Do you think being single gets a bad rap?

[coachTanthony]

[Cynicaldreamer]

Well time for me to get on my soapbox again!

Absolutely! And we only have society as a whole to blame for such nonsense!
Women in particular deal with nonsense for being single for too long-

*As a disclaimer, yes I know men deal with crap too, but as a female I'm addressing issues we deal with.

Women that are single in their 30s, hell even late 20s are mocked and called, "spinsters," "cat lady..."
Or deemed unattractive or unable to have kids because they're "past their prime."
For anyone that downvotes or denies what I'm saying, I will happily pull up past questions and comments that stated some of the above. But I digress...

Oddly enough, the main ones that ridicule us are usually trapped in unhappy marriages or relationships... I guess misery loves company! Lol
There's nothing wrong with being single. Nor should it be used to judge a person's worth, how dateable they are, or a reflection of one's self worth.

[cookiecrusher]

When the convo drifts to that topic i only ask "are you happy?" or some form of it. They will usually tell me why they have to be or choose to be in certain way.

[ArtHelm]

Being datable? Being datable? LOL. I would like to see that checklist. Actually if you use a word like ”datable"; you're off my list.

[AncientWisdom]

I’ve been a life long bachelor. I did attempt a relationship once that went over like a turd in the punch bowl.
I never really cared what people thought as I was and am a bachelor by choice. Having said this to say yes sometimes. I think the biggest thing I encounter is my female relatives gossiping about my bachelor lifestyle. They all love me but also love to talk about me. Also the long list of angry females who knew my feelings on marriage from the beginning but thought they’d change me.
I have a few awesome female friends who understand me as well. I don’t believe in the same things most people do as I know most of the social constructs we live with today in modern western society go against sexual evolution, and human nature. Hence all of the unhappy men and women scarred from social entanglements and somewhat jaded from an age that appears to be getting younger and younger. Being single is great I’ve got the freedom do as I wish without interference it’s been awesome even midway into my fifth decade of life.

[BCRanger10]

A bad rap in what way? I mean, I see people all the time say that marriage is outdated, that it's just a useless contract, that they don't need marriage to "prove their love". It seems like neither one wins.

There are two things I can think of that would give single life a "bad rap". The first is that there's not much to market to singles. People who are getting married need tuxes or suits, dresses, venues, food and beverages, all sorts of stuff. There is money to be made, which by itself isn't a bad thing. There's just a market. I could be wrong, I dunno.

And the other is their families or people who are happily married and think everyone should get married.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yep people think being single means you're miserable 24/7...
But really these days seems like it's a lot of people in relationships that are miserable 24/7 , go figure🤷🏼‍♀️

[DaveJord]

Over time yeah, depends honestly on the individual. But yes you see a 8o year old guy whose never been married or in a serious relationship you start to wonder.

[RobT312]

Yes it gets a bad Rap.
some people like and want to be single, what’s the big deal.
I think our society makes it appear odd if we are and people get self conscious about it for no reason.
For example, a buddy of mine is recently single and he is acting overly depressed about it partially due to to him following what people prescribe as the norm: that we should be coupled, married, or have family by a certain date.

[CrazyGirl666]

It definitely does! It's so fun being single but also not? Lmao its a bit of both. I want the cuddling, convos, feelings without all the problems and the horrifying commitment.

[NathanDavis]

not for me... been single for two years of pandemia right now, and nobody ever has questioned it or wondered or made comments or anything else... but people know me and my reputation as well, never been a worry or concern for me, at least... lol

[On_cloud_wine]

Pandemia?

[NathanDavis]

@On_cloud_wine I've been single for about two years now coincidentally, the same time the pandemia has been ongoing? lol

[DonkeyDan]

I think being single has a stigma attached to it, like somehow you weren't able to find a partner.

Some people choose to be single like myself, I've been married and right now I don't want a relationship.

I have plenty of fun and I'm not tied down.

I'm aware that there are plenty of people out there that don't choose to be single, and are desperately seeking a relationship, and yes I do feel that people somehow look down on them.

[OlderThanILook]

It sucks when people can't mind their damn business, but other than that, it's livable.

[CheeseMonster]

Yeah it's nice.

[Marianna34n]

I love being single i enjoy evey second of it

[Citizenkirk]

It can, but so can being with the wrong person.

[Fireguy17]

no, for a long time I chose to be single.
I was too busy having fun, doing what I wanted when I wanted, and I was never really alone.
I got laid quite often, I had a lot of friends and enjoyed my lifestyle.

[On_cloud_wine]

This is what I assume what a man past his 30s is doing.. especially when he’s already sending me half naked pictures within 3 months of talking

[Fireguy17]

@On_cloud_wine To this day I cannot understand why guys think that sending half/all nude photos is a great idea.

[jobego]

yea i hear people say they are sad for single people lol
i think single people can be very happy

[awkward_author]

Not really.

[RebeccaBI2000]

I feel like it does. I am just more focused on my career

[donnny2367764]

Nope

[kellytheman]

Yeah sometimes people think the are depressed or lonely but some people are the happiest when they are single. You just take care of you and no one else but it does feel good to have someone.

[the29thhuman]

Yes and no. Being in a relationship has no guarantee. Being single does because u don’t have to talk anything over with someone who potentially isn’t on The same page as u.
Being single, u can proceed however you see fit and accomplish thing Much quicker.

[Likes2drive]

Not really, it’s just another status and temporary hopefully

[Uptowngirl88]

Yes people constantly ask why you single? Um maybe because I wannabe🤷🏾‍♀️🤣

[Mavie123]

Nope
It's totally fine

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Definitely, lol especially from family. I know it ticks my mom off that I'm single. 😂