Would you ever sleep with your friend?

[lilyanony1]

I have done recently. I've known this person for a really long time like say 2014.

We were always just friends never had any romantic Incling.

He's older and always been supportive of me. And I've been the same for him.

I won't go into details, but I guess life, covid and a mutual interest sparked something between us.

It's been a one off for now.

We're still the best of friends.

Will it happen again?

I'm sure he probably wouldn't mind but for now I'm kind of OK with how things are.

My itch was scratched. And very well!

[AimeeKyle]

I did once, it was a very playful experience.

We were friends for a couple years in college. Talked about everything under the sun and would have drinks together from time to time. We both had just broke up with our respective boyfriend / GFs. Although my breakup happened that morning (and I had slept with my girlfriend the night before - and my friend knew that). As we drank more and more we both got a little more touchy and we ultimately started playing and then had sex. She laughingly gave me a hard time (as she was riding on top of me) about having sex with two different girls in consecutive nights…. It was a playful / fun experience.

It never happened again and we remained friends. I ultimately introduced her to her future husband.

[ARWINGx1]

(I'm pretty sure you're referring to those of the opposite gender?)
I'd say that it's very likely that I'd be ok with that. (maybe even more?)

The "older" the friendship, the more likely. 'cause of things like, how "dirty" either (or both) of us can be. I mean, the friend would've been aware of it, and thus (either) not offended by it, or are "ok" with it.

[CrazyGirl2]

Eh? I suppose if he did something so awful that there was just no way possible to salvage the friendship… maybe? I mean, he’s already completely destroyed the friendship, so it’s pretty much the exactly same as if we DID fuck, so I see no reason why we couldn’t have sex?

[sophiejo]

This is how the best "relationship" (kinda friends with benefits, kinda open relationship thing I don't know) I've ever had began so if there's a genuine attraction between you why not try as long as you both agree that if it doesn't work Oh well at least you tried

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope. First, I don’t sleep with anyone unless I am in a relationship with them.

Plus, If I was single, I already made a mistake of friend zoning some people I didn’t really want to put into friend zone. But I was scared of rejection and heart break. So I wouldn’t do it anymore. No mind games. I would tell then straightforward that I liked them and then we can decide from there on.

[JDAC2209199]

Yeah but probably only once anymore and it could compromise the friendship unless that's all you're getting from it. Hell even once could be too much it'd have to be like a mutual one off or something you couldn't have either side left in the grey to what's going on between you two.

[Curmudgeon]

The pros and cons:
PRO: Two lonely people bonding for intimacy and warmth (especially wintertime) and affection.
CON: Sex DOES change things between people. It might your former friendship better, or it might make it worse, but it WILL make it *different* going forwards.

[SenileOldMan]

I am an alcoholic. Alcohol presents opportunities. You conflate the warmth of your best friend to love. And you like the way she touches you and kisses you, and you are too drunk to think twice about it. You conflate the warmth of what she represents to you as a friend and forget everything else. Regret the next day.

[sean1234]

Isn't that how it's supposed to happen? I don't necessarily know about the "sleeping with" part, but, why would I sleep with a woman I just met? This is part of the reason why I'm still single. I can't get to like a woman I just met, I just can't, she's a stranger. To make it worse, women, just like men these days are sex crazed maniacs. 🤷‍♂️

[Djmbbasgerd]

hell naw, that would be gay as fuck n weird as hell... wait, u mean a female friend that im attracted to? i dont consider that a friend, i consider that a crush, maybe technically she's called friend but to me, friends are people ur not attracted to, so i consider her a crush, so the question is would u sleep with crush? think everyone would

[kellytheman]

I have and we became a friend with benefits with her. It was just sex and after we stopped and decided it ran it course we stayed good friends. We kinda did cause we wanted to practice so we was good for people we really liked. We are still good friends.

[laurieluvsit]

I do. He is a friends with benefits. A handsome Slavic boy that I have known for a long time.

Is that bad?

[dustybiker]

I’m not sexually attracted to my friends which is why they are friends.

[Gb-Fan]

I can’t say that I would be won’t say never. I do have a story of when a good friend of mine ( still friends to this day). Back in my early 20’a we were drinking and was the end of the night and got talking sexual about things and our selves and we agreed to show each other. It was crazy we to this day joke about it

[Twalli]

Sleep with, yes. Have sex with, no. I don't have sex outside of a relationship. I don't date anyone who isn't already a friend, so I am dating and having sex with a friend currently. We've been dating for a longer time than we've been friends without dating.

[DaveJord]

Totally I would, I have never been friends with a women I did not find sexually attractive and as a man I would totally risk the relationship for sex, if I thought we had a chance at a future together.

[jaybee281]

I already have - it was stupid - We're not friends anymore - well we haven't been friends for 5 years but still I'm never pulling off any friends with benefits thing because I really cared for her as a friend

[joshctlee]

Me personally no. My best friend is a girl I dated before and we had sex while dating. But turns out I’m not her type and we’re best friends now and I wouldn’t sleep with her because once we build that friendship bond the attraction goes out the window.

[IAmMichael]

Depends on the friend. Some of them I would, some I know it would damage the friendship, some I know would be having self-worth issues and feeling like a whore, and some... well, let's just say some of them are not my friends for their looks.

[DevinAM]

Yeah, I have a couple friends I'd be open to.
Assuming you mean sexually I kind of have a possible agreement with one of them (to be fair we dated for a time, though we only rp'd) in case my attempt at a relationship with someone I'm currently dating doesn't work out.

[midnightmoon05]

No. I only share my body with the one I love and eventually marry. friends… because I don’t want to share my body with them.

[UndercastHorizon]

I have slept with my best friend multiple times and continue to do so. We have a lot of trust and love between us and great sex.

When either of us is in a relationship we don't fool around we respect each other.

Over time we have a developed an interest love for each other that is a heavy mix of love in a serious relationship and fun free flowing sexual list and pleasure. But it has taken a lot of understanding of that relationship and talking to get to this level.

[LovingJo]

Yes, but by personal experience it doesn't usually end well - with the friendship usually ending.
So if you do go ahead, make sure you've thought long and hard about the potential consequences.