When you were a teen were your parents strict or fairly permissive?

[WonderMLF]

How did that affect your social and sexual development?

[Lliam]

I finally rebelled when I was 16 and started doing what I wanted to do because my dad was a fuddy duddy, wanted me to be his mini-me, and wouldn't budge. Fortunately, my mom was cool and my dad just ignored me after that. He did give me my first two cars, though. He was actually a nice guy but he was very culturally conservative, a WWII vet and stuck in the 1940s and 50s. He was a great dad and I idolized him until I wanted to let my hair grow long in high school.
I continued to live with my parents until my mid-20s, too.

I had unbelievable fun in my late teens and early twenties. I had lots of friends, surfed, snow skied, back packed, was constantly active and had lots of adventures, was a rock guitarist and singer in bands, had girlfriends, went to hundreds of concerts, and partied like a Viking.

When I was 26, I was handed a great corporate job, had to cut my long hair and start wearing a suit. It took a few years, but it was that job that made me finally grow up.

As far as I'm concerned, nothing in my upbringing had a negative impact on my social or sexual development. Later in life, I realized that I was carrying around some resentments toward both my parents. But I mostly have deep gratitude and love. They were really good parents and did their very best. They imparted good values, too.

[Makeushiver]

My parents dies when I was fairly young. Before she died my Mother had found a stash of playboy magazines under my bed ( why do young guys think that's such a safe place). She took all the pohotos out and made a collage which she polyurethaned all over my bedroom walls. The next year she had left out a buncjh of bbooks - graphic) with all kinds of informastion about the sexual response of women., This was when I was ages 10 and 11. It turns out that I proibably knew more about the anatomy of female erogebnous zones than anyone else in the new middle scholl I attended. As a result, I lost my virginity at age 13 with a girl of the same age. I went down on her to get her off first since I =knew lasting long enough the 1str timewas not likely to be a piece of nirvana. So I guess she was fairly permissive. She had been a model and then a journalist in the 1960s so that may explain some of it. Word got around about the 13 yeqar old child prodigy and I never had any issue with women after that. She did all if 5huis as she was dying from breast cancer which was discovered about 2 weeks after my father- her husband died from heart failure.
Gotts admire a woman who was dying but made sure her son was blessed with the more knowledge about getting women off than any other kid in the school.

[KrisPW]

Dad wasn't very strict and let us make our mistakes. He gave advice, and we all knew he was there if we screwed up. He was only strict about things like bullying, picking fights, or being disrespectful.

For me specifically, as the only girl, he was fairly permissive. I had older brothers at various ages above me and I never went to a school that didn't have one of them there except for my "senior" year at the school. All were protective when I needed them and stayed out of things if I asked.

[pleasestopthis]

Kind of strict but not too much. I knew where the limits were and I was still allowed some freedom as I was growing up. I don't think it affected my social-sexual development too much because I'm naturally introverted and I tend to be a loner

[laurieluvsit]

Our parents were and are incredible!

My 2 sisters and I were always told to live by these rules

1. Be whoever we wanted to be and don't let anyone ever tell you can never achieve that

2. Don't ever hurt anyone

3. Always treat others the way you want to be treated

I think if we all did that the world would be a much better place.

As far as your 2nd question, we are admired in both areas by all except the creeps... lol

Here are the creeps you want to avoid...

[WindAtMyBack]

At the time I thought they were strict. But now I realize that we got by with an awful lot. When we crossed the line we definitely got punished. But they were pretty loose about a lot of things. Looking back it's kind of surprising some of the stuff we did that I'm sure our parents knew about. I think they realized that kids will be kids and they can't be micromanaged and punished for every little thing.

[DaveJord]

Extremely permissive... and it was great. Allowed to experience real life at a younger age and prepared my for adult hood better an more quickly, and easily. But they did reinforce a lot of good values in me.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Living Rural had pretty much free range of the entire town, could ride a horse to go get mail from the post office or most commonly an ATV.

Technically had free range of more than just the town, could easily go 10 or 20 miles in any direction and back home without any supervision.

[jaybee281]

Extremely permissive with me and my brother - like my mom literally showed up to school to defend me about how I went and played soccer instead of going to maths class by climbing out of the window and jumping from the roof - meanwhile strict with my sister - not when it comes to grades but just going out and certain other stuff as a girl you probably know what I'm talking about - Quite unfortunate it'd have been fun having one more crazy sibling outside of the house (I do expect her to be like me after she finishes high school make no mistake about it)

[wingattebaby16]

my real mom is pinay/filipina 100%

she was so strict, it often felt like living in a nazi prison camp.

my step dad was very permissive! he rocked.. my real mom hated him.

My foster dad was Mr. Hitler/Bin Ladin/Stalin/Obama/Hillary Clinton. He treated me like i was a piece of property he had to take care of becoz he was paid to. I had a place to live, a roof over my head, and food to eat. He did not care what i did, as long as i did NOT make trouble for him. He knew i liked older men, so he got one of his friends to be my "boyfriend" but pretended he did not know, so if Foster Care went after him, he had no idea.

That did straighten me out a lot..

I am a pretty permission mom...

[weysally]

my parents like my grand parents were strict but fair, and would explain things to me,
and gave me what I call good advice, have fun your only on this earth once, also
why worry, you die if you worry you die if you don't,

[ChrisMaster69]

Hmm strict as in beatings, left bruised n bleeding, yeah you could say that.

It accelerated my sexual development.

Socially, weird lol, people wanted to chat with me n hang out with me, I did not, more entertaining playing with a pencil sharpener,…..🩸

[Apple1996]

I was the youngest of 7 so with me they were much more chill then they were with my older siblings. Pretty much did whatever I wanted to, never got spanked or grounded. Ended up being rebellious and getting pregnant. It truly worked out better that way since now that I'm a adult I feel no need to party. I'm settled down with my husband and have 3 kids. My siblings on the other hand are ridiculous and can't hold a stable relationship and haven't experienced enough life. It is definitely since we were raised differently.

[NHI2017]

My parrents didn’t give a danm.

i would come home at 4am. Somtimes

as long as they know who im with, and where. They didn’t care. Or ask too many questions.

i never got into any serious trouble,

my dad knew i was fooling around with girls. But didn’t ever say anything to me about it, he's not stupid he knew what was going on.

and my guy friends were all good kids, and did well for themselves even today.
thats who i would hang out with.

we use to drive around, have bonfires,
Go out to eat etc,…….
We never had any problems. Or got into trouble

All of our parents were pretty relaxed, And we could basically fo whatever we wanted.

Everyone turned out fine. And nothing bad happened

[Graceful05]

Strict and regimented. Even hanging with friends is questioned if it includes boys. Dating is like an interrogation session. My sister and I have developed work arounds so we can keep sane and normal and sexual.

[Dinklex3]

More "strict" with me since i was the "good one" that actually listened.
I was still allowed to do things though
But my "bed time" didn't become 10pm until I was 17 years old, lmfao.
When i was 16 it was 9:30.
Props to being the baby of the family.

[SecretYuna]

They are still very strict but I actually thank them for it because I think it is because of them I work hard and do not quit so easily. But also there are some things I did not enjoy like I did not hang out with friends a lot. Then it is weird but I feel guilt over simple things because I know my parents would get mad at me. Like buying clothes I do not need or going out with friends or drinking and even dating I feel some guilt

[wankiam]

totally absent father and a mentally abusive mother so i left home when i was 16... took me a long time to learn how to love

[slatyb]

I was in college before my 17th birthday, so I was out of their control.

[Slartybartfast]

My mom got a new boyfriend when I was ten, after that I pretty much was just a roommate and took care of myself. Frankly I was smarter and more aware at 11 than most adults and she didn't need to do anything. I got myself to school, cooked when I was hungry and never asked for money or help with anything.

I used to bus myself across a city of 2.4 million at ten years old to take college engineering and computer science classes. I wasn't a typical kid.

[Agape93]

Strict is an understatement

[JoyGirl]

Very strict.

[FunkyMonkee]

Fairly permissive, to a degree. Dad was pretty open about most stuff, as am I but, mom was a good little catholic girl so, NO kind of sex talk was easily tolerated!!

[sheikalana]

Extremely strict.