Why do girls like to come and go?

[red324]

It's the same story with every girl. They're all like you're so perfect, got your own place, nothings wrong with you, where's the catch? They always say they've been looking for a guy who wants something steady Then after a few dates she'll disappear for no reason at all. I don't usually have sex with these girls, although I guess they give me the opportunity, but I like to see if they'll stick around before getting intimate. Usually they don't stick around and I assume I'm just another guy or fling or whatever you want to call it. No telling how many guys she's been with. Honestly if that's how it's going to be I'd rather hookup with a girl at the massage parlor. She'll insist on wearing a condom at least.

[Aerissa_Jade]

What you describe is what I've thought about guys for soo long, and if I have sex with them, I lose them and they are gone.

This is why I stopped doing that, man I am with now I hope it lasts forever but despite dating since the fall we have not done anything sexual and I plan to keep it that way for a few more months.

Not everyone is the same, just have to filter through it all and it sucks.

[red324]

I mean I see all these couples together and while not all of them stay together, most seem to. Why can't I stay with the same girl for a year or two vs always being stuck in the get to know you phase for a couple months only to be ghosted and have to start the cycle over so it's like a new girl every other month. Luckily I don't fuck these girls because well I guess I just don't like how the dating hookup culture is these days.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Likewise, don't like the culture, I want to get out of it forever and not by being single forever. I feel you though, I felt that way for a long time. Except, not putting out drives guys away, who claim if I did they would stay around but I'll never know. Just gotta find the right person, hard to find but she is out there somewhere probably thinking the same thing.

[red324]

Not putting out doesn't push me away, but if she grows distant I tend to pickup on it quick and I just assume she's talking to some other guy. I'm fine with her not putting out, but I expect for us to keep hanging out maybe once a week or so and keep getting to know each other.

[red324]

Not putting out pushes the girls away too just FYI. I've learned if it's early on in the relationship like a month or two and she comes to your house, she's expecting to fuck. Lol It kind of fucks me over though because I may not quite be ready to get into sex yet and they'll think something is wrong with them if you don't pull a move.

[Changiis07]

Wow I wouldn't know since I am the kind to stick around. So you seem to have it together maybe they don't? ...

[red324]

Yeah usually not but what does that have to do with leaving me after a few dates? This girl said she was spending new users at her moms house but now she's gone cold. I just kind of left her alone for a few days and didn't want to bug her at her mom's. Who knows. I always get involved with these women during the holidays and that's when they get flaky.

[Changiis07]

Maybe you need to change the type of women you are reaching out to. Are they highly attractive? Are they not ready for a relationship. You should ask in advance to save you the trouble. Ask what they are looking for and such. I catch myself just wanting friends at the moment but I feel like guys want to hang out with me more now that I am not looking than when I am

[red324]

I think these girls just want sex is all it is.

[Changiis07]

Maybe they are younger and just want to have fun honestly I don't know but I find myself being more careful now and asking the right questions so that I can save myself the heartache

[Changiis07]

I’m curious how you look like now..

[RearEntryGuy]

I thought that's a complain girls made about us guys?

What I faced the opposite: she starts by playing hard to get. But when she commits, it hard to break.