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My sexuality, what I should do?

I have been questioning my sexuality for years now.. I know for some of you it may be silly stupid or pathetic, but it is really hard for me. I am attracted sexually to men, to their c*cks, bodies, big arms and chest and etc.. I like women, but I don't desire them sexually anymore. I just like them and kinda I wish I was in their place. So yeah, I really want to have sex with men, this is what I crave and want, but I want to explain to you that in the past I have been inlove with women. I writed poems for some, did all kind of romantic things for them and I felt good. I mean I can't imagine myself doing these things for a guy... I don't know what I should do, do I keep fighting my desires and waiting for the right women to come, or should I give up and start doing what I desire in a sexual way.. So please, tell me what you think and give me some advice, if you want and if you can, of course.
Give up and accept that you are gay
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Fight with the urges and try to find real love with a woman
Vote B
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  • It's possible you are bisexual but from what you said in your question and in some of your responses it sounds like you might identify as a women or at least be gender fluid. I don't personally know too much about this so it might be better to ask someone who knows about it or look into it online. It might be good to experiment a bit, dont rush into a relationship unless its something you really want. If you want you want to date a woman then you should look for someone who will accept you as you are and be willing to help you experiment. This is the situation with my boyfriend and I, he is newly bisexual and we are planning to explore his desires together. The best advice I can give you is to take things slow and be sure it's what you want before doing it. One of the worst things you can do to yourself and the person you date is denying your urges and who you are. If you decide to only date women and force away your desires for men then you will slowly start to resent the women and that will tear you and your relationships apart. Or you might eventually decide to give into your desires and suddenly leave the woman you're dating and if she didn't know about your desires before hand, she will feel hurt and betrayed. Sorry for the long message but long story short, just be yourself, as long as you aren't hurting anyone feel free to explore your desires, just be open and honest with the person you eventually end up dating and the right person will love you for you.

    • Amazing asnwer and I thank you so much, sweet girl! You are such a nice person! I hope I can meet people like you in the future! And I wish you all the best, because you are so good and nice. <3 :)

  • You are definitely at LEAST on the spectrum somewhat queer, most likely bisexual. As long as your wife/girlfriend is aware and accepting you do you boo! But if she accepts you, but is not okay sharing you, then you must respect that and not pursue any relationships with men, that would be cheating, and there is nothing worse than being untrustworthy within a relationship. As for “finding an understanding woman” good luck! There are precious few women who would be okay competing with men for their boyfriends affection, me included. I truly wish you all the best, you are brave to come out Here on gag, and I hope you didn’t get any homophobic comments! Good luck sweetie 😘💋

    • Thank you so much for your great answer, sweetie <3 :* <3 :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • It doesn't really sound like you're actually gay, but more bisexual, with romantic feelings towards women but sexual feelings towards men. At the same time though it doesn't sound as if you have actually experienced sex with a man, so you could just be bi-curious. Maybe you need to get this phase out of your system. This is a perfect example as to why labels don't work.

  • Actually I saw your question yesterday and I was like okay this dude is gay - But now I saw it again - And I actually thought about it - I think you like being in that girl role more than anything else - how to know what you like is - Ask yourself - Would you like dudes or chicks with dicks more? (fake dicks if you don't like trans..)

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  • Sounds like you are gay. You are sexually attracted to men. You don't mind the company of women, but you seem to not have any desire to have a relationship with them if I am understanding correctly.

    That is fine. To each is own. You need to do what makes you happy.

    • Thank you for your opinion, sweet girl! :) <3

    • You are most welcome. I wish you happiness in whatever you choose in life! ❤️

  • My best advice when dealing with this and confusion is pray. God is there to listen and to direct your path. The devil is always out there wanting to get into our heads and to tempt us and keep us away from the truth. Read the Bible and have the holy spirit speak to you and guide you along this confusion you are having.

  • VOTE C: Neither for now

    From what you have said, you will not be happy in a straight relationship until you have exhausted your desires for exploring the other side.

    You will most likely try to get any female to allow you to also explore your bisexual side.

    If you can find a girl that will go into the relationship with that understanding you may be OK, but if you don't there will be trouble ahead.

    By the looks of your background picture, you like to cross dress also so you will need to let her know that as well and get acceptance up front to be fair and transparent.

    • Thank you for your answer, Laurie. It's really confusing and complicated, right? And yeah I love cross dressing, even now I am wearing a thong, hehe. Also you have a point in everything you said. I did had only one relationship with a woman, she was my first and only and we were living together even, but these desires for men and for crossdressing was there, she found out and she left me.. I am not sure I can find another woman tho. I know I will be happy if I can find real love with a woman, but I doubt that will happen..

    • These women do exist but, yes they are a smaller percentage of the population. She would have to be bisexual herself of accepting of a bisexual and cross dressing partner. You might try "Adultfriendfinder. com" It is a pay site but that does tend to eliminate many of the flakes. See what you can find there or on similar bisexual/cross dressing friendly dating sites. Hope that helps :)

    • Thank you, sweet Laurie. I will check the site, thank you! But tell me, you don't think I could be fully gay?

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  • Two relationship dynamics/arrangements came to mind after reading your experience.

    1) A group relationship with bisexual or pansexual partners. That may be hard for you to arrange, as it requires finding other people like you, so you would have to do some research.
    2) Maybe you want to watch your girlfriend/wife have sex in front of you, and feel good while watching them feel good. So you want a female partner who could be into having sex with other people while you watch. You may have to find a bisexual guy to have sex with your wife, so that he will be fine with you doing stuff for him, as it sounds like you would be into that.

  • You don’t really need to worry about putting a label on it right now I’d say (bisexual female here)


    But what may help us try physical stuff with a man first see if you like it to rule out options and if you do try and date them see how that goes. If the answer is no to both then try the same with women, or even MMF see which person you tend to go towards more physically may help but obvs not necessary


    Either way you do you, you don’t need a label but there are a lot out there that isn’t just bi, gay or straight. Pansexual etc

  • Sounds like a no brainer. How come you can't figure it out?

    • I don't know, but here I am, still questioning and confused..

  • If you are watching gay porn, stop. Even if you’re watching straight porn, stop because it will involve you looking at other guy’s penises. Those are some good first steps if you’re trying to stop fantasizing about having sex with men.

    • Yes, that''s a good advice. I watch mostly straight porn, but imagine myself in the place of the girls.. I tried stopping before a couple of times, even throw out my panties and clothes, I was ok for like 2 weeks/1 mounth and then everything came back.. I don't know what I should do honestly..

  • It sounds like you're bisexual. But if you lean more toward men and feel more attracted to them then you should go out with them. But if you also are interested in women you can try going on dates with them too. Then go with the person you have chemistry with (regardless of gender). Live your life the way you want to live it because you deserve to be happy.

  • This why i don't think labels should exist.
    Like who you like.

    The only reason people worry bout it, is we put labels on it.

    So many people get all worked up because they like someone that makes them "gay"

    You find them attractive and wanna date em do it.
    And don't worry bout what you call yourself for doing it.

  • Accept that you are gay and try to find real love with a man

    • But I am not sure I can love a man, maybe thats why I am so confused. I can't imagine myself loving a man, but all other sex stuff, yeah.. And I did one blowjob before and I loved it, so I am sure I will like being f*cked by a man too, but I just can't imagine myself loving a man..

    • You should try. A successful relationship needs both love and sex.

    • So you think I should try to find a boyfriend.. I don't know, I mean I never imagined myself having a boyfriend. I know I want men, but just for sex I think, it's so confusing.. Sorry if i am bothering you with all of this..

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  • Go by the dictionary.

  • You'll never find out if you don't give it a chance.

    • So, what should I do?

    • I would take it slow if I were you. If you're not ready to date a guy yet maybe go to a gay bar/ club. Make some friends and see were that gos

  • You might be heteroromantic/homosexual at the moment?

    • What's that?

    • @BestWoman It's when someone is romantically attracted to the opposite gender, and sexually attracted to the same gender.

    • first time i heard this

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  • It sounds like you are gay.

    • So I should start doing things with men and accept it?

    • @batkoo0 if you find one you are interested in, sure. Or don’t. Your choice.

  • I picked B. Controversial I know. You can DM me if you want to know the reason.

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    • I tried texting you, but I can't, you need to follow me, so I can write to you. :)

  • Sounds to me you bisexual, if you still find both bodies attractive

    • Yes, I do find them attractive, but I am attracted to the male body and mostly jelaous of the female body, its so confusing honestly..

    • Ah ok...

  • No straight woman will love a man who wants a cock in his ass except your gay

  • You should do what you want to do

  • Do what the fck you want if you ain’t hurting no one fck it live life be happy and get that cock boy

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