At what point are you willing to have sex with another person? When are most women willing to have sex with men? How long until they feel comfortable?

[WhiteBoyChill]

For me it’s as soon as I find a woman I’m physically attracted to.

But of course I’m not going to talk to some random girl I see for the first time and just ask her straight away for sex.

I mean usually they want to actually feel comfortable around the guy first which is understandable, so I assume most women like casual sex if its a guy they’ve known for a while.

But how long do they need to know that guy for?

And I also understand that there is a very slim minority of women that will f*ck men after the first time they meet but maybe the share of them that will is actually larger than I think since some women might not be advertising it.

[Anonymous]

Clubs I frequent occasionally play slow dance music. I'll ask a girl to dance. If I'm attracted to her I'll often get an erection which she usually feels. I've had several tell me they are going home with me. One time I was talking to a girl and said Shut up, let's go to your place and f=ck. Another time a girl I'd seen infrequently at the club just walked up to me and told me I was f=cking her tonight. I guess I look trustworthy.

I've also dated a girl for months and never had sex with her.

Usually we have sex after three or four dates. She's usually comfortable with me then.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Honestly man that sounds like a solid answer. So going to dances is pretty useful. I’ve heard a guy who can dance really activates women because of all the close contact.

[RearEntryGuy]

After my divorce I dated this widow for about 2+ months (she's moving in this afternoon YAY!).

Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I believe we can be non-sexual friends and find contentment during those dates.

Then since we both know our needs, talking about sex during our public outings are interesting and full of erotic fun.

(Of course we decided together last month, she'll insert IUD and then move in to my house.)

Hence for me, not first dates, but after we're comfortable with each other outside the bedroom.

I think our first sex later will not be very awkward, which is what we both hoped for.

And I think this is important because basic trust and vulnerability will enhance the intimacy and pleasure.

This is always my preference.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

In a committed (long term) relationship or marriage, depends.
I just need to feel secure and safe with them, knowing that I’m not just going to be used for sex. That’s why I choose to open up after we are in a committed long term relationship (or marriage).

[andreea89]

As soon as I feel my clit tingling. Which often happened ten minutes after meeting them

[buttsniffer]

at any time of the day, whenever, with any woman, aslong as she isn't hideous, over 50, or fat, i would even fuck a less than average girl, im not picky my man

[moonpie89]

I have to feel comfortable, safe, physically attracted with him. I'm not fixated on the amount of dates. Sex can happen anytime.

[WhiteBoyChill]

So what’s the bucketlist of things you need from him in order to feel comfortable? And how far along does that normally tend to be?

[moonpie89]

The timeline varies. I've had sex on the first date after meeting this guy twice.

[WhiteBoyChill]

So what made you feel so safe around that guy that you had sex with him so quickly?

[Juxtapose]

If they are charming enough I don't even need to know their name.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Agreed

[Anonymous]

Sometimes right away, sometimes it takes months, sometimes never.

[Anonymous]

Probably 4-5 dates