LGBT How many of you struggle with your sexuality?

I hate being bisexual. Many think its wonderful we have "more options" or you just deal with a ton of negativity like "pick one", "you talk to guys more you can't be bi" and so on. Or I'm lesbian fantasy material for most straight guys. I also feel I have to "prove" to people I love both sexes. Do I really need to show my porn history? The girls I kissed and touched back when I was younger?

Even had lesbians and gays just attack us. What the hell..

I dont mind opinions from heterosexuals but please be civil.
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  • I'm a 100% straight man, I honestly have never felt sexually attracted to other men or masculine looking women, so it's difficult for me to understand what you experience as a Bisexual.

    I find lots of different women attractive, white, black, Asian, Indian, Latino etc, but once I meet a woman and start a relationship, my preferences no longer matter, I'm then 100% with her. So I no longer discuss my preferences with others, just discuss her.

    I think life might be easier if you take this approach, yes you are Bisexual, but its nobody else's business who you find attractive. All that matters is that it's mutual and genuine attraction.

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  • I'm a gay man. My struggle lasted through many years of adolescence, but mostly subsided once I became an adult. Since I am effeminate, people can immediately tell I'm gay and some take it as a reason, even opportunity, to be nasty. I won't lie, sometimes it hurts, but the frequency of that happening dropped in time.

    Now, I don't care anymore what other people think how I should live my life, because they live theirs as they wish. Why shouldn't I? The same goes for you. You can be attracted to men, or women, or both. It's your life and you don't have to justify it to anyone.

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  • There is nothing wroth with your sexuality. The only problem is the ignorant masses. But yes, I have also gotten the whole “there is no such thing as bisexuality” bullshit. Just remember that you don’t need to prove a god damn thing to anyone but yourself.

    • I know. Not sure why I just had to break down tonight. Probably an insecurity thing

    • If it makes you feel better I almost got expelled in high school for dealing with a guy who attempted to “turn me straight.”

  • I struggled early and experimented to see if I could be something I wasn't. Now as I have gotten older I feel like my sexuality is a bit more fluid. I'm still only sexually attracted to other women, but I feel I can be romantically tied to any gender.

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  • definitely, i've liked girls for as long as i can remember. And sometimes i just wish i was "normal", but find people that truly support you and your life will change for the better :)

    • It just hurts worse when some one who is close to you doubts you about it.

    • i'm sorry your going through that, just recently my mom told me she thought i was making it up for attention. just know in your heart there are a bunch of people just like you and you are valid <3

  • Maybe I’m a late bloomer, but I’m finding it exciting.
    i would never have explored being bi or had an interest in It had i not tried a threesome.
    so, I’m thinking there are many more bi people out there that just have not explored their bi side due to lack of opportunity. I see how it can be a struggle, but being new to the feeling, I find it interesting.

  • My guess is that you talk too much about it to get that many comments and criticisms.
    I am bi-sexual and I don't talk to anyone about it, unless I am with others I know who are in the same boat as me.
    Just be you, and enjoy those you are around without talking about sex.

  • Right now I'm just dealing with the one LGBT thing. I'm not even worried about sexuality rn because if I fucked this up, then I'm straight. Only if this part is good, then I'm gay, and then I have to deal with that. Or maybe I'm just one of those horny ace people either way. I don't know, I haven't looked into it that much, like I said, I'm dealing with the one thing first.

    So I guess I'm just procrastinating my sexuality struggle, which is hardly a surprise... I hope yours gets easier to handle anyway.

  • I'm probably not the answer to your question tonight. I just happen to think bi women areamazing. Hang in there and if you ever want a male perspective feel free to message me

  • I struggled a lot with my sexual orientation growing up. It was not pretty. It helped me to realize the only opinion that matters is my own. I can take what others say into consideration, but their opinions about me will never be as important as my own.

  • I like what I like, I don't like what I don't like... it's not a struggle.

  • I'm happy being bisexual

  • I still struggle with this. I’m bisexual but don’t want people to judge me for it and have lost some friends over it. But you start to find and surround yourself with people that accept you for you. I’m sorry you are struggling with this.

  • Lots of people don't like bisexuals but just be who you want to be, it's really none of their business. I'm bisexual but am attracted only to women, same sex is just for sex for me.

  • I used to but not anymore. My bisexuality is here to stay, although lately I find myself seeking men more than women.

  • No, I love being bisexual.