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  • If this were an exam question, I would classify it as a "good but tricky" question.

    And as expected of such questions, many answers are great, but so far I won't give any full mark (if I were to mark them LOL!)

    Let me attempt to give a "modal answer" (I'll not be modest here, because I think this question deserves a good answer.)

    First,
    "men NEED sex because it's love..." is true in the context of a committed relationship, particularly in a loving (agape, philia, stor. ge) marriage.

    In this context, man bears a responsibility toward the family, his wife and kids.

    Prostitution (in the beginning of marriage) is never part of his thoughts.

    And his sexual desire (aka lust, aka eros) is to be fulfilled by his wife and wife alone.

    In this context,

    man gives his wife sex to show that he loves her;

    and when his wife gives him sex, the act is "received" by him as her accepting him.

    This is why when sex is healthy in a marriage, the man feels loved, wanted and is always responsible towards his family.

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    Now comes the part where you wrote "why do men go to prostitutes..."

    If you read the questions carefully, you'll notice a logical fallacy called "begging the question" with hints of "red herring".

    A happily married man with a healthy sex life don't visit prostitutes. (See my first part answer above)

    Married men visit prostitutes when his sex life is very bad, when he doesn't feel loved and cannot connect with his wife emotionally.

    Single men visit prostitutes NOT for love (aka agape etc) but for lust (aka eros) for sexual pleasures.

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    To conclude:
    By separating the type of "love" experienced, this question can only be answered by breaking it into two as above.

    By ddistinguishing love from lust, sex plays two different roles.

    One to "make love" in the context of a happily married man with a wife who reciprocate his advances with more intimacy.

    Another to "satisfy a lust", usually of an unloved man, seeking only for a relief, for pure carnal pleasures.

    How? My answer too long?

    • Many men said that they had sex and their wives was great. Still go to prostitutes…

    • Sure they many do. This accounts for the high divorce rate. My first part answer is in the strict criteria of a happy marriage where the couple are sexually satisfied. And in this situation, sex is the climax of their regular love making sessions. (Do read up articles about the differences as well as join forums like TheMarriageBed where religious people discusses their love life.)

    • And by the way, sex life is not a moment but a time span what could cross decades. Hence a happily married coupled could have sex many times a day, but after a year drop to once a year and by the firth year, become a dead bedroom. Hence the same man may feel great and faithful on his honeymoon year, then start to "look around" during his "mid life" and becomes really miserable thereafter. That could be when he started visiting prostitutes. A common marriage statistics.

Most Helpful Guy

  • No, it isn't 'love' per se, but men may feel that the sex 'replicates' a loving relationship. I went to an escort (yes, a prostitute) down in Vista, CA and did so because I had watched her on YouTube for a couple of years. Never in my wildest imagination did I ever think I would see an 'escort' for sex. As it turned out, when it came down to it I could not get a hard-on with her, (enough to penetrate her anyway) as she insisted (with good reason) that I wear a 'rubber". The fact is, that I LIKED HER, which sound silly for an adult man to say of an escort.
    She was educated, she had a Masters Degree from ASU in computer science, was an exercise enthusiast, drove a late model BMW, and lived in a HUGE apartment complex just inside Vista. She was born in Dusseldorf, Germany. I was in awe of her accomplishments. She was also a pianist.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't think sex IS love to them, but I do believe they see it as the best way to SHOW love to them. As for prostitutes, I don't think they are looking for love from them, just the illusion of it to fill the void.

    • Great answer.

    • That’s really pathetic then…

  • because no matter what, prostitutes are men's weak spots. they even ignore other women for prostitutes. :D

    • True lol Disgusting 😆

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  • It's not love to them, but it's important to men on the same level as love is to women.

    We can often read or hear how men NEED sex because it's love to them. If it's true, why do men go to prostitutes who obviously don't love them?

    • This what I’ve always thought. Also why I’m single and happy lol.

  • Well you got that wrong men do not equate sex with love. We do however express our love sexually to our woman that we love. Touch and sex is men's love language , but we also have a mind , and we know the prostitute doesn't love us. That is ridiculous. Also the sexual center in a mans brain is 2.5 times bigger then it is in the female brain. Scientists think this evolved to keep primitive men from killing the smaller weaker females.

    • Any actual scientific references?

    • “Evolution and human sexual behavior studies Harvard University.” The science of Human Bonding “ Cornell university to many to list really. There are so many studies worldwide on the subject.

    • Is it available online?

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  • They most likely do that in attempt to fulfill a desire that they've been longing for in a time of desperation. Most men don't walk away from a prostitute feeling good about themselves. They're desperate, so attempt to pay for that feeling. It doesn't work most of the time though.

  • i think the men who go to prostitutes are just horny toads and they don't see sex as love at all

  • Men go to prostitutes because we're horny, desire sex, and they'll provide that.

  • well people in general need sex. but not cause it's "love". it's more like that every human has a base need to be accepted. on a mental an physical level. we need to feel validated. sex gives us that feeling. women get that feeling by just having options of fucking men. they don't need the actual physical act as much. men do however.

    so love isn't the reason. that doesn't make it a less valid reason tho. and i think women should learn to respect male feelings.

    however turning to a prostitute is a whole other issue. i have no issue with prostitutes at all. but i think that if you go to a prostitute as a man, you're doing harm to your own mental heatlh by doing so.

    • We don’t need sex. We just enjoy it.

    • we don't "need" many things in life but shelter, water and food. though for a healthy mental state, we need it

    • No, we don't lol. It's not a need.

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  • Haha. Yes! 💯👏👏

  • Yeah men need to accept that they usually want sex.. but some of us really needs love more than sex.. ✨❤️

  • Now where legitimate have you ever read that men need sex because it is like live to them.
    It is simply an animal urge, a hunger, a need.
    We can have sex with ZERO emotion behind it.

    • Link

    • Says the person making claims about reading that men equate sex to love all the time all the time.

    • I've put a link above lol.

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  • I’ve also heard guys say that it’s just sex , doesn’t mean anything to them

  • You need to understand that women and men are very different in how their emotional needs get met. For men, sex is an important part of emotional health.

    • I guess I will never respect men...

    • It's okay, the good ones will never respect you either.

    • I couldn't care less. There aren't any good ones anyway lol.

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  • Bruh where do I find one? It's hard to find a legitimate prostitute that won't try to scam you where I live.

  • Men don't go to prostitites for love. They go for a variety of reasons. Either they're horny and need a sexual release like a woman who engages in a ONS because men cannot usually get sex as easily as women or because he had been a virgin without for such a long time that it became unbearable to him.

    • Though many guys still visit the same girl. Why is that?

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