I rely on him a lot but he just uses me for sex?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy 6 months ago and we have spoken every single day non stop since. He always tells me to go see him and we just have sex I sleep over then he makes me catch the cab home at like 6am. I always see women’s stuff in his house too and he’s always spending time with his baby mama. I know major red flag I’m aware of it but I just don’t have the courage to let him go since it’s been so long? How do I get used to just not talking to someone? We have really good sex and we are very sexually compatible but I think he only speaks to me for that. It’s been 6 months with promises of dates that he’s never took me on or out in public. I pay 30 to go and see him since he lives quite far and I just feel like there’s no appreciation. He says there is but he dosent do anything for me or come to see me ever. It just gets me quite sad I’ve told him and he sends me paragraphs but he never changes. How do I let go if I’m so attatched to him. He has 3 kids and I have none and there’s a big age gap and I feel just like I’m getting used. He still sleeps with his baby mom too and I’ve heard she lives with him.

[kellytheman]

First off way too many red flags. He has three kids, big age gap, not take you in a date, sleeps with his baby mama still , and doesn't appreciate you you do not just let him go you need to dump his ass. Then is not a healthy relationship if even a relationship. He is just using you for sex. Trust me there is way more better guys than this guy. There is guy who will appreciate you and treat you the way you should be treated and go in public with. Also I pretty sure you can find a guy who will be better at sex than him.

[OlderAndWiser]

So you know all the reasons why you shouldn't be doing this and you insist on doing it anyway, so what is your question?

[Buntyp]

So what's your question? Are you being unfaithful to yourself? If that's the question, the answer is yes.
You really need to have more pride in yourself, or, as someone wrote somewhere else, put a higher price on your self-esteem. Right now, could you be making it any easier for him to treat you the way he does?
It's your life, so you can do what you want, but you'll have to live with the consequences.

[Wise4myage]

Then why are you still with him?

[Asker]

I just think I’m attatched to speaking to him but I’m not really sure on how to let go of him I’m finding it hard and I know that I’ll be upset for a while which I don’t want to be. I want him to take me out but I’ve asked him and it’s not happened I’m not sure if I should ask again? He might just think he dosent need too since I’m always so quick to go visit him?

[Wise4myage]

You should see a therapist.

[Asker]

Why do you say that lol

[Wise4myage]

Because you admit to him using you and yet you still can't walk away.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he hit the jackpot finding you. Give him a high five from me the next time you go see him for sex

[Anonymous]

You are just a side chick for sex that’s why he doesn’t take you out on dates, just find another booty call to get over him, it’s not going anywhere unless you just want sex

[Anonymous]

Just stop having sex with him, my god it's not that complicated. He's a damn train wreck! Do you really hate yourself this much?

[Anonymous]

He only use you. You deserve something better

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. If ever there was proof of women's bad choices.