Does my girlfriend have a right to be mad about this?

[Anonymous]

For context, she's white. So we were laying in bed and she asked me if she's the prettiest, tightest woman I had ever been with. Without thinking, I kind of laughed and said "You know I've dated Asian women before right?" She got really mad, called me a jerk and left my house. Now she's being all neurotic about it and she thinks I'm gonna leave her for an Asian woman, is she being ridiculous?

[watercolor_lions]

You're not gonna win this, because she was looking for a sense of security you can't give her.

Women often look for too much security in their partner, more than men do a lot. Every girl wants to be the hottest/sexiest girlfriend their partner has ever had, and it just can't happen like that all the time. I stopped asking questions like that because I can't be upset if they give me an honest answer, that is honestly irrelevant.

If you want out of this, you're going to have to humble yourself and apologize (even if you think you weren't wrong). You might also want to discourage her from asking those types of questions because if she wants an honest answer, you're going to give it to her, and it is unrealistic for you to think all of your previous partners were ugly. Tell her you think she's beautiful and wouldn't give her up for all the Asian girls in the world, and move on.

And by the way, we appreciate the compliment ;) (I'm Asian).

[Asker]

You make a lot of great points. I will apologize to her and honestly I hope she never asks about Asian women again. I do think Asian women are so beautiful. My first girlfriend ever was Asian, I loved her with all my heart and it took me a long time to get over her after we broke up. I'll just tell my current girlfriend that she's beautiful and keep my mouth shut from now on. Thanks.

[watercolor_lions]

If what you're saying is true, it'd be better than she doesn't know that information (at least for a while). She'll accuse you of not being over your ex, and that'll be another fight that might be even harder to get out of.

[watercolor_lions]

It's be better that*

[Asker]

That's probably a good idea. I won't even mention her or any of the other women I dated. I'm white too so she's probably thinking I'm obsessed with Asian women now. I think I may have hurt her feelings so I definitely can't tell her how much I loved some of the Asian women I dated. I told the truth about something I shouldn't have, and now I have to figure out where we're at.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

She was trying to be cute while soliciting a compliment from you. Instead, she got an insensitive remark from you. She doesn't have to get "neurotic" about it but she deserves an apology.

[Markm3212]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 i laughed so much at this... yeah she has a right to be mad at you.

its call a little white lie. when asked questions like this you just say yes.

if she asks does my ass look big in this, you dont reply. your ass looks big in everything. you say, honney you look lovely as always, if her ass does look big then you maybe make a suggestion of a new outfit not telling her she is fat.

so yes you need to do some making up and apologizing if you want your lady back

[IMuser]

The last thing a relationship needs is comparison. (Applicable for both men and women)

When women asks these types of questions, consider them rhetoric: they don't need an answer. Just physically tease her and cuddle. Don't speak.

As for her being right/wrong, there is no logical classification.

[horatiohornblower]

That's the kind of question which is a trap. If you said she was the prettiest and tightest. She wouldn't believe you and probably start arguing. It's called a loaded question.

It's sort of like "does this dress make me look fat?"
1. No: "Then it's me that makes me look fat."
2. Yes: "So, you think I'm fat."

[Prettygurl12]

Lmao dumbass.

[ChrisMaster69]

How to say you don’t know much about women without saying it.

[MCheetah]

It depends if she was asking you to get her to have sex, or if she wanted to know a 100% genuine answer. If it's the former, then... You done f*cked up.

[Aurora1010]

It was kind of rude how you said it

[slatyb]

It was a stupid question and a stupid answer.

[viaamtrak]

That ranks up there with the scene in the original "Ghostbusters" movie where teh demon asks Ray ," Are you a God?", to which Ray answers "No." Think before you speak.

[BrookJ2008]

Not to mention you having these pics...

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Nope, she doesn't.

I guarantee you you're not the only guy she's thirsting after but nobody here's ready for that discussion.

[AndrésC64]

That was a stupid and racist thing to say.

[Jamie05rhs]

So... your answer wasn't exactly wise or tactful.
But, then again, she did ask the question...

[Gal67]

I agree with her, you were being a jerk. You don't say things like that to women.

[Wise4myage]

B, that was a dumb ass thing to say.

[Shamalien]

LOL this is too funny. I mean it’s such a logical man answer and a classic example of something that would piss a woman off

[Asker]

Yes, she definitely got mad. In my my mind I was like "Hasn't she seen Asian women before?" I thought it was just common sense that they're gorgeous, but in retrospect I was being very insensitive and inconsiderate. I feel bad.

[boobliker]

insecurity makes girl mad

[cookiecrusher]

Ah well, she was feeling cute and tried to fish some compliments, but you hit her with the bitter truth😅

Just a minor miscommunication, she probably will retaliate in the future.

[Asker]

Yeah that's what I worry about. I may have won this battle, but I have a feeling the war isn't over. 😅

[cookiecrusher]

Over🤔? Hah, the war has only just begun😅

[CuriousMufuxka]

Why does it matter if she's white? She's a woman and will act irrationally anyway.

[In_Trance]

you're both idiots. this will never go away

[Asker]

I hope she just accepts it. I mean it's better than lying isn't it?

[888theGreat]

I would

[EnglishEuropean]

This whole story sounds crazy to me.