What's the best response I can say when a girl asks me what are you looking for or why are you here?

I tell them that I'm here to see if I can make a connection with someone and maybe get into a relationship. Should I change it up? If they ask me if I'm looking for sex, I say well yes but I'm also looking to form a bond with someone.
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  • Here? As in G@G? Online?

    Seriously it doesn’t many any of those you wrote in your details.

    First, she won't believe you.

    Next, she may chat a few times, then disappear.

    Finally, very rarely will a girl date a guy online unless perhaps you're both within 15 minutes driving distance.

    Hence, if you want to kill time, ya, stay here in G@G. It's pretty fun and a great time killer.

    But if you seriously want a relationship, then get out and start looking for girls. Real girls who are willing to eat with her mask off.

    • Well, I'm trying jdt that not too many talk to me.

    • Good. That's a good start. Conversation is an Art. Try to understand why that "awkward silence" happens. Avoid scenarios that lead to it next time. And learn to approach girls to talk to. Don't "smell like sex". Girls hate desperate guys. Be friendly, talk about common interests. Read more news for latest topics. Watch the latest movies and listen to the top pop. If you're "too intelligent" ask about her or talk about her dress. This reminds me, Google some big brands girls like. And know more than just "wow it's $10k for a bag!" Good luck.

  • I'd think about changing that last part from
    "If they ask me if I'm looking for sex, I say well yes but I'm also looking to form a bond with someone."To "If they ask me if I'm looking for sex. Say "Eventually, but only with the right person."

    • Oh, that's a good one

    • Just makes you sound more genuine.

    • This is actually perfect

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  • That sounds great! Like I said before, I think your best strategy is to go for monogamy. It’s easier for an average looking guy and it fits well with your personal values.

  • You should say her; "are you the manager here?" or "this here your father's private property?". It works very well. 👍

    • Lol alright

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  • I think that’s a nice start if that’s what you’re looking for, just be honest and casual.
    what you wrote seems a little formal and not conversational by using the words connection and relationship.

    For example, I personally need a connection with someone to hop in bed or continue to date a girl after the first date. But, I would never say to the girl “ I need a connection with you”

    • Oh, well how should I fix it or say it now?

    • Be casual so you don’t look desperate or anxious…such as “looking to meet someone and see where it goes…”. If you say “relationship “ it may be too heavy and smothering for a first conversation, girls don’t like that just as guys don’t.

    • Hmmm I see my friends also told me to use that or the word vibes.

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  • Dude… just answer her questions, why are you making such a big deal about it?

    • So, are my responses wrong?

  • how about, not so forward...

    how about "giving yourself and her a chance to get to know one another", first...

    don't get ahead so quick

    if they ask, are you looking for sex... don't say yes just like that lmfao, maybe try with...

    "that's something I could see happening eventually"

    • Oh, okay are my results just to forward?

    • way too forward, yes

  • Be 109% honest since you’re looking for a relationship. No need to be the least bit shy about it

    • So, are my responses wrong?

    • Your responses should be situation-dependent and are something you can develop a feel for. Don’t be afraid of mistakes either- if you aren’t making any, you aren’t going out if your comfort zone

    • Hmmm alright s what kinda of mistakes should I be making and when do I know I'm leaving out of my comfort zone?

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  • You are looking for a friend or maybe more.

    • Hmmm that doesn't sound like I will get a date like that?

  • Be direct. Saves time and effort.

  • Where is "here"?

  • That's fairly normal. Of course you want sex, but only insofar as it happens in a committed relationship. I was the same way. I wouldn't be with a girl just for sex. I. wanted it, but not alone. I wanted a girlfriend who wanted to have sex with me.

    • Yes, also somebody to have sex repeatedly and for maybe hours at a time. 🥰😍😍😍

    • Normal, if you can manage to last that long. I am not saying you can't, but some guys can't.

    • Okay.

  • Just say what your doing and looking for, if she not with it fuck her

  • kinky sex