How normal is it to lust over other men while you are in a stable relationship?

By lusting here is I even fantasise having sex with them on every single detail. I feel horrible because I know how much I love my boyfriend and he is willing to do anything for me. I think it stems from our boring sex life. I know he has tried his best to please me but I guess some people are just not meant to be great at certain things.
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  • I think as humans we're gearing toward polygamous.

    But again as humans, we have conscience and can exercise self control.

    This means it's normal to lust. Ya, grass on the other side is always greener.

    But we should exercise our basic principles rooted in the morality we were brought up with.

    And I think with basic self control, we can avoid "eating" those grass on the other side.

    Hence while I say it's normal to lust, I also say there's no excuse to cheat.

    PS: and if you feel that your bedroom activities are boring, then you should either resolve it, or show kindness to him by breaking off gently.

  • No, it means something is missing for you. And you know what it is, "boring sex life". Sexual compatibility is very important. You're finding that out now. Maybe it something you can talk about with him and try new things, compromise, or maybe you two are too different and the relationship isn't going to work? Regardless of what a great guy he might be otherwise. Because ultimately it will come between you (as it is now in your thoughts) and ultimately you're not going to be happy with him.

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  • So why would you think this is normal when you also think your sex life is boring? Not all of us have boring sex lives in relationships girl

  • I do that with women and I've been married for over ten years and I don't even have complaints about our sex life. There is an adventure and thrill in other people. It's new, fresh, and especially when they are hitting on you when you try to resist, and this might be guy-specific but I'm like, "Why is a pretty young girl hitting on me so hard?"

    Maybe in your case, it is just a shortage of sex life but in my case, it's like I could create an adventure here. I could create something really interesting, exciting, passionate, flaming hot. It doesn't even matter if the girl is worse at sex than my wife. She's new, she's not heard my corny jokes a hundred times just yet, and she will appreciate some things still that my wife rolls her eyes at.

    But I look at all that and I look down at my wedding ring and also my age with graying hairs and my body which isn't so energetic anymore, and I miss my home. My wife is my home.

  • It's normal even man's with sexy beautiful wife or with beautiful sexy girlfriend think or lust about another girl's but that mean not he is not loyal to current relationship... Dear just enjoy your life and don't think too much about that

  • Completely 100% normal. It's an absurd fantasy that people in committed relationships aren't attracted to others. Being committed means staying with your current partner. It doesn't make one blind to the charms of others.

  • It shouldn't be something you actively think about, but sadly it's normal.

  • It’s not normal, and in your case you know what the problem is. I bet it could be fixed, but you’ll have to be able to talk about it and he’ll have to be willing to hear you and work on upping his game.

  • In your case, it's the result of being unsatisfied in your relationship. It might be worth talking to him about it.

  • Monogamy is NOT NATURAL

    Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan

  • Why is your Sex life boring. Doesn’t he pursue you?

  • its like u aren't Fully satisfied with him

  • As long as its kept at the fantasy level, then Id say its alright. But if it makes you feel guilty, than stop or break up.

  • Thats pretty normal lol everyone is human and fantasizes about having different and multiple partners

  • Ahh u do this too? Hehe.

  • Very common

  • Completely normal

  • It can happen.

  • Not just normal, it's healthy, a part of you, your DNA.
    Depending on your faith/beliefs etc would mean acting on that lust would be a no no.
    A relationship or marriage cannot turn off those attractions and desires that are a part of our being.

  • hahahah lol no

  • Look, I think it's normal but be careful because if you're not satisfied now, it'll get worse and worse with time, particularly after having kids. You guys may not be a great sexual match.