Have you ever thought about trying something with someone of the same sex?

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I have but not sure what to do about it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Actually... Truth in advertising, I've been with my girlfriend for over a decade and we have three children. I have been heterosexual all my life. However, in our very early days, for reasons having mostly to do with me and which, for reasons of brevity I will not go into here, my girlfriend and I were a bit wild.

One thing that my girlfriend used to enjoy - and still does - is gay porn. Something about watching guys together turned her on and so we would watch it periodically. Really nothing more than that, though, and I'll even admit that seeing her turned on would turn me on.

So life went on and then - in a life imitates art moment - at a Christmas party with my gfd's office, a homosexual co-worker of my gfd's happen to mention to her that he thought I was cute. Very long story short, they came up with the idea of he and I having sex and she could watch to turn her on. His only stipulation is that sometimes he could be with me, just the two of us.

A few drinks and they thought this a brilliant idea and approached me about it. At first my answer was no, flat out. However, after much backing and forthing - and a zillion details I'll skip here - I gave in and, for the next 8 months or so, give or take, I found myself in a homosexual relationship.

It was not just in front of my girlfriend, but the guy and I would spend nights together and even two weeks one time when my girlfriend went out of town. (This was before my girlfriend and I lived together.) Funny part was that I enjoyed it - not in the same way or as much as I did, and do, being with women, but it was surprisingly pleasurable.

In terms of the sex - and yes, I was both top and bottom - it took getting used to but the sensations were weirdly arousing. It was different and that was a turn-on in ways that I did not expect. In part, I took this as being since a man understands a man's anatomy, we sort of understood what works. Just a guess, but it was not unpleasant if not quite as satisfying - at least for me - as being with a woman.

In terms of the emotional connection, I have to say that what I realized is that there are things that guys might share with another guy in a personal way that he might not even with a woman he loves. It wasn't love, per se, but there was an unexpected intimacy and empathy between us.

The two weeks we spent together while my girlfriend was away was not a sex-fest. We had work and other things going on, but we did have sex, and we would wake up next to each other and hold each other and, in brutal honesty, a sort of bond developed.

Still, it did not end well. For all that I still was not perfectly comfortable and we could see that he was getting more and more attached to me. What was going to be all about the kinky sexual thrills was clearly going further. So we ended it.

He took it hard and my girlfriend felt bad and found herself trying to match make for a gay guy. Nothing worked, but eventually he found another job and moved on in any case and we lost touch.

Frankly, I would never want to repeat the experience, but in brutal candor I did enjoy it - the sex very much included. That was, as I say, over a decade ago and my girlfriend moved in with me ten years ago and we are parents and we are not at all wild the way we were in our early days.

Still, in a strange way, it was an experience I am glad I had. It was fun, it felt good, and I learned from it. Could be worse.

Frank_theTank999 · Accepted Answer

Yes I thought about it for a long time but never went for it until after separating from wife. Once that happened I started experimenting a bit. It’s a lot easier to hook up with guys and truth be told, I was afraid of sucking cock until trying it - it’s pretty natural and I like it. I don’t want to kiss guys or fall in love or anything remotely like that, but I’ll gladly give head and bottom if prepped. That feels really good too. Find a guy that’s a good fit for whatever it is you want. If you’re willing to host or get a room it’s really easy to hook up. Do it, you will not regret it.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I tried to think about sleeping with a woman when my ex asked if I wanted to try a threesome. I thought about it, and though the idea of having someone else in the room aroused me, I started to feel really uncomfortable. I didn't want to pleasure her. I didn't want him to play with her either. It made me feel jealous and awkward and I started to cringe the more I thought about it...
When he asked if I preferred a guy, I instantly felt different, although I later panicked when I thought about the possibility of things getting competitive between the two men. Also maybe then getting too caught up in the moment and forgetting that Im a person.

I don't know it wasn't worth the mental stress I was going through.
Also it was his insistence on doing this that made me question why.

Why wasn't I enough especially given the nature of our relationship kept flip flopping at his command.

I will add when people talk now about lgbtq and our mindset being closed, I did consider, does that mean I'd be fluid if it wasn't for social norms. But I have to disagree. I enjoy the pleasure of sex but my desire from as young as nursery has only ever been for boys.
I treated my female friends like sisters but I only wanted to kiss or date boys.

nice-girl · Accepted Answer

Remotely. But I definitely think I'm straight. I thought for a second or so about kissing a girl years ago and I felt "something" when a girl touched my knees. I worried a little as this happened when I was 16 and I thought that maybe I will develop an attraction for girls too as I remembered that this is how it had started my attraction with boys some years ago (first fantasizing about kissing, then touching, then "everything" else).
But "fortunately" it didn't develop as I grew up. I have ever thought about girls only 4 times in my life. And the one that attracted me were the ones that had a strong intensive emotion in their eyes. And who gave me a sense of security and well-being. I think it was more the attraction towards a charismatic person then sexual. I wouldn't want to have sex with a woman.

RearEntryGuy · Answer

Never. This is why I say I'm 100% straight.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

Lol yeah... yeah I can definitely say that I have.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Nothing you have to do about it except try it again if you liked it, at least that's what I do :) ... lol

youngmix · Answer

It has yet to come up, but I would definitely kiss a girl that I thought was pretty with no reservations.

girleygirl2034 · Answer

I am bi so I do sex with other women a lot I love it

OpenClose · Answer

Absolutely. Luckily we're a generation that doesn't have to feel like we need to tuck it away and never think about it again.
As far as what to do about it, I would say let yourself think about it. Try to develop a couple of guy crushes of celebrities. The thing about having guy crushes is that you're able to see your own gender as attractive.

When I was 100% straight, it gave me a lot of self-esteem issues because I was unable to see what anyone like about guys. When your mind is opened a bit, it starts to click. And then you kinda get to point and laugh when meatheads talk about "being an alpha male" and "It's all about rugged status" and "Defending your ego" and whatnot.

DaveJord · Answer

No not all... absolutely not. I am pretty confident about my sexuality. And if your one of the same sex types, then I say go for it man and be happy, just be confident about who and what you are, and you should have a long, loving and lasting life being

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I did and I've sucked on tits, eaten some very fine pussy and don't regret any of it!

petitedollbabee · Answer

I’m not straight so yeah I guess. I’ve been with the same sex a few times.

Lliam · Answer

Never. For some reason, the thought of any intimate contact with another guy grosses me out. I absolutely love women but have never been attracted to guys in the least.

Honesttguy · Answer

Seeing guys kiss, i have automatically repulsive feeling inside of me.  Maybe you're bi or something thats why.

RobT312 · Answer

I never thought about it or thought it was something I wanted to do until it was proposed to me. so, yeah I tried it and considered it an adventurous experience

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

I'm not sure what to tell you about this one I mean I'm not gay and I've never thought about trying anything with another guy because I firmly believe in not being gay... its because im a Christian and it says in the Bible that thou shalt not lie with strange flesh meaning that you shouldn't have sex with the same gender as you because you know he did create Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve you heard that one I'm sure and a lot of people don't believe in the Bible nowadays but I do if we were all the same it would be a boring place wouldn't it all I'm saying is think about it real hard before you commit to it because once you commit to it you're f***** and that's I mean literally

lightbulb27 · Answer

gross. why such offensive images aren't removed says a lot about our society and where we've gone inside of 50 years.  go ahead and downvote me...

hsshannah96 · Answer

I have and I’m DEFINITELY straight sadly. I don’t like guys and how they treat me so it sucks that I’m straight

dustybiker · Answer

Never felt compelled, no. The sharing of wit and or wisdom is all my interest is in woman.

Diodoro · Answer

Don't think about a pink elephant

You probably pictured a Pink Elephant without even actively trying to think about it

This is the same way I've thought about same-sex relations. I've never considered doing it, but when the idea has been presented like that the visual Pops in your head without trying to think about it.

That's the farthest its gone. Not something that resonates with me. Same one the idea of people cutting themselves or committing suicide or things like that.

The visual has popped in my head without me actually considering doing it myself

diwira · Answer

Well yeah! I am bi, so that might change things for this question.

melanieeeB · Answer

Never

TruthBringer · Answer

Nah, I'm no degenerate

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