Would you allow your bi girlfriend to still have sexual interactions with women, sometimes with and without you?

[charlean]

Let’s say this bi girlfriend doesn’t have romantic attraction to women, only sexual

[Stevepro68]

Probably I'd be fine with it. I'm a rare individual. My girlfriend is bisexual. We have a solid relationship. She is a SW I actually have to deal with these questions. She dances and occasionally she has female customers or couples that turn her on. If she asked if never say no. We have had three some sometimes a friend. Once or twice with a coworker, but sometimes it makes her insecure. Even though she wants it to happen, if I am into the other girl and not her she gets a smidge jealous. SO I don't encourage it. Sounds weird to most guys. Porn is not life. Porn threesomes it's always two girls servicing one guy... The male fantasy.
Real life It's two women getting each other off... where you get to come along for the ride. I'm not saying it's bad it's still pretty awesome. Women, even incredibly beautiful women, still get self conscious in those situations. My advice is to any man. Be passive let them drive the bus, be patient. There will involve you and it will be worth the wait.
Without me... a girl. I have the TMI rule she can tell me anything she does at work. But when I say TMI it stops. Outside of work violates our trust and wouldn't happen. So when she does she tells me and I'm cool with it.

[charlean]

this is an interesting take, thanks

[globetrotter22]

The young immature me not only liked but encouraged this. Seeing two women do it drives me nuts sexually. It used to be all i fantasized about seeing.

But the older and repentant me knows this is not a good idea. If she really wants to i wouldn’t mind just as long as there was thorough communication between her, me and the other woman. But ever since I gave up porn I found myself thinking more straight (pun intended) on all of this.

But the problem is the other woman can pose a threat to the relationship even more so than a man could. Women know how to manipulate and poison people’s minds. If the other woman dislikes me I can see this as a major problem.

[charlean]

i didn’t select this as MHO, I don't know it does this sometimes and doesn’t call it an AI pick. but still, thanks for the comment, i appreciate it!

[globetrotter22]

I was just being honest. Trust me a part of me gets way turned on with this arrangement. Either hearing about the details or better seeing it for real. But the long term impacts can be very risky.

[Tyme1313]

You don't have an option for me... I would be fine with her having sex with another girl, if she was fine with me having sex with another guy too. Given that I'm bi too.

[jaybee281]

Bi or not - If we're in a relationship - it's just me and her - If she wants us to be just casual then fine we'll have a threesome, and obviously her doing whatever she wants with whomever she wants would be none of my business

[OlderAndWiser]

If she is not ready to settle down to a monogamous relationship, she can go fuck the rest of the world, and I will look for someone who does want monogamy.

[charlean]

You can still be settled down in a relationship while having a certain arrangement but yes, that’s totally understandable too, we all have our preferences.

[OlderAndWiser]

For most of us, "settled down" means commitment to a monogamous and faithful relationship.

[charlean]

yep i’m aware, hence the poll to see a rough guide of how many would be interested in a settled relationship that isn’t monogamous

[SeekerOfBooty]

Lol, these votes are hilarious.
Most men on g@g claim they won't touch a girl with a 5 foot pole unless she is an exclusive virginal maiden, but mention that the other person is a chick and all of a sudden the majority of them seem happy to get cuckolded.

[charlean]

LMAO

[normalice]

It's fine but I would forbid oversize toys. I fully understand how hot women are but I can't be one, so if that's what a girl I'm with wants she will have to seek it elsewhere.

[AndyOh]

The only other rule I would have is that it is only with women. If a guy shows up, she needs to stick to the code and leave. Otherwise, now we have a different game and trust just went out the door.

[charlean]

Definitely

[Finchie40]

That’s something she would have to address to me in the beginning of the relationship otherwise then it would be considered cheating

[charlean]

the wording of the post means that it would only happen if it was consented to (meaning not cheating)

[Finchie40]

If your partner agrees with it and is ok with it then it should be fine , if they think otherwise and don’t agree and the partner still does it anyways then that is cheating and the relationship would more than likely end , If someone can’t remove selfishness for their partner the same way they expect them to remove selfishness for them then that relationship won’t last , that person doesn’t know what it means to be in a relationship and probably better off staying single because they are selfish and only thinking of themselves

[charlean]

lol you really just mansplained

[Finchie40]

LOL well it’s true. It’s called respect for each other , that’s the difference between girls and guys , and why a lot of relationships tend to fail , if you can’t wear your partner’s shoes like you want them to wear yours that’s when shit starts hitting the fan , if you both can’t make each other your priority and remove selfishness and sacrifice for each other then be prepared to be single

[charlean]

i’m not saying it’s not true. i’m saying u mansplained cause obviously i know what cheating is, and that it’s bad. it’s not at all what the question was about

[Finchie40]

I understand your question , I am just saying that would be something you and your partner would have to discuss and figure out between the both of you , and for you to figure out what is more important to you, if your partner doesn’t agree with you. Me personally wouldn’t want my bi girlfriend to be having sex without me considering I was in a relationship with a bi girl before that was open to me about it when we first started dating , sadly I didn’t take the relationship seriously cuz there really wasn’t just the 2 of us, there was always a 3rd wheel that got in between us even though her and I agreed and made rules in the relationship it turned into major drama the he said she said bullshit , it was fun in the beginning until emotions got deeper and the 3 rd wheel was playing the both of us and lying and manipulating and pretty much pulling her and I apart for her selfish needs , it was constant drama to the point I said fuck it good luck to you , Don’t get me wrong the sex was fun but the relationship was fake cuz the 3rd wheel got in between us , I feel the only way a relationship would work if both people were bi , cuz I hated when she was out without me getting it on with another girl while I was home worried about her wondering if it was just her and another girl out another guy involved , it was constant shady shit to the point I just threw in the towel , It was basically her way or no way and I told her good luck with that , I didn’t feel like a priority to her so I walked away

[Citizenkirk]

I can't imagine forbidding her any form of release, but I am a monogamous man and would consider such a activity while dating her, to be cheating on me.
Accept for friends with benefits, but only then, if neither one of us are seeing anyone on a regular basis.

[Bricealan]

I said with and without me. But it would be the best if she did and did not feel she had to tell me. Have her own private sexual partners in addition to she and I

[Drumlin2001]

I'm have quite a high sex drive, higher than OH's, I suppose I'd be OK with another woman joinng us, but not sure bout them carrying on without me.

[charlean]

Okay, thanks for your input!