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Do you trust a trans to tell you they’re trans or do we now have to ask for birth certificates?

Like can a person go to jail for lying about that? Its just scary tbh. But i guess its no scarier than a closeted person not telling you they’re fcking the same sex on the side Or a straight person simply cheating on you with another straight person. This is not to bash the lgbt and so on but I just hope people are honest when dating. One girl just showed me a pic where the woman became a man and got some kind of adams apple surgery. Like wtf. I didn't even know that was a thing. It used to be the easiest way to tell what you were talking to. First we had to ask for driver’s license to ensure the person hitting on you wasn’t jail bait and now I guess we gotta ask for birth certificates. Like damn what do people get out of tricking people?
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  • Fuck a birth certificate I’m only talking to bitches who got kids that look like them😂

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  • They are already lying to themselves. What would stop them from lying to me?

    • Lmao true

    • Love this answer lmao.

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  • You... do know that they can have their birth certificate updated, right? Like that is a thing that can happen.

    That being said, I think there needs to be a balance. Do they owe you an explanation or do you even have a right to know just meeting one? Nope. None of your business.

    If you are talking for a bit and there is a chance that a relationship is starting to develop, then yeah, it's probably a good time to say something.

    • if I agree with a feminist... you have no chance of winning.

    • 😊 We can make good points some of the time I guess lol

    • Im solely referring yo them trying to pursue a relationship with you without telling you. Idc about just meeting one in general

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  • Obviously I wouldn't know someone is trans unless they told me, but if I found out about it later it would be the end of the relationship.

    I've never had to ask for ID to make sure someone isn't jail bait, that is kind of more of a guy thing, since I usually date older guys, not younger.

    I would hope if things are getting serious that there would be some honest talk about everything, as a foundation to a relationship must be stable. One cannot simply hide it or ignore it. If that foundation falls later, so does everything after it.

    Seems very risky for a trans person to not be honest up front as the entire relationship could be a house of cards.

    There is other things that can do the same thing though, like you said finding out someone is BI or a cheater.

    A lot of people on here will say the past doesn't matter, but it does if you want something stable, long term and to have trust. Cannot build something to last without that.

    • Trust, you have to ask guys too. At the grocery store, i’d get hit on my lots of tall dudes because well im short. But i mean tall tall like 6’2+. Next thing you know, they go to ask for your number and they’re like “So do we go to the same HS?” Like wtf lmao. So yea you have to prepare to ask for IDs cause these mfs hit puberty and got facial hair and all

    • That is actually hella funny, do we go to the same high school? Guess that shows you look young for your age, nice compliment.

    • Haha i think its just cause im short lol

  • Trans people aren't trying to trick people. But it's also up to them when they are going to disclose their identity. It can be dangerous for them to just say it to anybody, and also it's a really personal thing.
    I see that a lot of trans people have the flag or the colors somewhere.

    You don't out bi or gay/lesbian people either just for your comfort either.

    So yeah, I would trust them.

    • Im not talking about outing anyone in general. Im saying if theyre trying to date someone, they need to let that person know that same day or week

    • I would say it would be best for the relationship if they're open about it and tell the person as early as possible. But it's up to them when they do so.

  • I trust people until they give me reason not to. And I'm not afraid to tell everyone about any lie I've been told.

  • Why should you care if they are trans. bif you like them as a person then Daye them. Don't be a coward and be afraid of what society friends or family says what you should do with your sexlife. Stop with the lies. Let's look at your porn history and see what you been watching... dont worry about to propergander and pressure from the LGBTQXYZ nonsense. Just be yourself and build on that.

    • Lmao whatever. I have no interest in anyone who isn't hetero and whatever they were born as. I was just asking because of a GAG post with tricky pictures. And why would i care? Who wouldn't care about deception? Lmao tf

  • This is where those, Trust, Respect, Honest and Communication come in to play.

    Its down to being open and honest, developing that trust.

    this holds true, if it’s transgender, someone with say HIV, a wife beater, someone who is Bisexual (and knows it), someone with a really serious moment in their past that does have potential impact on current timeframe.

    it does also highlight this often seen thing on GaG, where the question is ‘would you date someone transgender’.

    Well if they are this good that documentation is required, then obviously people are attracted to what they see, the questions usually do not include ‘knowingly’.

    it’s one of the reason I believe a lot of guys react so much, they are attracted to the female aspect of the person, then find out it’s transexual and over react because they now have this often sub conscious confusion ‘ I’m straight but she looks hot but it used to be a guy’ , their brain tilts, and goes in to anger mode.

    The important bit is, at what point a person should tell you certain details, I have a child, I have HIV, I was raped, I have a prison record for murder, I am Transgender, I am Bisexual, etc etc.

    It will vary, however to me it’s when their is a prospect of a relationship ship or looking towards having emotional, physical connections with the person (including sex). Some need to happen really up front, others such as historical rape or abuse are more complex and do involve a load of trust.

  • No, I don't. But I have good "Transceiver" and call tell when someone is trans like 99% of the time. Their large brows, narrow hips, man hands, and almost always being well over average male height is usually a dead giveaway.

    As far as laws go, it's actually not that illegal to hurt or kill a transperson who lied about their gender and tricked you into sleeping with them in several US states. It's call Trans Panic or something, and it's not illegal because them doing that is the same thing as sexual assault/rape. But of course, SJW's are trying to get that appealed/removed, but it's unlikely because they're all in Red states.

    Personally, I think it should be one of those "not illegal, but unethical as sh*t" things. I personally feel the same way about queer women who trick you into a relationship without revealing they aren't heterosexual. If they're queer, that's the same exact thing as being a lesbian to me, and I had to deal with some stuff when my first girlfriend, Ellen, was revealed to be "bi." I felt heartbroken, ashamed, and embarrassed that I was basically with a f*cking lesbian that entire time! Someone who didn't actually like me, or men, in general because she's queer/bi (gay).

    Now imagine how crazy and depressed I'd feel if it was a tranny and I somehow got tricked into falling in love with a man. Not that I can see it happening, but some surgery is improving nowadays to where they look more and more female. Although that's usually only if they transition before or during puberty, which is another issue entirely I don't approve of.

    • I’d break up immediately, possibly throw hands, but i wouldn't go as far as killing anyone

  • I think like anything it's basically grounds for divorce if you went that far. Because it's deception.
    We all have free will and with that comes a choice.

    To not be given that option is deception and I don't think it would be looked at lightly.

    Especially now where being out and open is a thing.

    But both sides would need to be assessed.
    Imagine your with a person and of child bearing again trying and can't get pregnant because well they can't give you kids. They could have stolen years from you. Had you known you might seek alternatives if you truly love the person. You know.
    Deceit is deceit.

    • Yes that pregnancy part is the main thing i thought about that like wow

  • Well, they can't go to jail for lying about that, I mean people lie all the time, about their age, race, etc. Would I trust them to tell me, yeah if they want to but they don't have to tell me, if they did I would believe them and not judge them for it? I don't think that they are trying to "trick" anyone, it's just not easy for them to just come out and say it because people will judge them and start to look at them funny and they don't want to feel that judgment so hence why they don't just tell people. It's just putting yourself in their position, there is still a stigma with being trans that makes them feel bad, until we create a space for them to be open and not have to hide anymore then they will start putting it out there, but as of now being discrete can sometimes be the safe option.

    • If theyre trying to date you then its a must that they tell you... they really wanna start things off with a lie

    • @DizzyDesii They have an incentive to lie. Because they're greedy and horny and they want to GET you. Damn the feelings of the cis person. They don't care. It's selfishness is all it is. It's that entitlement mentality that says "I deserve to have this person love me even though they don't want me."

  • Yes trans are disturbing.

    Do you trust a trans to tell you they’re trans or do we now have to ask for birth certificates?

  • Can you not tell? Might want to get your eyes checked… and your ears.

    • Usually its not hard to tell but she had an adams apple so that shocked me

  • Well they could fool you but I would believe someone immediately, I'm that trusting lol

    • Damn

  • I'll agree to whatever pronouns. But I draw the line when anyone asks for money or time. Those things require more than a gender to give away.

    • Someone asked you for money? Like anprostitute?

    • Oh, i was speaking in general terms: I'll agree to anything other people want to believe as long as no one is asking me to contribute time or money. Money doesn't really apply but time could. Though tax money towards gender affirmation surgeries is treading that line.

  • I assume everyone is whatever they say they are. I don’t need to know their anatomy.

  • I prefer a biological male but a trans man isn't a dealbreaker for me. Lying about his gender is a different story. I'd be really pissed if he lied about it just like I'd be pissed if he lied about being gay. I'm not gay so I want a man that's straight or at least bi.

    • So, I would trust him unless I find evidence that proves otherwise.

  • You can have your birth certificate updated if you're trans. At a certain point.

    Anyway, why not just ask them if they're trans at that point? That's way less weird than asking to see their birth certificate. And if you make it clear that things can't go further if they are, then I don't know why they would stick around, even if they don't tell you.

    I certainly wouldn't lie just to get closer to someone who doesn't want me. That's very shady to do if you know they wouldn't go further if they knew. And it's also pointless because presumably you want a genuine relationship, and if you already know there's a deal breaker why would you stick around just because they don't know it yet?

    • True. You just never know what people qre up to these days

    • Yeah. Honestly I've never pursued a relationship and don't plan to, so I don't really know what people are up to in the first place in this area. But with how some people are i guess you never know what you're getting into. That's why there's gotta be trust for anything to start.

  • I would seriously be mad af if someone who I thought was a dude turned out to be a girl pretending to be a dude. They're legit just mentally ill people who are constantly in denial, it's ridiculous. I want dick, not pussy.

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  • If one ever managed to trick me they should expect violence and death depending on how far they tricked me into going.

    I think it should be legal to kill them if they trick someone into sexual/intimate stuff.

    • Lmao i understand whooping that ass but not death 🤣

  • Yeap. If they lie to me there is going to be a major issue, same as anything else. Be honest and we'll get along.

    • Like just be honest so i can walk out with a little respect left for em

    • Exactly

  • When it comes to women's sports, ask for them.

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