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Boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what do I do?

My boyfriend wants to have a threesome with another guy, he’s not into guys but basically he wants to see me being pleasured by another guy, he gets off on that he said. I’ve never done anything like that before, and the thought of it doesn’t really turn me on. I love my boyfriend a lot and he’s the only one I want but I don’t want to disappoint him and not do this for him.

We’ve been talking about it for months but I think he really does want to do it and my worry is if I don’t he will eventually get bored or find someone else kinkier. he said a few of his friends do it and other couples, he said we’re running out of kinky things to do. I’m worried I’m not kinky enough for him. What do I do?
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  • This is your call, however if you are uncomfortable doing it or suspect it’s the start of a slippery slope, don’t do it.

    There are some fairly dark kinks out there and if you let him lead you without consent, you may quickly find yourself out of your depth.

    I have a rather kinky past but would never try and have a girlfriend do anything unless she was 100% sure and even then would make sure by waiting.

    i am guessing here, however I very much suspect he sees or hears about something and wants to try it, however does not have enough knowledge to risk assess, give informed consent or give you aftercare.

    it’s hard to run out of kinks, also his role should be to ensure you do kinks you get off on, not him.

    • Excellent advice

    • @Shy80sgirl I’ve seen it with Dom’s joint our club who have mainly watched porn and assume that is what the real world is like, they are soon corrected. It’s a very dangerous road to travel with someone thst is doing as her boyfriend is looking to do.

    • It is a shame to think that this is how a normal relationship would work, if in fact they both are expecting it to be a long-term relationship. I can’t imagine my husband asking me to do this when we were dating or now, and I certainly would not ask for the opposite. I think it would completely change the relationship that we have worked hard to establish over a very long period of time.

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  • Well... can you take a double penetration, or pleasure two guys at the same time? Also, do you think you have the self confidence to deal with the fallout if you turn out not as good to the other guy? What if you start getting uncomfortable and withdraw consent? etc etc.

    I always tell friends that while it's good to try new things, threesomes are not among them. Swingers are a different matter as they are on the game together.

    To be honest, this reads like a grooming scam, and he's just trying to test you to see if you'll make good meat to pimp out. He's clearly not bothered about you and pressuring you for little in return.

    Ditch him, in my opinion.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Does this seem to be the only thing that people can think about on GaG now is how many people to fuck at once? Why are these threesome questions keep popping up with such frequency? Can we get a separate category on GaG where these people can discuss it to their heart's delight? There should be a rule that these top 10 questions on Gag can not be asked more than once a week instead of the 25 we have now. Can we give threesomes a rest?
    By the way my answer is either do it or don't. It is your choice and you shouldn't be blackmailed into doing what you don't want to do so you can keep some kinky guy. Have some self respect.

    Boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what do I do?

    • Great answer

    • @daniela1982 you are so right.

  • That's tricky. If he's not a super insecure guy, then he's probably serious. It's up to you to know if he would do this as a loyalty test or not, but if he actually cared about you, he wouldn't pull that shit.

    So I say take him up on it, tell him to start picking guys. Worst case is you get to cut a weak dude out of your life. If he doesn't want you to say yes, then he shouldn't ask. It's not like you're out looking for it.

    And if he's serious, definitely do it. Make sure you both pick someone that you want, and don't look back. If it hurts him at first, he'll get over it.

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  • That is completely up to you whether to do that or not. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to. So, if it bothers you, don't do it. Clearly communicate that to him.

    If he loves you and respects you, he will listen and drop it. Just because he has a kink, doesn't mean you are required to fulfill it.

  • If you are not 100% into having a threesome for yourself, DO NOT DO IT!!!

    Never have a threesome just o make your partner happy.. its a terrible idea and it basically mean your relationship is probably destine for a terrible end.

    Tell him your not into it and will probably never be into it... if gets over it then you might be okay, but if complains, whines and keeps pressuring you then leave his ass and find a good man.

  • It sounds like this is more about his desire is the new yours. He has a mouth, two hands, and a penis, there are plenty of ways to use all those in a romantic or kinky fashion without adding another individual which will most certainly complicate your relationship down the road.

    • “Is the new” should read “and not”

  • Break up with him. Oh, and the fact that it's a Devil's Three-way means he's gay as f*ck (no pun intended). ANY man that wants to f*ck another man but "dating a woman," is super, over-the-top gay. Like, those Republican senators you'd always hear about in the 90s and 2000s. (Larry Craig, was the guy, right? "Knock two times for yes" on the airplane bathroom stall.)

    But yeah, f*ck that guy. But just not literally. He wants to sword fight with another man, and you don't need that in your life. Just like the lesbians who end up wanting three-ways with another chick.

    • Could not agree more

  • Yikes. Sorry to hear that. This is not cool. You should not be forced into doing anything you are not comfortable with. I can tell you about all of the fun my girlfriend had with a threesome but that’s not the point. The point is, We both wanted to try the threesome, that’s the only reason why it turned out well. If not all 3 people are on board then I say NO. If he can’t respect that then find someone else

  • Don’t do it it’s a trap!!!

  • Your boyfriend is a beta male who is trying to turn you into a slut.

  • You should only do it if you really feel comfortable with it and it doesn't sound like you are. He needs to understand your boundaries and if he isn't ok with that then you 2 aren't as compatible as you thought.

  • That's a really big ask. Don't do it if you aren't totally into it.

    "Running out of kinky things to do?" Really? What have you done?

    It's impossible for anyone to find a partner into EVERYTHING they have imagined, and who is compatible in other ways. I think your boyfriend is lucky to have found you.

  • I'm just a common, monogamous, heterosexual dude, and from my perspective, crossing swords should be exclusively for🤺⚔️🗡️.
    It sounds like you are not entirely on board with that so I'd say no way Jose, 😘 find another partner.

  • If you're not comfortable with it, then don't do it. If all he cares about is being "kinky" and doesn't take your feelings into account, then send him out the door. Let him find some dumb cum slut and you go find someone who actually respects you and takes your feelings into account.

  • Go on SDC (Swingers Dating Club) join the club briefly, meet some couples and then meet them and have your threesome or foursome. I did, and it was fun

  • Tell him no and take your leave from him. Your relationship is pure recreational and has no future.

  • Tell him you're not interested in having sex with any guy other than him. If he wants a threesome, add a toy to your play and make that the other guy... let him decide how and where the toy plays.

    Communications is important in a relationship. Be honest with him.

  • Let him know how you fell and do not let yourself be pressured into doing something you do not want to do.
    It can easily ruin a relationship.

  • Do it only if you feel comfortable about it.

  • I will probably be down to fuck you in front of him if he gets off to it.

  • well i promise u will it honey so do it

  • If you don't want to do this, talk with him and say your reasons. If he doesn't respect them, he's not the guy for you.

  • If you are not comfortable with this leave him..

    If you have to do it do it with someone you find really attractive physically

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