How do I reconcile between being chaste and being unintentionally sexy to men? Sex is like all I bring to the table?

I can cook clean and want to have kids and be a housewife anf i am chaste until i get married. But right now all i really offer a man is sex i mean they think I'm so sexy. I get it. I want sex too. But guys cannot see past the sexy part and wanting to have sex with me. I am a walking sex doll by accident.
I am not blaming guys and trying to say they are bad.
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  • If you're attractive, you're always going to attract a lot of men who only want sex from you. That can't be completely avoided. Your job is to FILTER - to create a set of standards such as "wants a real, committed relationship" and "wants kids" and "prepared to be a provider for a family." Then, you take your standard and compare it to the guy in question, and if he doesn't meet the standard - EVEN if you find him very attractive - you tell him "no, thank you, move along" and you move on to the next guy.

    It's perfectly okay to tell guys outright that you're only looking for marriage, and that you are looking to marry, have children, and be a mom. That alone will run off many men who just want sex - but some will still try to get you to bypass your rules. You have to keep the rules in place, and make it clear that they have no chance with you, and they'll move on, even if they test you a bit first.

    The biggest problem is that too many women who feel like you do end up meeting a guy who is very attractive, or wealthy, or has high status, and even though it's clear he doesn't want the same things she does, she'll get with him anyway, hoping she can change his mind. THAT NEVER WORKS, and the girl always ends up being used just for sex. Sure, he may take her on dates and even move her in and pay for things, but those guys never actually commit. The guys who commit are the ones who know from the start that they are looking for a wife and a family and make that their primary goal. Of COURSE they'll want sex too, but they'll make a wife and family their priority.

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  • Sexual attraction is always going to be the first thing because its visual, all the rest takes time.

    So why aren't you using the fact that you can easily attract men to find one who you like for more than sex and hopefully they will feel the same and if not then keep looking.

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  • Looks like it based only on your looks, not a slutty behavior.

  • Offer companionship and the prospect of great sex after marriage

    • Whats companionship.

  • You live in a generation where 99% of dudes are Beta male simps who worship females.

    I don't feel any sympathy for a chic who isn't married with kids, but WANTS TO BE. They have tons of options to get married tomorrow in 24 hours if they want to.

  • loyal partner

    • Not a full sentence. I dont get you.

  • Find someone that really loves you for yourself after time goes by, by spending time together. In today's world marriage doesn't seem to be what it used to be, so most guys don't want tath anymore. But you can still find a guy that loves you in a monogamous relationship.

  • Keep searching. You just haven't found a guy that wants more than that, and as hard as it is, you can't take it personally because it's not likely you at all as a person. It's about them and what they want. It's not easy finding someone these days, for anyone. We guys have it just as hard believe me.

    • Thank you

  • Look for chaste guys. They won't see you as a sex doll.

    • Thanks for the tip. I think those guys are rather rare.

    • I don't know. I am one of them.

    • Do you know other?

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