Do you have any sexual secrets or confessions?

Question

I enjoy being shared with my husband …we’re swingers and obviously have rules in place. No we aren’t weird and we both have careers. Most people don’t know we swing but I told 2 of my close friends who ask tons of questions.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You'd think that it would be that I have gotten four different women pregnant. However, actually, I love my children and have no regrets.

On the other hand, to start, I have been heterosexual all my life. However, in my very early days with my girlfriend, for reasons having mostly to do with me and which, for reasons of brevity I will not go into here, my girlfriend and I were a bit wild.

One thing that my girlfriend used to enjoy - and still does - is gay porn. Something about watching guys together turned her on and so we would watch it periodically. Really nothing more than that, though, and I'll even admit that seeing her turned on would turn me on.

So life went on and then - in a life imitates art moment - at a Christmas party with my gfd's office, a homosexual co-worker of my gfd's happen to mention to her that he thought I was cute. Very long story short, they came up with the idea of he and I having sex and she could watch to turn her on. His only stipulation is that sometimes he could be with me, just the two of us.

A few drinks and they thought this a brilliant idea and approached me about it. At first my answer was no, flat out. However, after much backing and forthing - and a zillion details I'll skip here - I gave in and, for the next 8 months or so, give or take, I found myself in a homosexual relationship.

It was not just in front of my girlfriend, but the guy and I would spend nights together and even two weeks one time when my girlfriend went out of town. (This was before my girlfriend and I lived together.) Funny part was that I enjoyed it - not in the same way or as much as I did, and do, being with women, but it was surprisingly pleasurable.

In terms of the sex - and yes, I was both top and bottom - it took getting used to but the sensations were weirdly arousing. It was different and that was a turn-on in ways that I did not expect. In part, I took this as being since a man understands a man's anatomy, we sort of understood what works. Just a guess, but it was not unpleasant if not quite as satisfying - at least for me - as being with a woman.

In terms of the emotional connection, I have to say that what I realized is that there are things that guys might share with another guy in a personal way that he might not even with a woman he loves. It wasn't love, per se, but there was an unexpected intimacy and empathy between us.

The two weeks we spent together while my girlfriend was away was not a sex-fest. We had work and other things going on, but we did have sex, and we would wake up next to each other and hold each other and, in brutal honesty, a sort of bond developed.

Still, it did not end well. For all that I still was not perfectly comfortable and we could see that he was getting more and more attached to me. What was going to be all about the kinky sexual thrills was clearly going further. So we ended it.

He took it hard and my girlfriend felt bad and found herself trying to match make for a gay guy. Nothing worked, but eventually he found another job and moved on in any case and we lost touch.

Frankly, I would never want to repeat the experience, but in brutal candor I did enjoy it - the sex very much included. That was, as I say, over a decade ago and my girlfriend moved in with me ten years ago and we are parents and we are not at all wild the way we were in our early days.

RobT312 · Accepted Answer

Curious to hear what their reaction was!
My girlfriend and I are not the kiss and tell type with our friends, but we did test our friends, a couple that we double date with, with a question about threesomes. Their reaction was not pretty, so we never got to the part of telling them we tried it

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

I won't tell my 'real' secrets because, well... they are secret... lol

I have done foursomes and moresomes though. Swinging is very popular where I am. Not that most people do it, of course, but in our large size population and diversity of lifestyles, it is more than one might think :)

Do you have any sexual secrets or confessions?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

1. There was a point where I did bdsm with a guy for a photo shoot gig. He ended up being a escort ring trafficker only for 18 year olds and above
2. I used to be super promiscuous up until I caught chlamydia , ever since then I changed my life.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Hell yeah, wish life expectancy was longer than say 80 or so, can enjoy being sexually involved much longer and to tell time slow down brother what's the rush, I'm not actually in a rush to you know go 6 foot under, kinda like it above ground so slow it down,

spartan55 · Answer

I was in the Lifestyle for 10 years with my ex. It was quite an experience.

Red_Dawn123 · Answer

I feel forever bonded with those I’ve had sex with. Some primal connection. It forever changes how I feel about the person.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I would rather do mutual masturbation than mutual oral.  If you are up for it, do you mind if I ask what some of your rules are?

DonkeyDan · Answer

Yeah maybe I have...

Chris758 · Answer

I'm 42 years old and I'm still as horny as when I was 16. I'm constantly getting hard and I could masturbate 3 times a day. I think I'm a Nympho.

humanearth · Answer

I did the swingers thing when I was younger, did group sex orgies, pretty much done it all. With girls and guys

The only thing I have not done, is been with someone outside my race. Just never had a opportunity for it to happen

Wester1967 · Answer

Guys who hate going down on women are idiots. It's the number one way to keep firm control of your girlfriend or wife.

awkward_author · Answer

I used to engage in sexual activity with a married man.

Desconhecida · Answer

I love being touched on my breasts.

StrawberryShake · Answer

Gross.

convo_king89 · Answer

Panty fetish here.

Dayman343 · Answer

I am a married man but I have been getting intimate with a younger guy on a regular basis.

max337 · Answer

Its not a special secret but i really love to try new stuff even weird ones

DarkChoc69 · Answer

I'm still green

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I believe in male supremacy and polygyny both really and as a sexual fetish. Its amazing how many girls desire this as well, just as much or even more than i do. I seem like a normal professional man but i keep multiple women at a time and we all hang out together.