He doesn't want sex, says we have plenty of time?

[Anonymous]

A guy I currently date, had some stressful events in his life his mom passed away 2 month ago
And he also takes anxiety pills
He lost sexual desire and even when im seducing him after pills he is soft.
He asked me to give him time, I jokingly asked if he wants me to wait for him.
Also said i didn't lose sex desire and i touch myself sometimes.
He said he needs time because he is not in the mood, he didn't even jerk off in this 2 month he says, didn't want to he says.
He said that I musnt worry because "we have plenty of time".
Like... in the future we will f*ck, kinda I guess?
Why he said it? Whats going on? What this we have plenty of time means

[DaveJord]

Yeah, move on this guy sounds like a whiny. Go find a real man and have great time. When to people meet and totally vibe they make thinks as easy as possible for each other. Guys hat women with insecurities and this guys some like he' has got issues and insecurities that he is putting on you instead of boning up and fucking his girlfriend... screw this guy move on.

I have met women and dated them, after they have been with a guy like this loser... and I will tell you want they were real wild cats... because they found a man that is totally into having sex and they just assumed men don't really like sex because their exs had issues.

Trust me this guy has issues, why take on his baggage go find a real man and have fun.

[Asker]

But i have feelings

[Asker]

What issues?

[DaveJord]

Well, taking anxiety pills is not good for one thing. People throughout history have lost loved ones. Both my parents and all my grand parents are dead. I never need meds, these guy sounds weak. And he doesn't like sex apparently and it sounds like bullshit. Don't over compensate for this guy... it won't make you happy. In the long run you will see.

[Asker]

2he takes pain killers and smokes weed evwryday

[Asker]

He Is weak I know that

[DaveJord]

And this is why women don't all support feminist. Because look at how your respond to me... and most women do not want or believe that is correct or right. You threaten the readers that you will delete posts if not polite and respectful and they you call me names and talk about pain killers or smoking weed. It appears that you have discovered that you can delete posts. I think you are poor representative of feminist and that this why women do not want to associate with feminist, or are begining to call them out these type of abusive attacks.

[DaveJord]

Sorry disregard that last response it was to the wrong post. My bad

[mark000h]

It sounds like something he shouldn't be ignoring. It's serious to a relationship and his lack of sexual desire should be looked into by a doctor. You have every right to consider whether his lack of interest is affecting your relationship and feelings for him.

[Asker]

It doesn't affect I still like being with him But 2 months with no sex its weird to me But looks like pills take aways his desire

[Asker]

We kiss hig etc But no sex

[Asker]

I dont want him to think im seeing him only for sex

[mark000h]

Of course not, I get it, but he should be concerned and should seek a correction for this problem. He should contact a doctor with his concerns so they can correct his medication or make some other changes. Being complacent and hoping it'll get better without doing anything to correct is wrong. It'll affect your relationship long term.

[Asker]

He hates doctors

[Asker]

He says he starts to feel better and desire comes back very slowly

[mark000h]

I think you're a patient and understanding woman, but he should be looking to fix this problem, not hoping it'll get better by itself.

[RebeccaBI2000]

Depending on the anxiety medication any person will have a lower sex drive or none at all. Could be a side effect or until they are used to them. Also losing a parent would hit anyone hard. If I lost my mother, I would lose it

[Asker]

He takes lots of medication

[RebeccaBI2000]

If he shares with you what they are, you will be able to confirm. Plus some do interact with each other as well. It could put you at ease or not.

[Asker]

Smokes weed Sleep pills Anxiety pills Painkiller pills (has huge teeth problems, hurts kissing)

[RebeccaBI2000]

Can you follow me back please

[Eroticpincolada]

He could have severed. Depress ion
i only know that’s. How I use to be
it’s not good you might want to start a suiccide watch
and let his parentsknow
suicide is. Serious issue it’s not to be taken lightly

[bowenw]

The grieving period varies from one person to the next and with how close they were to the deceased person. The anxiety pills may also be affecting erections. I suggest being supportive of him and let him tell you when he's ready for sex. If you can't wait you may want to consider finding a new guy.

[TheFlak38]

you're a turn off

[Asker]

Why?

[Asker]

I think he finds me hot

[LegendaryIcon]

you're young, you got time

[Asker]

I want Him. What time he even talks about

[LegendaryIcon]

hun, you're young. you got time

[Asker]

🙄what?

[LegendaryIcon]

you're young, hun, you're got time

[follow10069]

Come over here baby i got you you won't regret it from looks and also from what i got hanging lol but if you decide to let me know.

[Yuuibtony]

Dump his ass

[Asker]

Why?

[Yuuibtony]

Because u wasting your time if he don't want what u want move on

[Yuuibtony]

I wouldn't waste time on one guy when it a billion guys on this planet

[Asker]

But i have feelings and im with him not only for sex

[Yuuibtony]

If I were u and if I really want to have a healthy sex life I will find a new person to date regardless of the love

[Asker]

I dont want sex with another person I want it with him

[Yuuibtony]

Either talk it out with him or disagree and never bring it up again

[Asker]

I can tell he Must have sex with me He can't do it phisically

[Asker]

I mean I can't tell

[Yuuibtony]

After reading this I advise to not date him no more if he don't get his shit together but that up to u

[Anonymous]

Well sounds like he may be grieving still, maybe. Also anti-anxiety medication, separately from but in addition to, anxiety itself may impact libido negatively. Give him time and support him by being present. Maybe follow up with you family doctor or therapist? Can't hurt.

[Anonymous]

It can happen if a guy is in lot of stress. Also anti depressant medications don't work and kill sexual desire. Try to do fun activities together outdoor. Don't be frustrated. Its not about you. But if you are horny maybe he can keep you satisfied in other ways before he can feel better.

[Asker]

Im not that horny lately I think my body adapts to his I LOVE just cuddling and kissing and hugging him Give him massage, talk and watch netflix It filla me with love and peace In those moments i dont always want sex And when he says he doesn't want to i automatically calm down I dont feel frustrated I dont know whats wrong with me

[Opinion Owner]

He still has a mouth and finger doesn't he. Anyways I wish you two a happy fun time.

[Asker]

He does but he is not offering anything sexual

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know how old he is, get him off anti depressant. Reduce his depression with outdoor fun physical activity. Let him get plenty of sleep.

[Asker]

44 he is