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Is this abuse? Is my husband right?

My husband is constantly criticizing my body, my face, my legs, everything about me, he always tell me that my opinion or what I think is not important, he get this anger that scares me, he push me a few months ago and I hit my head on the dresser, he told me it was my fault.
My marriage is a constant reminder of my imperfections as a woman, he told me that he don’t have sex with me, because I am to skinny. We have a daughter and he threatens me that he is going to take her away, if I don’t accept the way he want our marriage to be, part of that is accepting him having sex and threesomes in our house, usually his best friend share his girls with him, and they record everything, and I have to accept it, otherwise I’m not going to be able of see my daughter grow up, I’m a good mom, I try everyday.
I always struggle with my weight, I can’t do anything about it, I eat healthy and I still skinny, and my husband hates it.
he is used to Escorts, and white girls with beautiful bodies, I’m Colombian I’m not like that, I got a question here too about it, but he told me that I need to be like a “white girl”. He is into hardcore sex, and threesomes, orgies, I’m not into that, but anyway he never mention anything to me, he just tell me that I disgusted him because I’m not like the woman he is used to. He was a drug dealer on his younger days, so the girls that he used to hangout and have sex with they did everything for drugs, or being just around them, I know that for white man, and for Americans maybe, obviously white woman are somehow superior than Hispanic woman, but why
this constant reminder of how insignificant I am, is making me feel sick, and depressed.
I just want to know if I have the problem? If he is right.
I’m sorry for my writing, English is my second language.
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  • Fuuck in a society where everyone is so dammn fat, I thought he was gonna say the opposite that you're too fat.

    I think you secretly get turned on by how dominant and strict he is though. I'm into all that sh-t too the 0rgies, whips, chains, cuffs, threesomes, etc.. but it's in a BDSM context. I'm usually more strict and rough with chics who are average or below average looking, so he must see you as average for him to be that way. DM me and I'll be brutally honest if I think he sees you as average looking.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Why did you marry a man with such a dirty past? Why are you putting up with all this for your daughter? Why don't you take shelter in your family? If your family takes care of you, you can take your daughter away from that dirty man. Being humiliated every day makes depression worse. And you feel like a useless nothing. Try to get rid of this gross man as soon as possible. Otherwise, he may try to present both you and your daughter to other men in the future. Because he doesn't seem like a good man according to your story.

    • Well, she is essentially alone in a new country, if I read her right. I think her family is all back in Colombia.

    • @Curmudgeon I thought the Colombian one was the woman. By the way, you are a very nice gentleman, I didn't want to go without saying.

  • I checked "No" and I'm sure another girl did also because your last question was "I just want to know if I have the problem?" but then when I looked at the main question I realized that the answer to that is YES!
    YES, This is abuse on a massive scale.
    Go immediately to the nearest Women's and Children's Shelter and seek advice and help! ... I AM NOT KIDDING! DO THIS TODAY!!

    Is this abuse? Is my husband right?Is this abuse? Is my husband right?

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  • Yes, it's abuse.

    Unfortunately, you choose a man based on his physical attractiveness and/or his financial status, but without regard to his morals or values. He clearly has ghetto values, and men like that rarely make good husbands. They're selfish, self-centered, and only care about today, and rarely consider the future, especially if they have to give up something today.

    Your husband is toxic, and you need to get away from him.

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  • Yes it is abusive…. You need to leave him and take your child with you.

    • I wish I could. 😔

  • In your earlier post, you just seemed "vaguely dissatisfied" as all too many women sadly are, and I would have urged you to stick it out. But with this additional information, GTFO, as we Americans say. Even if somehow he can have you deported, you are better off in the old country than you are staying here with this abusive scumbag.

    • Note to downvoter: I was urging her to break free, and was speculating about why she might stay, namely, he holds the power of her visa to stay in the USA from Colombia. Why the frown? Moreover, in an age of epidemic obesity in the USA, rest assured lots of American men would like up for a slender Colombiana. And she is only 18-24, where slimness comes easy, so this guy is a whackjob as well as a wifebeater.

  • That's unacceptable behavior on every level! You should consider leaving this person, before your child gets emotionally or physically harmed.

  • no he is not right, yes it is kinda abuse.

  • You need a lawyer and a womens rescue. Seek help - IMMEDIATELY. Before something worse happens to you. NOW.

  • Do you have friends or family that can help you?

  • Yes, it's clearly abuse, and NO, your husband is all way wrong.

    I suggest you to get help from an NGO, or from a guvernamental program; your family (if its in fact supportive and not apatic), or close friends. Either way, you need to get away from him, and I mean, you really do need to get away from him. Things will not get better for you if you stay numb to the situation. You gotta gather strenght and move out; take the esential, forget everything else.

    • *There is physical, psychological and a possible other type, named in Spanish: violencia vicaria.

    • Do you have a job?

  • verbal abuse is not abuse in a sense that you should get a restraining order but if he makes you unhappy with how he treats/talks to you then talk to him about it first if he doesn't make an effot file for divorce


  • No he is rude and disrespectful you deserve better but if he wants
    you suck his cock and swallowing his cum then you fine dump his ass
    find a man who will eat your pussy and look in your eyes and kiss your Lucious lips

  • He is wrong and that is abuse.

  • What in the fuck? Is this real?

  • why you got married at such a young age, i dk

  • Yes this is verbal and emotional abuse. He is not write to do that to you.

  • Yes it is abuse... No your husband is NOT right

  • I missed the part where thats my problem.

    • Lame sexist bitter clown.

    • @Aphrodite801 304 identified.

  • Yes it is. Sounds like you’re easily manipulated too. Your the woman in the relationship which basically gives you all the rights to take the kid away from him.

  • I would make attempt to audio record these threats.

  • Ok, so your poll (vote) is broken because you asked 2 opposite questions.

    YES it is abuse, NO your husband is not right.

    Im really sorry to hear you are in this situation, thats awful, you need to get out because this is just going to get worse.

    That guy is a fucking piece of shit, I hope he goes missing presumed dead soon.

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