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Can I get upset at my boyfriend looking at onlyfans models?

I had a look on my boyfriends visited links on Instagram and seen he has been looking at onlyfans models on Instagram.

We have discussed this in the past, when he followed an onlyfans model after me telling him my views on it etc and I let him know again it made me upset and uncomfortable.

I know some people don’t see the big deal in it, but for me I’m upset because I have communicated to him multiple times that it makes me uncomfortable, but he still looks them up etc.

I have said to him that if this is something he enjoys doing that it’s okay but I’m just not comfortable being in a relationship with someone that does it and there would be no hard feelings. But he insisted that’s not the case and he would feel uncomfortable if I was doing the same with males.

Im fine with him watching porn and accept he will find other people attractive but acting on it and actively searching and digging around these models im not okay with.

Do I cut things off?
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Superb Opinion

  • Have you asked him why he continues to do it? He seems to understand your feelings, so is it just plain disrespect? Or does he have a problem? Unless you've already decided to end things, I would talk to him more, but now, it's not how it makes you uncomfortable (because he knows this), but why is he still doing it, and is there something missing for him (example you don't have sex enough?), or has it just become a habit he can't seem to break? If he tries to brush you off or avoid talking about it, then let him know that if he doesn't talk to you, that it could very well mean the end of the relationship for you because he's not respecting your wishes or needs.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well what you need to do this time when you talk to him about it just tell him well I guess your going back and looking at those girls again so I'm just going to help you out this time I'm going to show you my page for all the boys look at me hey fair is fair right if you get to look at girls then the boys can look at you. Let's see how much he like that

Most Helpful Girls

  • I mean, you can get upset if you'd like. I am just genuinely curious why that is the line you specifically draw. If you are ok with him looking at porn then isn't that basically the same? He is actively looking for porn the same as he is with these girls. I guess I'm struggling to understand the difference.

    • In my opinion porn is a lot more general, where as onlyfans and Instagram is a lot more personal. Same idea I’d be upset if he watched the same pornstar over and over again.

    • Ohhh got it. It's emotional attachment you are afraid of. That's fair I suppose. So follow up question then. If it stays impersonal then it's whatever because it's typical guy hormones and guys are gonna be guys sometimes. If it becomes an obsession or just a targeted interest then do you feel like he may be pulling away from you or is it a thing where you feel lacking in some way? I'm not trying to be rude, I'm actually legit curious. I personally deal with a lot of self doubt myself so it helps me to understand more about myself to hear how others think.

  • At least you know his preferences by knowing what kind of beauty he follows. But if it makes you uncomfortable break it off. I am sure there are guys who don’t do this and are busy with something else. Every men will look at a beautiful woman if she passes by but not all actively follow them.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If you have voiced your opposition to it and he continues, then yes... time to call that what it is, which is he doesn't care about your feelings. That, to me, is lack of respect.

  • If you both feel unhappy with the situation, and already talked about it, then maybe yes, you could consider leaving him

    • He doesn’t want to end it, and said it won’t happen again. But this is twice he has looked at these models while knowing my thoughts on it :(

    • Yes you both feel sad from it. To be honest you can't really change people...

  • It sounds like he is not respecting your wishes so you might want to move on. Do you think he masturbates to the women he is following? How is your sex life with him?

  • No. He's only a boyfriend, not a husband.

    Get a life, you control freak, psycho.

  • You could, but I think an open discussion with him would be more advantages than getting a chip on your shoulder.

  • yes, that's disrespectful as fuck

  • You're okay with him watching porn but not okay with him looking at pictures of OF models? What's the difference?

  • I don’t blame you

  • Follow FDS on reddit.

  • Okay you are giving him way much upper hand..

    If you are his committed girlfriend..
    He shouldn't be doing this shit!..

  • Sure, cut him off. You can be a mommy to some other dumbfuck. Dear lord.
    "Uncomfortable"? WTF over. It's just ALWAYS and ALL about your little feelings isn't it?
    Newsflash toots - ALL GUYS LOOK. Get the fuck over yourself.

    • Well…….. you suck…..

    • @JessicaEarl - No, YOU suck. In every way. FAIL

  • If you feel that strongly about it, the relationship probably isn’t the right one for you.

  • that's up to you, we can't decide that for you

  • He thinks you're CuckQuean material.
    Hate to be blunt, but we know what a chic will put up with, especially if she's average in looks. Admit it, it turns you on that he doesn't respect your wishes and he keeps looking at other hotter females on Onlyfans. If I saw a pic of you, I could tell you why he keeps doing it. I can read chics like a dammn book!

  • Why did you have a look at his visited links?

    • Because he has followed an onlyfans model in the past and It made me insecure tbh.

    • Oh you did this when you were feeling insecure. Did you tell him what you found? And did you know why you felt insecure?

  • Can you? Yes. Should you? Maybe. Have you talked to him about it? You have to remember that guys are very visual. But he shouldn't be making you feel uncomfortable.

  • Are you "uncomfortable" because:
    * You don't look as hot as these models?
    * Does it make you sad that he needs other girls to look at?
    * Do you imagine he's fantasizing about fucking them more than he does about you?
    * Do you feel inadequate? Not good enough?

    Thing is, most all guys fantasize about having sex with someone "hotter" than their partner, but they don't advertise it, or let their partners think they're inadequate because they guys know -- it's just a fantasy. They know how to appreciate who and what they have. Sounds like you're not getting that from him.

    I think everyone in a relationship should be smart enough to realize - "there's always someone hotter than either of us ---- but so what?" You choose your partner for more than that. You need to be secure enough in that knowledge, but you also shouldn't be treated like you're second rate. If you're not "special enough" to him, it's time to move on.

  • If it bothers you that much, than end it.

  • I would get mad. I know lots of people who come online that are in relationships and they rationalize what they’re doing is ok whether it’s looking at porn, sexting, talking dirty, onlyfans.

  • Start following chippendales (or who ever the hot guys group of today is)

    • Or ditch the... gentleman clearly he's got more interest in 2 dimensional women

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