Watching porn in relationship?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys,
I have question. Is the problem that fight with my boyfriend because he watches porn and naked grils on the internet. We are together from 7 years

[ItsyBitsySpider]

For me personally, watching porn isn't cheating, both me and my partner watch it on occasion, it doesn't bother us. Our only boundary is that we don't talk directly to the people who make it (no sexting etc) and no buying.

If watching porn is a boundary for you and you class it as cheating, that is fine but you need to set that as a boundary. He can then choose if he wants to respect it or not (same for you if he sets a boundary). If he wants to continue to watch porn then you need to enforce your boundary and leave the relationship.

You can't control him, you can't force him to stop watching porn but you can set boundaries and you can follow through with leaving if a boundary isn't respected.

[Aethereal]

I don't think it's a question of whether it's "normal" or not. It's about the boundaries you set in the relationship. This is something that is normal to some and abnormal to others, just as looking at, and/or flirting with strangers in front of your partner is normal to some, and abnormal to others. I for example, find it abnormal to be watching porn in a relationship. "Why do you need to look at other people when you have me" is what I'd think. I accept that others might attack me for being insecure or whatever, but that is a boundary I am simply not okay with being crossed.

If you are not okay with it, communicate this to your partner, and see what can be done about this to reach a result that leaves you both happy.

[VikingWarLord]

If he watches porn he most likely thinks you look average or below average. I've done the same, even cheated if I'm in a relationship with a chic who isn't that hot. I'd have to see a pic to know if this is what he's doin. Send me a DM and I'll be brutally honest about what might be goin through his head. I think I'm right though.

[Anonymous]

I still watch porn even when in a relationship myself and same thing with my boyfriend, we’re both very open about it tho. He would sometimes share the porn that he watched with me and I would share what I watched and what I wanted to try the next time around with him so it’s a win win

[laurieluvsit]

It is more than normal, it is an obsession with millions.

Some studies show that church people, and even some church leadership, have and/or do watch it on the sly... I am not kidding!

[DeeDeeDeVour]

It's normal & "healthy" with us.

[modeve]

Nothing to worry. It's normal habit of guys.

[Gwenhwyfar]

It’s ok on occasion but if he’s obsessed with it that’s a problem

[HeartBreaker007]

It’s considered cheating. You can ban these sites from your service provider.

[ering987]

try watching with him my boyfriend and I love watching porn together

[Wise4myage]

Normal, and don't expect him to change after that long.

[Naughtyboy71]

They are times both watching

[Rudon00]

I don't see why he should be watching porn when he has you the real thing infront of him

[2021biguy]

Try watching it together with him.

[Joshua0213]

Its normal if you aren't into sex every day. What else am I supposed to do :)

[Waldoe]

guys are very Visual, we don't get mad when you listen to music

[Atlantafreak69]

I use watch all kinds with my x girlfriend was turn on n we role play etc

[Zygum]

Porn is sex guide, to teach for better sex, so watch and learn

[Anonymous]

Well if he was hella into you. The most beautiful girl in the world to him then he wouldn’t do it. But maybe you’re just not having sex enough?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my Girl for 8 years and I still watch porn because of LD and I am sexually active and have a very high sex drive where I need to empty out my sacks daily so yes. but I refrain from watching porn 1 month in advance when I know she is coming to my town to meet me.. so yeah I still watch it with her together and we talk about it or watch it together and have sex at the same time so there is understanding in our relationship.. As long as I'm not fucking some other girl, she is okay with it..

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I watch together. But every relationship is different. If you don't like it make him respect it or find someone who will respect your wishes.

[Anonymous]

All guys watch porn. Married, single, every guy watches other naked women.

[Anonymous]

Guys like looking at naked women including porn. Consider watching it with him if you're also into it. If he's addicted he should seek professional help.