Someone commenting on "small" body parts?

Question

When someone you're dating or in a relationship with you, makes a remark calling your body parts small, when you think are average. How do you deal with it. Or how should I go about that comment? I'm petite but I wouldn't say my tits or ass is that small. It just immediately turns me off and makes me kinda self conscious. I know it's not his intention to make me feel that way. Have any of you felt this way? Even for like males, girls calling your dick small?

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

You let an opportunity pass you by. Rather than learn to see yourself through his eyes, you automatically assumed the comment was negative and got on the defensive. Would you take offense if he said he saw you as feminine? If you view yourself as butch, you probably would. It's unfortunate that we allow ourselves to buy into societal stereotypes, negatively judging ourselves when we are different. I happen to like qualities like subtle, small, quiet, tranquil, non-materialistic and introverted, even though society tends to promote the opposite. Was he saying you didn't measure up to what works for him, or was he saying he likes what he sees? Never assume you know what a person means when their statement could be interpreted multiple ways. Let people enjoy what they enjoy rather than assume you know what they should enjoy.

If, on the other hand, he truly believes you don't measure up, you're probably going to be better off finding a new partner. Though he may be able to tolerate you now, it's just a matter of time till the newness wears off and your qualities become an annoyance. You never want someone to settle for any aspect of you that is truly important to that person. If it's not an issue, people generally won't mention things. After all, did he mention that it's nice that you're not a serial murderer? Communication is the key. Find out how your size impacts him, and then make sure he knows you want him to fully enjoy whatever he chooses, even if it is someone else.

DonkeyDan · Accepted Answer

Well that would depend on how you view what the appropriate size of that body part should be.

Guys all want to consider that their dick is big and women want to think that their tits are big, but not everyone feels that should be the case. Some women aren't in to big dicks and many guys aren't into big tits.

Ass size in the modern day seem to be a mystery to me, back in my day all girls wanted small asses and thats what guys liked too, but these days it all seems to be about big asses.

You can choose to be hurt about someone's opinion, or you can just deal with it and get on with your life.

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend got quite offended when I said his dick isn’t the biggest I have ever had, BUT he did ask and I chose to be honest. What I did say though was our sex was the best I ever had and that is the truth. So I can definitely understand you getting offended , especially if you didn’t even ask for the opinion. I’d probably feel offended if my boyfriend randomly said I’m small also.

MCheetah · Answer

Women call dicks under seven inches (17.5 cm) small and some guys call breasts that are C's or less, small. If you are not big, you are definitely small. That's all people will see you as. I've gotten used to it, by now. I'm considered small in all fronts.

Apple1996 · Answer

Maybe he's into smaller tits/ass

derekano · Answer

honestly, apart from their wasteline, its pretty much never okay to say something about someone is small. for one, you have to communicate that what he said hurt your feelings, and that he should think before saying something that could hurt someone, especially you. for two, i know its easier said than done, but you just gotta accept your body for what it is. change it through healthy means if it doesn't make you happy, but for what you can't change, you just gotta be happy with it. its not worth your mental energy being upset about something you have no control over. I've had to learn that the hard way. was about to get in bed with a woman, but when she saw under my belt, she laughed, put her clothes back on, and left. it sucked, it ruined my self esteem for years. but I've come to terms with my body, and decided not to use my time hating it. so, communicate that he hurt your feelings, and be happy with your body, dont hate it.

slatyb · Answer

Comments like that are rather stupid. Why say something when no good can come of it?

Citizenkirk · Answer

I Greek out, er--- 👁️ mean freak out, --- Just kidding, I try not too take it personally 😸😹

RealMarek · Answer

He’s probably into breasts that aren’t large, but it would have been better of him to say “amazing” than “small.” Not every guy has a way with words.

PhxBB13 · Answer

My fiance told me I have a tiny little dick, but she’s not the first to tell me that most women tell me that that I have been with. It use to bother me and made me self conscious about it but now it’s kinda a turn on. My fiance is kind of talking to another guy she just met and he showed her his cock. It’s huge. Like really really big. She can’t stop talking about it now and we have been talking about maybe her trying it out. I guess you should not let people hurt you. We love each other very much but some times you need to give for the other and I want her to be happy.

awkward_author · Answer

Let him know how you feel.

VikingWarLord · Answer

I'm a prick so I say it right off the bat. If she has small t-ts, I'm gonna end up cheating.  Lucky for you, your face is above average and you have thick D suckin lips. I wouldn't worry about it.

Seangreen · Answer

Honestly I like smaller tits and ass but I would never refer to those as such to somebody I was dating. I would say I like them or something along those lines but I would never refer to the size because I understand what it's like for people to feel uncomfortable self-conscious about certain things

Iron_Man · Answer

Insult his Penis

Wise4myage · Answer

If I felt insulted, than I would say something.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Never had problems in the penis department. As far as your little problem goes, everyone sees things differently. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Twalli · Answer

Honestly if I call your tits small, it means I like them.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men generally love petite tiny women. If he says you're short or your parts are small its not really bad. Yes guys love big tits but guys also love small tits. Guys just love tits. Lol.

ND4SPD31 · Answer

I love petite women. Small ass, small boobs are all fine with me.

nawtee_me · Answer

I am not sure of your boob size but I love smaller boobs and prefer them. A "B" cup is the perfect size to me. so I am sure yours are absolutely gorgeous as they are...

steveRogers12 · Answer

I wouldn't directly comment on a girl's anatomy like that, sounds like a good way to get slapped. I'm comfortable with myself, so if a girl isn't interested in me because of my size, then she can keep searching elsewhere.