Girls, What’s an appropriate response to a guy grabbing your boob or butt aggressively at a club without permission?

[Anonymous]

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Only been to a club like once and it didn't happen, but I can do character voices really easily, I am pretty tall (which normally I hate) and I like to handle awkwardness with humor so I'd just do a deep guy voice and scare the crap out of him. If he was oddly into that, then I'd just probably push him away and look for someone on staff to help.

[Asker]

Lol! Like pretend your a guy?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Sure, why not? Maybe it will save the next girl because he will second guess himself.

[Asker]

My girlfriend recommendation was to throw my drink in his face but I’d be scared he would get violent

[Ez-Bri-Z]

And waste a perfectly good and expensive drink?

[Asker]

Hah you have no idea! They were 16 each! The other friend told me to take advantage of his fitted swim shorts and grab something of his

[Ez-Bri-Z]

And give him exactly what he wants? Best bet is to walk away and seek help to avoid violence. The more fun option is to humiliate him though. "Yikes, I can see why you are grabbing at other people's swim wear. You are trying to find what happened to the rest of your dick. Seriously. If I was a guy only packing that much, I'd probably opt for the baggiest board shorts I could find and not that fitted thing you have on."

[Asker]

Why do you think that’s exactly what he wants? Doesn’t that hurt guys a lot?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Some guys are really into that kind of thing. There are a few guys on this site alone who have a fetish for being hit in the balls. Plus, you are now making sexual contact with him which puts you at risk of a sexual assault. Knee to the groin is fine I would think, but hands... hmm that seems like it could be trouble.

[Asker]

Oh jeez I wouldn’t want that to happen, I ended up leaving the party and going home after the incident

[Ez-Bri-Z]

That sucks that he ruined your night like that. I'm sorry

[SnakeBoop]

"WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU THINK you're DOING PERVERT" in a nice loud voice. then complain to the club and get them kicked out

[Asker]

I wish I had done that, but instead i just got upset and left, it ruined my night

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

“Pull it! Twist it! Spin it! Flick it! Bop it!”

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It’s at a beach club, seems like no one would be holding a purse, weapons, or heels, so your hands are the best weapon and will do the job well if he’s wearing swim trunks.

[Asker]

Lol what does that mean? Yeah he was just wearing these tight swim shorts, he was muscular too

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Ah it’s an old toy game called Bop it. It gives you command to do certain things like “twist it” to the toy… Do those commands to his package and I’m sure he wouldn’t like it either. I was told to do that a few years back when talking about self defense. It made me laugh lol.

[Asker]

Ouch! Lol I gotta see you could clearly see his bulge outlined in his shorts, would that change how you approached it?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Not sure, I’d probably still hit him in the dick and probably give him an elbow somewhere too.

[Asker]

You think a hit in the dick would work? I feel like it might piss him off

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Most guys wince and fall to the floor with a hit to the dick. An elbow to the face will keep him there long enough for you and your friends to run away. I think it could work depending on how hard you hit. It’s a sensitive area nonetheless. If it pisses him off enough to attack you, he’s the one who is gonna face consequences for doing so.

[Asker]

It would be kinda funny to grab him by his balls and see how he reacts. How would you expect him to react?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Probably in pain at first. Those seconds of him in pain can give you enough time to run away. Just make sure you grab them hard enough lol.

[Asker]

Have you tried that move before? I’ve never done it

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I have, yes. It definitely shocked him and was painful for him. You definitely have to do it quickly and hard, make sure you aim in the right place or else it’s just ineffective

[Asker]

did you do it in a real fight? what do you mean the right place isn't it just the whole area?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It was in this situation - A guy touched me in a crowded high school hallway. Sometimes you aim too high and don’t hit anything, and sometimes you aim to the side, both of which just don’t do much. Whereas, if you hit them right in the middle, it’ll knock them to the floor. It can be hard if they’re constantly moving/walking but that’s why hitting them in a different area is important 😆

[Asker]

Did you kick him? the guy sounds like an ass!

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Oh I didn’t get to kick him, but I stomped on his toe as well, I did the dick hit, elbow to the nose, and stepped on his toe lol. I didn’t wanna do it but you gotta teach people what’s not acceptable.

[Asker]

damn! you really let him have it!! I did hear you're supposed to grab the balls instead of the dick, what did you do?

[JC1981]

A slap in the face and notifing security

[Asker]

I don’t know if a slap would have any affect on him

[JC1981]

Just tell them straight out their invading your person space and their actions are unwelcome.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Stab him in the dick with your stiletto.

[Asker]

Lol omg! This was at a beach club so everyone was just in bathing suits. He had on a tight swim suit

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Grab him by the dick, squeeze it like a lemon, and twist. And smile while you're doing it.

[Asker]

The balls or the dick? How do you think he would react?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Punch him in the throat.

[Asker]

I wish I had a good punch! Plus this guy was like 1.5 feet taller than me so I doubt I could’ve reached his throat

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Are you a midget?

[BlondeGoneWild]

Make a scene and embarrass him

[Asker]

Would you throw a drink on him or hit him?

[BlondeGoneWild]

Either, just depends what I’m feeling in the moment I guess. Tbh I really like guys getting touchy when I’m at a club, and I definitely make it inviting at times. So more often than not if they go too far I’ll warn them first

[Asker]

Would you ever grab them back?

[BlondeGoneWild]

Not sure if you mean like sexually or like hitting them down there, but I’ve done both 😂

[Asker]

lol what were the circumstances for those?

[BlondeGoneWild]

Me being really horny, and in the other case, him being too aggressive and not listening after warning him

[Asker]

You grabbed him in the middle of the club? How did he react

[BlondeGoneWild]

He was shocked and asked to take me elsewhere

[Asker]

Oh yeah! That’s awesome. I take it the other guy you hit took it worse lol

[BlondeGoneWild]

Yeah he fucked off after that though

[Asker]

Did you actually hurt him or was he fine?

[BlondeGoneWild]

I’m sure he was in pain for a few minutes

[Asker]

I know they talk about going for the dick for self defense but this guy was like twice my size and muscular I don’t know that it would work on him

[Agape93]

An elbow to their nose

[Asker]

Have you done that before?

[Agape93]

Yes, just not at a club. Hard to continue a sexual assault with a caved in nose or broken teeth.

[Asker]

My girlfriend suggested I throw my drink in his face but I’d be worried he would get violent. Plus he was much bigger than me

[Agape93]

Size doesn't much matter. Hit hard and fast in the right places and he won't be a threat.

[Asker]

Hah yeah I learned that a little in my self defense class.. I feel bad for the nice guys i had to practice groin kicks on

[Agape93]

They have pads for that. But I don't mean nut kicks. I'm talking about maiming or killing an attacker. Go for the throat, nose and eyes.

[Asker]

The guy was wearing some pads and a groin thing but it looked like it still hurt him.

[Agape93]

Well it's not going to be comfortable but it's not going to hurt him.

[Asker]

I can’t imagine wearing all those pads in general are comfortable

[Agape93]

Better than the alternative

[Asker]

True it does give me some self confidence that I could hurt a larger male if I needed to

[Agape93]

It's not hard. I've broken many teeth in my life

[Asker]

In our class Someone got accidentally elbowed in the face and had 3 teeth knocked out, with the mouth guard.. so much blood!

[Agape93]

And not to mention the pain.

[Asker]

Yeah I can’t imagine! I was so thankful to have those guys let us practice beating them up lol. One of the ladies was a college soccer player and they joked she can kick through their cup. Ouch!

[IveGotNoName]

Slap him.

[Asker]

He was a lot bigger than me so I’d be worried that would just anger him

[IveGotNoName]

Were you alone?

[Asker]

With 2 girlfriends

[IveGotNoName]

Yes, but how many people were around?

[Asker]

It was fairly crowded so I guess he couldn’t have done much. My other girlfriend told me to grab something of his and see how he likes it

[IveGotNoName]

Nah dont do that

[Asker]

Why?

[IveGotNoName]

... seems very dumb... like you are encouraging him

[Asker]

Doesn’t that hurt guys a lot?

[IveGotNoName]

Hmmmm if you squeeze really hard i suppose to

[IveGotNoName]

So*..

[douride2]

Either a slap or a knee.

[Asker]

Wouldn’t you be worried that would make him become violent?

[douride2]

Not at all.

[Asker]

This dude was like 6’5 so he towered over me, that’s why I would be fearful he’d get violent if I slapped him

[douride2]

A holes like him are the main reason I have never been a fan of clubs.

[Asker]

My girlfriend said I should grab him and see how he lies it.

[RebeccaBI2000]

Make a scene and get him thrown out of the club

[Jessicajochen]

A punch in the face

[Asker]

The only issue with that is he was a lot bigger than me, i don’t know how well I could even reach his face

[Jessicajochen]

Or tell the bouncers

[Asker]

I ended up feeling like shit and left. It sucked because it was our last night there and he ruined it