there is a saying "if women knew as much about our vaginas as men know about their penis there would be more women getting off instead of just getting screwed" the reason though is simple biology. procreation dosn't really require us to orgasm to propagate our species as were men do. also due to our fickle nature and sex drives a man has to be ready to go and able to unload very quickly to get the job done. biologically speaking the vagina is rather poorly designed for sexual enjoyment. I have read a few studies that the only reason we can really orgasm at all is because. the female body is the analogue for the male body. all vertebrate embryos start off as female. if given two sets of x chromosomes we stay female. if given a y the vagina seals up the ovaries develop into testes and the clitoris develops into a penis. its why men look like they have a stitch line that runs the length of their scrotum and up the penis... it is literally were their vagina would have been. the reason this is important where we are concerned is that our genitals are an evolutionary after thought. only 3 parts of the vagina feel any sensation at all. the clit the gshot and the cervix. the vagina the which is were a mans penis goes only sense pressure. it is why so many women do not cum or do not cum easily from simply having a penis in there. because mercifully mother nature realized that having a tube of flesh packed full of nerve endings that you have to sgweeze something the size of a water Mellon threw would be bad design so nature moved everything as far away from that as possible. some women are anatomically better designed to orgasm from vaginal sex or I should say more easily most of us are not.
the reason I am so well versed in this is because after my second son was born... kind fucked me up down there. before he was born I could orgasm easy enough, afterwards not so much. as daft as this sounds I had to seek out a doctor to explain to me that I needed to be more clitoral focused in sex as the trauma of child birth kind of shift things around and desensitized my girl parts. I also had to retrain the hubby how to sex me to get me going properly. toys fingering all that stuff. that is another part in women not being able to orgasm. we always feel like we are going to hurt his feelings if he is not doing it right and we have to correct them. unless he is a total dick head I have read that most men prefer for their woman to let them know what they like instead of us laying there faking it. my husband always ensures he gets me off before he does.
Jesus nature truly fucked us women.
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Five minutes seems generous, but I agree 30 minutes of foreplay at least. A good man though will have some self control and can go much longer than that.
I can usually go from foreplay alone, but once is never enough... keep going and going and going again and again.
It really isn't fair, that is why I often joke if I could switch bodies with my boyfriend for a little while, the first thing I'd do is have sex for two minutes, see how he (now as me) likes it when I say okay done.
Compare it to massage, how it feels to get quick 2min massage and then ok its done get out of here vs slow fuul body massage dor 30-1h where u feel so relaxed to almost pass out. Ams the after effect as well feeling relaxed dor hours or days after. Vs m did i had sex or not? 2min can't remember.
Hi! I’m both a psychologist and close to finishing my medical degree. The thing about nature is that it follows natural selection, which doesn’t really care what people think. It just means certain behaviors or attributes make creatures more likely to survive and reproduce. So ironically, you see it’s unfair that orgasms are faster with men. The truth is, women are lucky to have orgasms at all. It makes sense, that they do because throughout history, the women that enjoy sex are ones more likely to reproduce and so the female orgasm crept into humanity. But in regards to having offspring, women don’t need the function. However, the female orgasm is much more powerful than the male one. It takes a lot more work to get there, meaning women get a lot more sexual attention (obviously depends on personality but if the only factors were length of time spent on achieving orgasm, it would be true).
evolutionarily speaking, males are programmed to quickly spread their seed to as many females as possible. Females, on the other hand, need to be really cautious about who they have sex with because they are stuck with 9 months of consequences, where physically they become pretty helpless. Not to mention taking care of the baby. So they need to find a male that will protect them during pregnancy and play an active role in raising children. Not to mention a male that will pass on genes to make her child capable in the world too. That’s why women are less attracted to looking at a naked penis, because what’s more important is a personality that will make a capable partner and a physique that will protect her. Men are more attracted to appearance because it implies she’s healthy enough to survive the pregnancy (and boobs, because she can nurse the baby).
Something else men think is unfair is that sperm should taste good. But if course if it did, girls might want to suck on penises more than put them in their vaginas. It’s all about making a stronger species.
No use wishing things were different, because humanity would look very different! But just because sperm doesn’t taste good doesn’t mean girls can’t enjoy sucking on penises. And just because girls need more work to orgasm doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy it!
This is an amazing answer! And I’ll admit it kinda turned me on a little! Makes me wanna have sex! And even “suck on a penis”!
@JessicaEarl go find yourself a good one!
This is simply legendary, best of luck Doctor 🙏🏻
Well since you asked I'm tell you, see most men just have no or little self control get so damn excited at thought of sex it just to touch you women they just let loose with their sea weed no control maturity and being able to hold off till you are ready or in my case after you had several climaxes then release together, but usually it's the first timers out once in a whilers who shoot early, self control is what it comes down to, and it's not easier see once he does he have to regenerate for shot depends on if he's on any ummm vitamins takes 10 to 30 minutes and it's round 2 but longer, unlike women damn you can organism one after the the other and not lose steam, just go go go for ever no lag time to regenerate get hard just keep on going not fair, especially when you say are you ready yet or is that it come on that was only my 45th time and I have to say baby don't be too greedy ok got rest of our life to enjoy this not trying to break any records this won't be recorded in Guinness book ok
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!There's a hell lot of theory behind this.
Why is it that if a male is excited, you can easily notice it where as there's no easy way for the male to know whether the female partner is excited?
I think the male psychology makes them orgasm driven. For most of the males, orgasm is the destination once they are turned on whereas for most if the women, they even dont want sex (penetrative).
Its anatomy and also the psychology that makes the males different from females. But then you can always talk and buy them your desires to have the actual fun.
I personally have watched porn and masturbate to cum in like a minute. I know that's gonna make my partner suffer but then thats what I have learned.. to please my self because I have always been single and pleasure was important for me.
Well those who know, know.
often all they want is a blowjob and once they cum it's over sex wise... so often a boyfriend will kiss then take out his cock to be sucked then he cums.
I would love to get a blowjob that easily
Chrissy, you down?
@JessicaEarl lol!
One word- Biology.
Because there is no natural need to draw it out. Trying to extend it is totally unnatural. It's trying to do something we are not really designed to do. Millions of years of evolution make it that way, so take it up with Darwin, it's his fault. :)
Should we even question or complain about biological differences really?
I'm not complaining... it gives us plenty of time to love our man and get turned on to him !!!
Exactly! When it’s my turn, I get way more out of it than him because it lasts so much longer! If it’s a night we’re taking turns that is
men can ejaculate quicker than that, my husband climaxed with out being touched once, mind you there was other things going on
The idea of "fairness" should be abandoned absolutely!
Ever hear the expression "He who fights and runs away, LIVES to fight another day".
Men's and women's naturally-evolved roles differ greatly; males simply serve as Nature's pneumatic syringes to diversify genetic DNA. In several species, the males release their genetic cargo and expire shortly thereafter.
Females evolved to produce then incubate fertilized Ova (approx. 435 in average life's menstrual cycle); female orgasm evolved as a 'reward' incentive to prolong copulation, to assure maximum opportunity for maximal semen transfer... but, as many an unfortunate female has found, the female's 'reward' is NOT necessary for actual conception to occur. Insemination can even occur artificially and even in some rare incidents, accidentally.
In 'precocious puberty' even pre-pubescent females have conceived as documented young as 4yrs 7 months (incidentally this occurred in Peru and is alleged to have been consensual) and I myself, a victim of in-home grandmaternal familial incest, got 'first wood' erection at age five. (No way to tell if I was 'shooting blanks' at that age, although my nascent testes had descended)
It doesn't take much for me. I honestly think women can masturbate too much (just like men can) desensitizing their bodies to their partner's touch.
Point blank each person's skin has a different circumference of skin. The sensitivities will depict how fast or slow a person male orgasms. Some ste thick skinned for whatever reason or purpose of activity and the amount if the activity that can also depict how long a person can last. If exercise training can be a guide then if you workout everyday religiously then say after a year you have toned and strengthened to a degree. Now if you stop and go back 6 months later it will not start at the same place you left off due to inactivity. Same with intimacy the more frequent the more tolerance can be built up over time.
To be 100% honest is because they are lazy and they make it all about themselves once they do that they can come in 2 minutes LOL they want it done and over with they just want to get their nut and start there day.
But then you got people like me who want to control and make it all about the girl so I don't come too fast I want to be able to take her to her first second or third orgasm before I even have precum and that's because when I do have an orgasm I want to freaking explode and the only way that I'm going to do that is to take her to those three places and make her scream that's what turns me on and that's what makes me have the best orgasm after the fact she had hers
Hi Storm,
Males and females experience sexual stimulation, arousal and climax differently. For women, sexual stimulation is an emotional, whole person experience that involves every facet of her being. For men, sexual stimulation is a purely mental, physical experience that is singular in its purpose and in a compartment all its own. This may explain why men are able to detach sex from love so easily. As for why males can often reach orgasm much quicker than females, the answer is biology. In ancient times, the need for the male to breed quickly and often was for the sake of his well-being and the survival of the human species. And yet, today, even those traits are changing. I rarely climax quicker than 10 minutes, and I have been with a number of women who came in under 4 or 5 minutes. So I guess it just depends on the guy and the gal!
It is evolution and biology. For pregnancy, only the male is REQUIRED to orgasms in order to transport sperm cells into female. And since animals usually can't afford long time of passion where they don't look out for predators or other males, males have evolved to finish as soon as possible.
I don’t have this problem. I think some woman either try too hard, expect, demand from themselves… Just relax. As in honestly relax. Not “but I tried!!!” It’s a state of being in the moment.
Seems that some women understand how to have orgasms and others don't. Expecting orgasms haha, for sure will not get one.
Can't relate since I'm fast at orgasming and always happens multiple times. I imagine if men are really getting off faster it's cause they are comfortable with their bodies and know what gets them off
Maybe stop whining about what’s “fair”. Life isn’t fair.
Or maybe I should start complaining about the fact that even though I can orgasm relatively quickly, women can orgasm multiple times with no refractory period, whereas I can’t. Speaking of “fair”, how is THAT fair?
Mostly psychological part physical.
We have an organ that's easier to stimulate in general. Then there's the mental side. Girls tend to have a harder time because of upbringing.
Your views on sex, how comfortable with your body and sex, how horny you are, how attracted to your guy you are, how safe you feel with them. All of that plays into your ability to enjoy and have sex
Like just relaxing your mind improves your ability to have sex. Just being able to clear your head and only have your attention in the moment will improve your ability to have sex. If you don't overstimulate yourself during masturbation that increases your ability to have good sex
I dunno. Anatomy and biology I guess. 🤷♀️ Guys cum easier, but girls can have multiple orgasms. Multiple orgasms is just one more reason I love being a girl!
Lol im jealous
At 1st sex attempt mostly men's orgasm very fast but the best way for long erection without orgasm is don't pull out the penis from vagina when sperm ejectulation occurs at 1st attempt, slowly up and down in vagina after maximum 5 to 10 minutes penis again start erect fully with full hardness and it's my personal experience then start the fuck and sure it takes maximum half to 1 hour for sperm ejectulation and the girl beg for please finished it please orgasm yourself oh man...
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