Guys, what goes through your mind when you’re checking out women (truthfully)?

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So I hear mixed things on it but I want to know what really goes through your minds when you’re scanning a woman. Is it true that most men envision her naked or have dirty/sexual thoughts about her, or are you thinking about what itd be like to talk to her?

I have this problem where I notice a lot of men usually of different ages checking me out. Sometimes I’m dressed up in a nice long wool/fur coat just walking by or I’m in my gym clothes and my outline of my figure is pretty visible.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So let me be honest then...

1. On a dating app profile first thing right off when I see her pics... I think is she good looking enough to date. Because lets be honest looks matter, and before I even try to talk to her I have to weight in my mind if she's good looking enough to want to try.

2. Second thing I do, is try to get a good idea of her body type... this hard because women try to be sneaky about this in their photos... but a trained guy can always tell.

3. Third thing, if she is pretty then we are more forgiving of her body, and if she has a kicking body we are more forgiving of her looks. So we have to do the face to body, then body to face comparison... is more good looking or is her body way more sexy to make up for the lack of looks.

4. Then we read the profile and try to measure if she's worth perusing based upon her interests, and back ground details. If just have nothing in common why even try right?

5. Then based upon that we try to calculate if we can see ourselves having sex with this women by the third date, and if the sex is good is she the type of person we could envision what type of relationship would we want with type of person of course be it long term, short term or just friends they all include having sex.

6. Then after all that we decide to try to chat with her, then redo all those calculations all over again based upon the quality of the conversation...

Now if I see her just walking down the street... then yeah I am just imagining what she looks like naked and if she gives me any indication that she might be approachable I would give it a shot. But it far less calculated in person vs on line, because you already did all the calculations in your head in the millisecond it took for you to see her and turn your head for a better look. Of course after that, its all aobut gaging how long you think it would take for her to want to have sex with you and if the juice is worth the squeeze.

But regardless few guys are going to want to commit to any type of relationship without having sex, or having the sex issue determined in short order. Basically are the type that plays hard to get but will give it up, or do like to just tease guys and lead them on for the attention.

MysticDevice · Accepted Answer

My mind goes through almost a checklist. Something like
*sees woman* *looks her over*
*hair >face > legs > ass > body > tits > neck> face again > checks clothing and style choice*

Then the brain starts thinking:
"I wonder what her voice sounds like"
"Is she gonna get creeped out if I go over and say hi"
"I wonder if she has similar interests"
"Is she a bitch or is she nice"
"I wonder what she likes in bed. Is she more dom or sub"
"I wonder what kind of panties she's wearing" *casually glances to see panty lines if any*
"Do her panties match her bra?"
*casually glances to check for visual bra straps*
"What if that's my future wife?"
"Wait, is she even old enough? It gets hard to tell when you get older."
"Wait, she works here in a factory, you have to 18 to do that. Its fine" or "its a bar, she's drinking, of course she's of age. F***sake's lol"

All of that goes through my head in about one second. And then its back to whatever I was doing.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They just find them attractive. There are some that think about sex, and others who are innocent (they don’t let their mind go there).

Rob596 · Answer

It depends on how much I like her. If she’s attractive, I just think she’s hot then carry on. But if I have feelings for her, I just think about all the small things about her, like “Her smile is cute,” “Her eyes are pretty,” and stuff like that.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I tend to look and work out what she’s really like, can I second guess anything about her.

does her outfit match her shoes, has she any tattoos, does she look like sort of person with sense of humour.

Then I sort of make up a story for her, what her job is, what she did going to work etc.

MCheetah · Answer

... Sex. (Truthfully)

ohshee · Answer

If I'm someplace where I see a beautiful girl the first thing that I feel is her I feel her energy if I feel that then she has my attention fixing a look at it too clothes and then you both look at each other at the same time and wish I could see her eyes I know whether she is beautiful on the inside or whether she is a grumpy spoiled girl is she just beautiful on the inside I just give a little smile. I think to myself you are beautiful and I just keep on walking

SeekerOfBooty · Answer

Nothing.
I just see an attractive shape, so I instinctively look at it.

I don't think about anything in particular 99.9% of time throughout the day, and definitely don't have enough time or attention to think about anything concrete within the one second timeframe in which someone attractive happens to pass me by.

JCrockett · Answer

Usually I just admire whatever it is I'm looking at. When you taste something, do you imagine doing something else to the food? Or do you just appreciate the taste itself? It's like that.

Sometimes, however, I'll imagine touching it. But I don't often get more explicit than that when I'm just looking at someone in public.

slatyb · Answer

Kissing her.

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Its usually hyper sexual, but I also try to envision personality, into it to see if we would last

Phoenix98 · Answer

Lol.

Wester1967 · Answer

How much toxic BS is she carrying with her

NoOneEver · Answer

I mean it just depends if I’m already into a girl I really like and still notice another girl it’s because I’m looking at her clothes and it’s usually something I’d like to see the girl I like wear..

if I’m not with anyone.. usually I am just admiring the girl and I probably think she’s pretty.

my sexual thoughts are usually reserved for girls I have talked with or had some sort of maybe even silent interactions with..

I would think it’s be exhausting to see every girl as something only sexual, but who knows..

unfortunately a lot of life proves there are people who either get stuck in that mindset from too much porn or maybe they just actually enjoy thinking that way too much..

VikingWarLord · Answer

I'm rating her appearance 1 through 10  If she's under a 7, I would bang but I'd cheat if we were in a relationship.  If she's obese I just look the other way.

BobbyC65 · Answer

I think about how they look naked when I'm checking out girl's and there breasts size. 💞

Jamie05rhs · Answer

My friend told me it wasn't right to do that, so I try not to, generally.

convo_king89 · Answer

Of course I’m checking out her body and face. Im boob guy so look at her tits. In skimpy athletic attire ill more skin and get a better idea of what she looks like naked. If she is walking and her boobs bounce it’s a turn on. But also I’ll wonder what kind of panties she is wearing too. Then I look to see if she has panty lines which I love. But also what kind panties she wears normally like at the moment I’m randomly checking her out not no getting dressed for date or to laid.

Northernlights25 · Answer

I only "scan" women I find attractive and yes, sex is what rotates in my mind for a few seconds and then I go about my business. I try not to do that but sometimes it's almost a reflex.

vald9inches · Answer

Every guy has their own preference or taste but in general if you are attractive guys are scoring you on their own chart of attractiveness to see if you are a 10 or a 5 and so on and so on. After he understands what your attractiveness is he has to make a decision if he wants to approach you or not. If he doesn't want to approach you the encounter and attractiveness score is quickly forgotten or is noted and logged. If he does want to approach you he has to quickly calculate the probability of success based on the information he has. The type of environment the encounter is in what type of personality she has based on mannerism clothes body language voice etc etc at least for me that might sum up my personal processes but i believe its the same for most guys

jahaims · Answer

Appreciation/admiration for the female figure

IncognitoBandito · Answer

Depends if she's dressed more cuddly/adorable or more sensual

whosnumber1 · Answer

it depends a bit... if I'm really checking you out I probably envision getting my hands on you

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