Is it normal and moral to date multiple people at the same time?

[Red_Dawn123]

Basically, do you think it is personally okay and morally acceptable for people to date (see, and or have sex with) multiple people at the same time until they decide who they want to be exclusive with? I’m a younger guy but the idea of seeing more than one person at a time or having casual sex outside of a committed monogamous relationship has always repulsed me. Is that odd? What are yall’s thoughts?

[MrNameless]

I wouldn't call it immoral if it's not established yet. It sucks if you have feelings, but assume people on tinder are like this, especially girls who get matched more often then guys

[exitseven]

I dated multiple people for a while. I was not in real relationships with any of them. Once I found somebody I wanted to get serious with I stopped seeing anyone else.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Normal? Probably not, but I still do it.

Moral? Doesn't matter. Everyone has different ideas of what is moral or not.

[Red_Dawn123]

Why do you do it though? Just curious.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

There are a few different reasons, but ultimately it's just what my wife and I are comfortable with. We realize there are just some things we want that the other is unable to provide in the same way someone else can.

[Red_Dawn123]

Are you saying you two have an open marriage?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Poly marriage which is a little different.

[Red_Dawn123]

I see. I could never, lol. But if that works for you two and you’re happy. That’s what matters.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

It takes a LOT of trust and communication for it to work. Most importantly (and I fully realize this is going to sound strange) it requires a lot of respect for your partner. We talk all the time about anyone who we may be involved with and get opinions. If I have doubts about someone, she will do pros and cons with me, and she makes sure that I'm ok and not being abused or anything (as I have a tendency to be submissive and too nice at times).

[Red_Dawn123]

Trust and good communication are hard to come by in relationship’s now-days. So rare. But I’m glad y’all have found that.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Thank you! Going on nearly 21 years together this year 😊

[slatyb]

Yes, as long as you aren’t lying about it.

[Red_Dawn123]

I don’t agree with the idea of it, but I do think you can never go wrong with honesty.

[slatyb]

If you are dating to find a life partner, one at a time is pretty inefficient.

[boobliker]

if you must do it be careful about it!

[Red_Dawn123]

I personally will never do it. But tell me. Why should a person be careful about it?

[boobliker]

not to up set others and STD's

[In_Trance]

morals don't exist

[Red_Dawn123]

Yes. They do. Certain people have them. Certain people don’t. Morals are one of the few things that separates us from animals.

[In_Trance]

That's an assumption

[Red_Dawn123]

By that logic it can be said that your statement of “morals don’t exist” can be called an assumption on your end.

[In_Trance]

The inconsistencies in living beings speaks to my assumption being accurate

[Anonymous]

I'm so sick of whores and I feel the way you do.