Should I be concerned from what she posted on Snapchat? Does this raise red flags?

So the girl I'm talking to jus posted this on snapchat. We've gone out once and are still talking but she posts things like this. she's answering questions on snapchat from the app Send it & someone asked her "So like you down for a friends with benefits?" and she responded with "Claim". so I'm trying to figure out if she's telling people to ask her and she picks the person to be the friends with benefits? is this a red flag? is this a cause for concern? but at the same time she also posts how she hates how guys treat her calling her a slut for these questions. But I also found this on her Facebook this is one of her quotes "Tinder is for hook ups only any guy who says they want a relationship just wants to secure the pussy" But yet I found her on Tinder it had her snapchat in her Bio & I started messaging her & we went out on a date & we didn't hook up. So im very confused please help me is this a red flag? 🚩🚩🚩 look at the pictures attached
Should I be concerned from what she posted on Snapchat? Does this raise red flags?
Should I be concerned from what she posted on Snapchat? Does this raise red flags?
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Also a lot of the time when i message her she responds with lol again and again but I keep the conversation going and I know she could have said something else besides responding with lol again and again it seems very cut-and-dry sometimes the conversation it seems like she doesn't put in any effort sometimes maybe she didn't know what to say but still at the same time responding with lol again and again
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But at the same time she had posted stuff in the past like if I date you my goal is to marry you, build with you, grow with u, I'm not dating u to past the time I see potential in you so that's where I'm confused because she post stuff like this and answers questions asking her if she's down for a friends-with-benefits saying claim
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  • Definitely man. All that she saying she takes it as a joke and not serious, she'll waste your time and play with your emotions that's the vibe i'm picking off from her. She's a little girl man with those childish quotes and games like that and you don't need to be bothered with that. I'm a guy who has had experiences with girls online and some were genuine and some weren't like a girl i dated who i thought was my whole world and everything until she went to hurt me and cheated on me and falling for her ex when we been together for nearly 2 years breaking my heart all over into pieces as she took me for a joke and a pushover until i decided to leave her and will not put up with her stupid nonsense. I learned the hard way and i'm still trying to heal within from the process but in your case, i suppose you're a nice young dude and you want to be seriously committed in a relationship, my advice to you is to go for women who are genuine and true for man in person face to face and not so much social like go walk around in the mall, park, or anywhere else but let them come to you instead of approaching them to see if they are interested in you for you and to not take you as a toy or object to play around with. You would want a woman who has the maturity and certainty to know what she wants, cherish and commit to you as her only man , have feelings towards you, and become her soon to be known husband and the father of y'all gorgeous children one day. Save yourself from being hurt and toyed with a girl who doesn't know what she wants and wants to play not wanting a real man in her life , just go out to meet women in person and not on social media... it's not worth it.

    • I got to ask how did she leave after being with you for two years

    • I mean she does message me every morning with you know that S on Snapchat for streaks I mean we were suppose to go on a date on sat she said she had family plan and said sorry so i said how about Wednesday cuz thats wen I get back into town and she said yes my plans was for on the 2nd or 3rd date ask so what are u looking for? Are you looking for a long-term relationship or are you just looking to have fun? Cuz I'm looking for a long-term.

    • We was in a long distance relationship while we lived in different states. She didn't care how long we would've been together that if something didn't seem right , she'd break it off she wouldn't care. But the thing was she never was gonna tell me about having feelings for her ex and would've let me on to wait to tell me plus she did things sneaky things behind my back that made me lose trust in her and told me and hurt me so much that the love i had trying to hold it all together and the relationship... it was hopeless. She also said that was the stupidest thing ever in relationship i have had that she said i had to fight for her against her ex to win her heart while i have been with her the whole year and i'm like is you really serious right now? He had manipulated her telling her things to believe it cause that's just how gullible and naive she was as she is a preacher's kid anyway. She started talking to him again during the month of my birthday that i didn't even knew about so i broke up with her right then and then try to get in touch with me crying and everything to put a guilt trip on me to talk and unblock her because she didn't have her way to do what she said but she noticed i wasn't gonna play those games with her and i meant it when i wanted something with this girl but she didn't care and love me as much as i loved and cared for her. She took my kindness and love for granted and that's why i've been giving relationships a break.

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  • It doesn't seem like she actually wants something serious right now.

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  • She is most probably inconsistent. She doesn't know what she wants. She's just playing. She's thinking it's fun to play. If she's your girlfriend, you have a right to put firm boundaries not to repeat them next time or else you gonna break up with her. Give her 2 to 3 warnings. If she continues the same, you can feel guarantee that she will cheat on you at any point so that time after giving 2 to 3 warnings, if she doesn't change then break up with her. Tell her your concerns, have a clear conversation with her. Say her it's not funny. And express your insecurities, if she understands you, she will change or else she won't

    • Well she's not my girlfriend yet we've only gone out once but we're still talking but that just raised some red flags in my opinion like she's always posting stuff like that like right now she just posted "50%50% chance I might get my tits pierced" (people have asked her to post a picture of herself in lingerie, a picture of her ass, a picture of her boobs (no nipples were shown), to "prove" they were really that big and she did post all that stuff) said she's not a slut and it gets mad when a guys on Snap call her a hoe but yet she post stuff like this is it just to get attention is it more I don't know I'm assuming she's doing it cuz likes the attention. My plan was on the second or third date to ask her so what are you looking for? looking to just have fun or like a relationship? cuz that's what Im looking for and I don't want to be pushy cuz we only went out once but once we do established that were boyfriend and girlfriend I would ask her "hey so all the stuff that you post on snap is it just for attention? Cuz I know you got a lot all responses from guys but if I'm going to be a boyfriend it kind of makes me uncomfortable like you shouldn't be looking for attention from other guys if you have attention from me boyfriend u kno.

    • Yes express her the same and ask her the same

    • I will now only time will tell I guess going forward

  • It doesn't sound like she is super interested in you, honey 😕 if she's responding with lols, then she is just being polite by not ignoring you.

    You probably don't want to be with her anyway, if she's open to friends with benefits, it's possible you'll get used by her. Especially if she isn't interested in anything serious.

    How did your date go?

    • @watercolor_lions the date went really well we went to eat we talked a lot I got a kiss at the end of the date asked her if I could see her again she said yes we're still messaging as we speak but yeah there's just not a lot of effort on her end maybe she doesn't know what to say I've ran into girls that just don't know what to say or expect the guy to do everything she does snap me every morning with that S you know for streaks one example I can give you is she was at the movie theaters recently and she said it was scary I said If I was there I'd be holding you and protecting you I sent a few memes a couples holding hands you know cute shit and she just put lol again that was another red flag but I'm still pushing and I haven't gotten any really you know push back as far as saying no it's more of just nothing really not positive not negative I did ask her out on a second date we were supposed to go out on Saturday but she had family plans she said sorry i said okai how about Wednesday cuz that's wen i get back to town she said ok

    • *, I sent a few memes of couples holding hands and cuddling at the movie theater

    • I'll be honest: I have no idea what to say. If the date went well, but she doesn't text anything much (besides lol), maybe she just isn't much of a texter. Some people are more talkative in person than over text.

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  • Major redflags. I guarantee you will be wasting your time if you continue whatever this is.

  • She likes you that's why she tells you that
    But I think you don't exite her much
    So she posts stuffs like to this to get some bad boy vibes and fun etc etc

    • I see well I mean she posts she's bored and to ask her questions and always you know gets naughty questions from horny guys i see another girl said she could do it just cuz she's bored but nothing serious but it could all be true you know at the same time I said okay

    • I guess I can't excite her a bunch over text but I can in person everything went really well a lot of energy a lot of back and forth