Should I tell my boyfriend that a kid saw my private parts when I was also a little child? (we didn't do anything) Please read description below?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I am a 30 year old straight woman, I am in a long term relationship with a great man (although he's a little short tempered and has very high strict morals), so I had never thought about this ever before, but recently I began thinking about it.
When I was somewhere between 7 and 8 years old I had a very close friendship with another child (a boy who was a little younger who was my neighbor) and for some stupid reason once I was in his house, out of nowhere I showed him what was under my underwear and he showed his thing too 😂 and another day I showed him my butt, that's it. So, I'm gonna be clear: we never did ANYTHING, NOTHING, we never touched, we never kissed, we never did anything malicious or sexual. And honestly I think it's a little silly and hilarious when I think of it now that I'm a 30 year old woman, but I'm worried because I never thought it could be wrong, but now for some reason I'm thinking it's wrong and that I should let my boyfriend know (I've never hidden anything from him and he knows I'm a virgin).
I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years, and he's my first boyfriend ever, my first date, he gave me my first kiss and I've never had sex with anyone, he's the only man I have actually touched (I haven't had sex with him yet, since I want to wait until marriage) but I've had a certain level of intimacy with him (my boyfriend). So, tell me you guys think I should tell him about what I just told you when I was a little kid? Please advice. Thanks.

[slatyb]

No. WGAF?

"with a great man (although he's a little short tempered and has very high strict morals)"

So what's so great about him? The short temper and high strict morals sounds like someone who will be very controlling bordering on abusive.

[ushagomez]

I don’t think there’s any need to tell him about it. It is of course entirely your choice. If you tell him make sure you explain the context and you might find that he did something similar as a child. There was nothing wrong with it at all and many many children do exactly the same thing. It is all part of growing up and understanding about differences between our bodies. I expect the majority of people I’ve done exactly the same when they were children.

[Anonymous]

It's not necessary. While I was still in primary school, our neighbor's daughter, who was my elder sister's age, kissed me and then harassed me. And at this age, I still haven't said anything to anyone. because it doesn't matter anymore.

[Jamie05rhs]

I have very high, strict morals as well.
But I think I could probably let what you did slide. If you were 13 or something, that would be a different story. But being 8 years old, I don't think you were mature enough to understand what you were doing.

Actually, I think my morals are higher than his. What does "a certain level of intimacy" mean? If he's been having oral sex, then he has no room to judge anyone.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm confused, though: why have you been with this man 8 years and still are not married? What's taking so long? What is there left to figure out?

[Asker]

Because we were 20 and 23 when we started dating, still in college and it's only now in 2022 that we are feeling more stable economically and mentally to start thinking about marriage.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker What does money have to do with anything?

[Boromir]

I’m more worried about his short temper then you showing your girly parts as a kid… Show my yours and I’ll show you mine is something at least half of the world population has done in a totally innocent curiosity driven way…

[DaveJord]

No I would not tell him... I mean why would have to know that? I would think it funny kid shit and it would not bother me... so I guess if you wanted to share a good laugh with him you could tell him.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope, that is just really normal as a kid.

i used to run around naked on the beach with a girl who became my best friend (we were 4).

it’s just natural curiosity as a kid and totally harmless in what you have described.

[Berethor]

So you less innocent than he thought, as you already shown yourself naked to a boy. He was waiting 8 years? that's a lot of time, yes I think that you should be honest with him.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Open & honesty is the best policy & I really think you should tell him & make sure he is sitting down when you tell him because he might be shocked but I’m sure he will understand.

[DonkeyDan]

I really don't think there's anything to tell, it's completely typical childhood behaviour and you're overthinking it.

[Citizenkirk]

Who hasn't seen kids thier age naked at one time or other. It wouldn't exactly be news 🗞️ too him if you did. Everyone has at some point in life.

[Wise4myage]

What is the point in revealing that?

[Cringe]

No..

[Twalli]

I don't think it's important. I had a female friend and we showed each other our private parts in kindergarten. It was so long ago I barely remember doing it, and have no memory how it looked.

[SHREYASH007]

As long as your mind was pure you can ignore it, no need to tell him now.

[888theGreat]

I don't think it counts

[karieskhalid1]

You should tell him.. so that you feel light.. secondly it was childish and you were a kid too.. Soo I hope he will forgive you.. as you're 30 and still a virgin.. which is a great character indeed..

[bananathunder]

keep that to yourself... nothing good will come of it

[Anonymous]

Well it's entirely your choice, you didn't do anything wrong, you were silly child you know. Anyway if you trust your partner there will nothing happen if you say to him. I had similar secrets in relationship and when i revealed them i felt better.