Why are men rougher the first time they have sex with a new partner, and then get gentler as the relationship progresses?

[Anonymous]

[LiLaLydia]

In my experience it's the opposite. They start more gentle because they are afraid the girl won't like it rough or don't like their kinks. And then once you get to know each other they open up a bit more.

If it's just a hookup it can be different but when dating seriously that's my experience

[Asker]

It was the same when I was younger too, but I’m older now and so are the men (2 that I’ve dated since my 30s).

[SitBackRelax]

It takes men several years to calm down and with age become more grounded and finally realize that womanhood is the most special of all things on earth. Once he realizes how to love, he becomes more tender during sex. He wants to see to her comfort. He wants her to feel cherished and like a queen. As I’ve gotten older, I’m not into the fast pace stick it in and wam! I want to take my time to actually make love.

[ChrisMaster69]

I’m not normally like that, however it may be they want to prove how much of a guy they are.

for me it usually gets far rough as the relationship goes on

[Asker]

That’s an interesting thought. What is it that may make them feel like they want to show how manly they are?

[ChrisMaster69]

Possibly lack of experience, insecurity and this need to show how manly they are. It can prove counter productive, as having someone being rough the first time can be off putting

[Asker]

We still have rough sex every now and then. But it felt a bit more primal and animalistic the first time. It’s just felt more sweeter since too.

[Asker]

One guy was married then divorced. The other has some fawning over him so I’m not sure it’d be a lack of experience.

[Asker]

*has women

[ChrisMaster69]

As a relationship develops each finds out more how the other actually likes it. Obviously sitting down talking about it is best idea. More so for me with more kinky stuff

[Asker]

So trying to be manly is in the hopes of trying to attract the women to keep them interested, or more for ego purposes…

[Asker]

Makes sense. I like both rough and soft, but he tends to gear more towards the softer now which is what made me wonder why be tougher in the beginning.

[Asker]

*rougher

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah everyone is different, for me it’s always about taking it slow until we find what each other likes, what gives us that release

[msmissydc]

Not in my experience. But I only had two guys more than onces.

[Asker]

It was the same when I was younger too, but I’m older now.

[Tyrael]

I don't start rough personally, I feel like that could put a girl off. And generally I'm just not that rough anyway.

[DonkeyDan]

Really? Im normally the other way around.

[slatyb]

Men? That's not true if all men. We frequently have questions from women asking what they can do to get their partners to be more forceful.

[Asker]

Well I’m only talking about two men here since turning 30. But that’s been my personal experience so just was curious as to why.

[VikingWarLord]

Because we aren't monogamous creatures. After awhile, it gets boring with the same person over and over, and things settle down. But add in a new partner in the bedroom and VOILA... all that sexual aggressiveness will come ROARING back to life.

[Naughtyboy71]

Can't answer that never be rough gently kiss and massage you
Spread your legs lift them above your head kiss, lick ass to pussy
cup your pussy in my mouth and tongue fuck you

[shanshu]

I think some are trying to prove that they are good in bed 3ven the first time, they want to act like alphas, making sure the girl isn't getting bored or unsatisfied

[Asker]

Sounds about right as I doubt I give off the impression that’s what I want.

[shanshu]

I think when it comes to a new partner you shod stay when getting physical as them to be gentle, say it's been awhile and I'm sure they will be gentle with you

[Anonymous]

I don't think that's typical, and I suspect your experience is partly a result of what men initially perceive you would want, and then later discover you actually want.

[Anonymous]

Because they start to care about the female