyPreferences
    — Black, Dark brown, or Chestnut brown hair and brown eyes with olive, tan, or brown skin.
    — Height under 5'7 (preferably 5'4-5'6), petite, 15-20% bodyfat, no implants in butt or chest and no botox fish lips
    —Dresses in Semi Conservative or Conservative clothing.
    — Is Pro Life
    —Is a practicing Christian
    —Is a virgin or had no more than 2-3 sex partners in their lives from long term committed relationships but is also not a prude to her husband and wants to have lots of fun and explore.
    —Is a sensitive soul, nurturing.
    —Is opened to having upwards of 4 kids
    —Loves dogs and wants them
    —Has a diverse and flexible palate
    —Is pro-gun
    —Loves anime and video games
    —Loves History & Philosophy
    —Is in or is opened to moving to a Shall Issue or unregulated gun friendly state
    —Loves watching romantic dramas and war themed movies, thrillers, and/or sci fi
    —Doesn't smoke

    • Lmao the prior felonies 😂 I should start adding that one. And yea i’d prefer they be prolife as well. I agree with hoping they only had sex in a relationship. I prefer to date a centrist rather than right/left. Yea i definitely couldnt do the gun thing. Even if i didn't have that bad experience of someone holding agun to me, i’d still be uncomfortable. If they keep a gun locked away for protection thats different but i dont want it in reach of the children. I dont even want to know about it tbh. But i come from a family of hunters. I just dont live in a household of guns.

    • @dizzydesii trust me once you've been on the receiving end you'll never want to go back to being defenseless. You more so should consider becoming savoy because of potential rapists and all that. Also though guns can come with multiple safeties if you are concerned. A slide or frame safety and also a magazine disconnet safety make the firearm instantly inoperable. You could pull the trigger all day and that hammer block ain't going nowhere.

    • I was on the receiving end and i still dont support it. If guns were meant to wound, i’d be all for it but i see as weapons for killing so its not something i want the responsibility of.

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  • This will be lengthy.

    Must-Haves:
    1. Values/Interests:
    Belief in Jesus. This one is non-negotiable. Takes care of her health and fitness and will not let me fail in mine. Must be comfortable with guns and nature because I am huge on both and will not compromise on those. Must love animals because I will ALWAYS have pets.

    2. Personality:
    Logical, fierce, natural leader, tough enough to not be afraid of me because sometimes I can be intense.

    3. Looks: Nothing too particular. Takes care of herself and it shows in her looks

    Preferences:
    1. Values/Interests/Career
    Conservative, First Responder/Military/Personal trainer/Nurse/Teacher, can keep up with or even surpass me when working out, martial artist

    2. Personality:
    I want a woman who is not afraid to take charge where I cannot. I want her to be my true equal and to be able to stand up to me.

    3. Looks: Blonde, Green/Hazel eyes, 5'4" or taller, body like Hunter Chilton or Anllela Sagra.

    • I actually like effort so im more than happy to read. #1 i have no problem with pets but i dont believe in indoor pets unless its like a fish. #2 is very important in terms of sharing dominant/submissive role

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  • Standards:
    -Same height or taller than me.
    -No obesity.
    -Financially stable/secure and has a good job/career.
    -Takes covid seriously.
    -Isn't anti abortion.
    -No smoking/drinking and other drugs.
    -Empathetic and compassionate.
    -Doesn't want kids.

    Preferences:
    -Is in good shape (toned/muscular with abs) but it's also okay if he has an average body type or is even chubby or slightly overweight. I just don't want a couch potato.
    -Hispanic/Latino as find those types of men attractive, but any race/ethnicity is okay. I'm not picky about that.
    -No more than 13 years older than me, but maybe I can accept a man 15 years older than me if I really like him.
    -Likes Star Trek, but it isn't a dealbreaker if he's not a Trekkie.
    -Not a virgin. I say this because I prefer an experienced man as I'm inexperienced and he can teach me, but him being a virgin isn't a dealbreaker.

    • Lol trekkies rule 🖖

    • @Still-alive We sure do. 🖖

    • 13 and 15 are old ages to be older. Any reason why that specific number of years older? And girl these virgins be knowing stuff. Thats all ima say 🤣 Dont let the label fool you

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  • I'm not good with words and don't have any specific detailed list or criteria since there's a lot of inbetween..
    But in general I have to vibe with them. I have to absolutely adore being with them and they have to be kind in some way.
    Looks are important as well. Gotta be sexy af. Preferably abs, biceps, toned af.

    • I gotta stop falling for vibes tho. Lmao they get u in trouble

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  • MUST HAVES:
    - Must be 100% biologically female.
    - Must be heterosexual. Any whiff of "bi" (lesbian) is an automatic dealbreaker.
    - Must be monogamous.
    - Must be a decent/good person.
    - Must respect me, as I would respect her.
    - Must not be abusive or unfaithful.
    - Must have decent/good hygiene.
    - Must not be woke or on any political extremes.
    - Must not be a smoker or drug user.
    - Must not be a slut, whore, or skank; this includes doing sex work.

    PERSONALITY PREFERENCES:
    Nice, loyal, faithful, classy, ladylike, accepting, nonjudgmental, open-minded, patient, a strong sense of humor, a strong work ethic, artistic.

    PHYSICAL PREFERENCES:
    Tall (5'10" to 6'5"), THICK and curvaceous (big boobs, big booty, thick thighs, etc), feminine fashion style, great smile and good teeth, a redhead (or strawberry blonde, or blonde), between the ages of 20 and 34, no face or body piercings, minimal to no tattoos.

    What are your standard must-haves versus your preferences?What are your standard must-haves versus your preferences?What are your standard must-haves versus your preferences?
    • I gate when guys “playfully” hump eachother or say things like “i’ll go gay for him.” Like hell nawl. Dealbreaker 🤣 oh Yea good hygiene is a must too. I dont really want someone open minded and we’re all gonna be a tad judgmental at the end of the day. So idc if they are as long as they’re not judging me lmao.

  • very mature of you to think of these things, it's what everyone should do.

    • Thank you :)

  • Your list made my day... 😁

    • Lol you already know

  • damn... didn't make it on your list again

    mine is very short and simple, as I only prefer a couple of things and I'm not the most strict about it either...

    --- Preferences
    -be funny... in any way
    -be smart... in any way
    -be interesting... in a few ways

    --- Must Have
    -be genuinely awesome (I don't like when people pretend)

    • Lol what part always knocks you out?

    • the age... and what's interesting, although I'm older than you... many of the things you like, especially music... are "from my generation" or older, lol

    • I always forget you're 30+. Lol. And yea ice always liked music all the way from 40s to today.

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  • This:

    18 to 30 (over 30 equals no interest), hasn't done any hook ups or ONS, doesn't do any drugs (no weed either), doesn't drink alcohol or drinks very rarely and is willing to quit, doesn't smoke, no kids from past relationships, but does want some with the right person, no contact with any ex, once in a relationship won't be posting revealing and flirty pictures online for attention, doesn't try to make NEW opposite gender friends, will be very affectionate with me and she initiates the affection sometimes too, doesn't have an immoral job or one that requires her to spend multiple days away from home (traveling), no tattoos or very few (each tattoo makes her less attractive to me), will exercise every week just like I will to stay healthy and in shape for long term, is not hypocritical, is not greedy (values money and jewelry over handmade thoughtful gifts and is always concerned about something's price to determine how much she likes it), sees special occasions as being for BOTH people in the relationship.
    Can't be a democrat.

    • Damn i fit the whole bill except for the fact you're in the same age range as my parents 😂

    • Yeah, I know. I forgot the "preferences" part. It would be cool if she was into fantasy stuff like Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, D&D, etc. Also if she was into board games like Catan, Betrayal at House on the Hill, Stratego, and liked shows like Kobra Kai, Family Guy, Star Trek, Married With Children, and was somewhat interested in learning bushcraft/prepper skills. Those aren't requirements, just a bonus if she had any of those.

    • You lost me on all those bonuses 😂 i only like Harry Potter. I think your girl is out there

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  • That's quite a list of standards and preferences. I wish you luck finding someone who meets them all.

    I guess my list is much shorter, and have been more flexible in my relationships as far as my list goes. Sometimes being out of my comfort zone teaches me about myself.

    • I've met many who met almost all. But they usually lack in terms of believing in God or building a strong relationship before trying to get laid

    • Good for you!

    • Yea i just can't compromise anymore on my morals. Anything but that

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  • STARNDARDS
    -gentleman
    -independent
    -height: at least 5'8
    -intelligent

    My standards and preferences are ONE

  • Lol I match except the skin color part ahah.
    Anyways here are mines but be aware I've been told I was EXTREMELLY picky and selective (I'm an INFJ)

    Looks: pretty face, pretty eyes, around same age or slightly younger (im 25) thin body, SMILING a lot, long hair, tatoos or not, little to no piercings. Smaller than me ideally between 5'5 to 5'8 feet (i'm 6'0 which is 183 cm)
    Bonus looks: nice little booty :)
    Strong back if she works out, small to average breast, i don't like big floppy tits.

    Lifestyle: has ambitions, life goals, wake up early go to be early type of person, hard working OR full of ideas type of girl. No smoking no drugs (can tolerate weed if it's not daily or weekly) Do workout or not as long as she's thin

    Personnality: (comes last because that's the longest one to figure out and the most important to me) loves to laugh, clever, open minded, caring, self sufficient and independant, can fix issues by herself with little to no help (this is a massive turn on for me, like really massive) emotionally available and always has something to say (i'm not bothered by girls talking a lot as I'm more of a listener in general).

    Sexual compatibility: this is the last step and I'm gonna sound braggy af but this has to be said unfortunatelly. A girl that is large enough that she can take my penis without being hurt. I know what you gonna say when reading this but I've been with girls before, if you don't warm them until like they are literally dripping they tell you to stop after 15 mins because it's burning for them. Even tho they give compliments afterwards it's really annoying :(

    PS: for the curious out there i'm 5'5 inches to 6'0 in girth which I've been told is really thick (can't fit a toilet paper roll for example)

    • Nvm I have curly hair and blue eyes which you don't list. I never actually watched a baseball game, I've never played in casinos and I don't dance much (in public) cause I suck at it ahah. Also not into marriage that much, I could do it tho but I'd prefer not to if the girl was fine with it. Also I'm not from the US

    • The skin thing is a preference being that I’ve dated interracially many times before and will continue to do so. But based off past experiences, i just relate more to my own skin tone so thats why its a preference yet not a must. Its weird that i was always INFJ or ENFJ but have since been deemed a logisitician (i forgot the acronym). As for your description, you had me to you said long hair, tattoos, big booty, small boobs haha. Im opposite, short hair, no tats, small booty, big boobs. Also, go to bed early? Nahh haha. And yea a girth thick like a soda can is scary in my opinion

    • Oh no i'm not a soda can lol i dont even think this exists ahah. I'm not particularly into tatoos i said i dont mind em. I prefer going to bed early preferably before midnight because during 5 to 7 years i went to be very late between 2am to 5am and this killed my health so now i managed to get back to a regular sleep cycle routine and i feel so much better, i'm trying to stick with it. I googled it and logistician is ISTJ. But to answer your main question also i think ot's fine having a list of things you prefer or a list of turn off. It's also good to know how to ignore it for sone things when necessary which is something im guilty of myself. Have a good rest of the year DizziDesii

  • I don;t think your standards are outlandish at all. It's too bad I am too old for you.

    • Well im glad you think theyre okay :)

  • My standards and preferences are pretty much the same.

    • Ahh so its all mandatory

    • Not necessarily there’s a little wiggle room.

  • lol, I'm not that far off from your preferences.

    I like septum piercings but I don't have one, and if my partner encouraged me to get one, I'd do it because of being able to work from home more often compared to the past. So it's hard for me to say little or no piercings in prefs, and if they have many like tongue or other exotics that's cool too. I like cool, goofy people. If they like sex in all kinds of ways and mutually open to non-mono dating even if married kind of things. I'm pretty easy going on prefs because everyone brings something new to the table to me and I've become a better person because of it.

    • Lol the septum piercing scares me. I prefer the eyebrow piercing. Ahh you like open relationships? But yew to each its own

    • eyebrow barbells are cool too, septum you can hide by turning them around or take it off for a short webcam meeting kind of thing. I didn't used to like the idea but over time they grew on me because they look cute on friends. As for open, you can like or love more than one person ethically.

    • Ethically? Lmao i dont think so but whatever you're into haha

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  • Must: no smoking, normal weight, no children.

    Preference: big boobs, curvy hips, independent financially.

    • Nice

  • Preferences are:
    Tall (ish)
    Blonde
    Slender
    Loooong hair
    Proportional tits/ass
    Dorky
    Nerdy
    Quirky
    Sweet
    Wholesome

    Must haves:
    Dorky
    Nerdy
    Quirky
    Sweet
    Wholesome
    Be in fairly good shape.
    Not a smoker

    • Dorky mustve been the word i was looking for all along. I used to say nerdy/geeky and people assumed that meant cosplay/gaming/anime lovers and thats not what i meant. I mean like the cute smart teachers pet lol

    • haha yeah. Dorky chicks really do it for me. They seem so much more genuine and not fake at all. And they're just so charming to be around.

    • Yea i like dudes who are dorky/clumsy/corny like me. I loved Stiles from Teen Wolf

  • look doesn't matter , standard, be repecful, know to treat a women , common instersted.

    • What if you want kids? You dont care about their looks since its both of your genetics?

    • I can't have kids because of my learning disabity is genetics to my eggs.

  • Yeah.,.. why am I not surprised? LOL

  • Your list is so interesting.

    • Lol i try. Whats yours?

  • I've seen this list before. Any possibilities? Erase the age and I'll date you. 😆 🤣

    • Haha

    • Gotcha to laugh.

  • Same morals, values and goals

    • Thats good

  • All I need is something durable that won't wear out after it takes a pounding

    • Lmao

  • must have a big asd

    • Asd? Ass?

    • yeah ass sorry

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