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Can a girl be too ready? He said I was like a tiger waiting to pounce on its prey!!! Is it possible to be the aggressor and submissive one? Advice?

So I had been talking to this guy for awhile and we finally met up to do the deed. Just from being around him I found myself getting extremely wet to where it was uncomfortable (but I knew it was because I really like him). He said he liked it and was touching on me but the more we started to flirt I noticed he started to get uneasy. Which I didn’t really understand because I know he’s been with others girls and has done a lot more stuff than I have.

So I asked him what was wrong and I quote he said “your presence is overpowering, you’re like a tiger waiting to pounce on its prey”. That’s not the first time I’ve been told something like that but it makes me upset and confused because I felt like I was just matching the energy he gave me…

I like to let the guy take lead but I will usually put the energy out there like “this is what I want to do” and I guess initiate it.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • dont feel bad, a lot of guys are just talk andtherefore they get frightened as you are more initiative/brave than them. A lot of time they also got used to a woman that just lays down. You know how they say they want/like strong women? They actually dont. They dont like you beingbetter atthings they are supossed to be. But sometimes it can be about tact, so if you see that guy isn't that comfortable, slow down a bit, you dont want to preassure him but make it happen naturally.

  • Maybe let him take the lead…lol

    Also, I love that anime in your pfp! 💜

    • Thank you (*♡∀♡)

Most Helpful Guys

  • It’s just that you are confident in what you want, you have made your mind up and just want to go for it.

    Some guys struggle with girls like that and don’t know how to handle it, as they have an internal game plan that they likely follow with every girl.

    You threw him off his normal game and he was struggling to work out what to do lol.

    nothing wrong with what you do or how you are, it’s all about people being adaptive.

    • This feels spot on to what happened! From when we talked I could tell he was about routine and he’s told me before he doesn’t like to feel like he’s being told what to do. We just weren’t a match.

    • @shy333 it happens, you often get guys attracted to shy girls ( no pun intended with your name) who are then in to really kinky stuff behind closed doors. Nothing is more unnerving for some guys when the girl wants spanked and tied up etc and the guy is quickly out of his depth.

    • @shy333 thank you for MHG, most appreciated.

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  • I'd strongly suggest you let him take the lead. As a sub, you want to follow his lead and encourage him but let him drive. You'll know Mr. Right when he tosses you over his knee and spanks you for trying to top from the bottom.

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  • The word you're looking for is "thirsty," and yes some guys and girls can be put off/creeped out by it.

    • Thank you for your opinion but I wouldn’t say I was being thirsty haha. I wasn’t all over him (as he was all over me) and I only flirted when he did and asked for permission before touching him. He tried to explain by saying it was my presence and not anything I was saying or doing.

  • 🐅🐯 pounce on dinner, and being literal in this discussion could be a good indicator of a cannibal or cannibal curious type of situation. I don't recognize cannibalism as a legitimate form of foreplay and draw the line between being given a hickey and being approached by a girl with a knife and fork in her hand.

  • never, sometimes it is nice to feel wanted sexually.
    It works both ways.

  • If she's overweight and she's aggressive, it comes off too masculine

  • That’s perfect, actually. A girl that just sits there and does nothing even though she’s willing makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong.

  • it could be that maybe you are being a little overly aggressive?

  • I don’t see anything wrong with what u did. I’d like it so I don’t know what his problem is. Lol.

  • Can't be to ready, have fun!

  • Your are horny so full of passion good thing and your can be sub easy just have no what you are doing

  • I don't know but I want my partner to be sexually wild sometimes with me.. so I like your energy ✨❣️

  • Sure, because desperation or looking like it, could come into play.

    • That makes sense! I thought I was being pretty chill, but maybe just need to be more subtle.

    • Yes, focus on being more subtle.

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